Divorcing empty nesters...
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Joey Deacon said:
For any guys reading this who are thinking of getting married do not think this won't happen to you, do not think your perfect little snow flake is different because she loves you. The reality is once they are bored and fancy getting back on the carousel they will convince themselves it is all your fault and that they deserve to keep everything and make you suffer as much as possible.
Strangely enough I have had a message from my ex wife telling me that her current wallet has proposed and she said yes. He only divorced his wife a year or two ago, personally I think he is nuts but good luck to him, she is totally his problem now he is taking her over 100%!
Second marriages have a 67% chance of failure so once he is paying for two ex wives he is never going to be able to retire while my ex wife gets double bubble!
Remember women don't marry for money they divorce for it.
Thankfully my OH and hopefully future wife earns considerably more than me Strangely enough I have had a message from my ex wife telling me that her current wallet has proposed and she said yes. He only divorced his wife a year or two ago, personally I think he is nuts but good luck to him, she is totally his problem now he is taking her over 100%!
Second marriages have a 67% chance of failure so once he is paying for two ex wives he is never going to be able to retire while my ex wife gets double bubble!
Remember women don't marry for money they divorce for it.
t happens. It is caused by men and by women.Joey Deacon said:
For any guys reading this who are thinking of getting married do not think this won't happen to you, do not think your perfect little snow flake is different because she loves you. The reality is once they are bored and fancy getting back on the carousel they will convince themselves it is all your fault and that they deserve to keep everything and make you suffer as much as possible.
It's my 30th wedding anniversary next year. Can you give me some kind of indication as to when this will happen to me. The uncertainty is killing me. TwigtheWonderkid said:
Joey Deacon said:
For any guys reading this who are thinking of getting married do not think this won't happen to you, do not think your perfect little snow flake is different because she loves you. The reality is once they are bored and fancy getting back on the carousel they will convince themselves it is all your fault and that they deserve to keep everything and make you suffer as much as possible.
It's my 30th wedding anniversary next year. Can you give me some kind of indication as to when this will happen to me. The uncertainty is killing me. On the other hand, you should monitor your ears closely - first sign of hair there, and it is inevitable that you will buy a Harley, and have inappropriate thoughts about young people.
For a bit of balance, my dad was an arse when my mum left him after 27 years of marriage.
She left as she just had just fallen out of love with him and they were both very different people, she also had to live with his past indiscretions, which I think really screwed her up inside, she left him when my younger sister went off to Uni.
Dad took it extremely badly but wouldn't accept that he was largely to blame so he felt very, very wronged.
Mum just wanted enough out of the house, so that she could set up again, she had her own pension, she didn't want any of his or his possessions, she just wanted a clean break and enough to buy somewhere modest and out of the area due to price.
It got very nasty on my dads side, he threatened to stop working, he was very friendly with his GP who; it transpires, was willing to sign him off work permanently due to ill health and if this happened, dad was pushing for a monthly "allowance" from my mum so that he could live.
In the end due to all the stress, mum caved and took a much smaller figure from the house; dad re-mortgaged to pay her off, he carried on working and taking his pension, my mum had to take a small mortgage to make up the difference.
She left as she just had just fallen out of love with him and they were both very different people, she also had to live with his past indiscretions, which I think really screwed her up inside, she left him when my younger sister went off to Uni.
Dad took it extremely badly but wouldn't accept that he was largely to blame so he felt very, very wronged.
Mum just wanted enough out of the house, so that she could set up again, she had her own pension, she didn't want any of his or his possessions, she just wanted a clean break and enough to buy somewhere modest and out of the area due to price.
It got very nasty on my dads side, he threatened to stop working, he was very friendly with his GP who; it transpires, was willing to sign him off work permanently due to ill health and if this happened, dad was pushing for a monthly "allowance" from my mum so that he could live.
In the end due to all the stress, mum caved and took a much smaller figure from the house; dad re-mortgaged to pay her off, he carried on working and taking his pension, my mum had to take a small mortgage to make up the difference.
Joey Deacon said:
For any guys reading this who are thinking of getting married do not think this won't happen to you, do not think your perfect little snow flake is different because she loves you. The reality is once they are bored and fancy getting back on the carousel they will convince themselves it is all your fault and that they deserve to keep everything and make you suffer as much as possible.
Strangely enough I have had a message from my ex wife telling me that her current wallet has proposed and she said yes. He only divorced his wife a year or two ago, personally I think he is nuts but good luck to him, she is totally his problem now he is taking her over 100%!
Second marriages have a 67% chance of failure so once he is paying for two ex wives he is never going to be able to retire while my ex wife gets double bubble!
