Marriage Breakdown

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blindswelledrat

25,257 posts

232 months

Tuesday 30th August 2016
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Ari said:
blindswelledrat said:
Good idea. Good luck to you, hope it pans out for both of you.
Don't worry about the 'other-man' decriers on here. PH doesn't really like women so it has to be her fault somehow and that is the easy way to make it her fault.
I certainly don't disagree with you about the misogyny from the PH socially inept (I still chuckle about the ones that genuinely seemed to think it was a good idea to send potential dates who they've never met photos of their cocks! biggrin )

But putting that aside, when a wife suddenly goes cold, moves out to 'get some space' and deletes two years of Facebook history for no obvious reason, it's not exactly a massive leap.

I wish the OP all the luck and really hope it works out for him, and that his wife is 'the exception that proves the rule'