Remember women don't marry for money they divorce for it.
That is a really sad place to be at - not all men and not all women are the same. However what I will say is that how you get your woman is how you typically lose her.Strangely enough I have had a message from my ex wife telling me that her current wallet has proposed and she said yes. He only divorced his wife a year or two ago, personally I think he is nuts but good luck to him, she is totally his problem now he is taking her over 100%!
Second marriages have a 67% chance of failure so once he is paying for two ex wives he is never going to be able to retire while my ex wife gets double bubble!
Remember women don't marry for money they divorce for it.
HTP99 said:
For a bit of balance, my dad was an arse when my mum left him after 27 years of marriage.
She left as she just had just fallen out of love with him and they were both very different people, she also had to live with his past indiscretions, which I think really screwed her up inside, she left him when my younger sister went off to Uni.
Dad took it extremely badly but wouldn't accept that he was largely to blame so he felt very, very wronged.
Mum just wanted enough out of the house, so that she could set up again, she had her own pension, she didn't want any of his or his possessions, she just wanted a clean break and enough to buy somewhere modest and out of the area due to price.
It got very nasty on my dads side, he threatened to stop working, he was very friendly with his GP who; it transpires, was willing to sign him off work permanently due to ill health and if this happened, dad was pushing for a monthly "allowance" from my mum so that he could live.
In the end due to all the stress, mum caved and took a much smaller figure from the house; dad re-mortgaged to pay her off, he carried on working and taking his pension, my mum had to take a small mortgage to make up the difference.
Jeez!! How's your relationship with your dad?She left as she just had just fallen out of love with him and they were both very different people, she also had to live with his past indiscretions, which I think really screwed her up inside, she left him when my younger sister went off to Uni.
Dad took it extremely badly but wouldn't accept that he was largely to blame so he felt very, very wronged.
Mum just wanted enough out of the house, so that she could set up again, she had her own pension, she didn't want any of his or his possessions, she just wanted a clean break and enough to buy somewhere modest and out of the area due to price.
It got very nasty on my dads side, he threatened to stop working, he was very friendly with his GP who; it transpires, was willing to sign him off work permanently due to ill health and if this happened, dad was pushing for a monthly "allowance" from my mum so that he could live.
In the end due to all the stress, mum caved and took a much smaller figure from the house; dad re-mortgaged to pay her off, he carried on working and taking his pension, my mum had to take a small mortgage to make up the difference.
garyhun said:
HTP99 said:
For a bit of balance, my dad was an arse when my mum left him after 27 years of marriage.
She left as she just had just fallen out of love with him and they were both very different people, she also had to live with his past indiscretions, which I think really screwed her up inside, she left him when my younger sister went off to Uni.
Dad took it extremely badly but wouldn't accept that he was largely to blame so he felt very, very wronged.
Mum just wanted enough out of the house, so that she could set up again, she had her own pension, she didn't want any of his or his possessions, she just wanted a clean break and enough to buy somewhere modest and out of the area due to price.
It got very nasty on my dads side, he threatened to stop working, he was very friendly with his GP who; it transpires, was willing to sign him off work permanently due to ill health and if this happened, dad was pushing for a monthly "allowance" from my mum so that he could live.
In the end due to all the stress, mum caved and took a much smaller figure from the house; dad re-mortgaged to pay her off, he carried on working and taking his pension, my mum had to take a small mortgage to make up the difference.
Jeez!! How's your relationship with your dad?She left as she just had just fallen out of love with him and they were both very different people, she also had to live with his past indiscretions, which I think really screwed her up inside, she left him when my younger sister went off to Uni.
Dad took it extremely badly but wouldn't accept that he was largely to blame so he felt very, very wronged.
Mum just wanted enough out of the house, so that she could set up again, she had her own pension, she didn't want any of his or his possessions, she just wanted a clean break and enough to buy somewhere modest and out of the area due to price.
It got very nasty on my dads side, he threatened to stop working, he was very friendly with his GP who; it transpires, was willing to sign him off work permanently due to ill health and if this happened, dad was pushing for a monthly "allowance" from my mum so that he could live.
In the end due to all the stress, mum caved and took a much smaller figure from the house; dad re-mortgaged to pay her off, he carried on working and taking his pension, my mum had to take a small mortgage to make up the difference.
anonymous said:
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It's amazing how two people who were so deeply in love with each, can then go to the opposite extreme and do some really horrible things to try to hurt the other person. I can appreciate if a 3rd party is involved and hence there is a sense of betrayal, but outside of that it really baffles me.Gassing Station | The Lounge | Top of Page | What's New | My Stuff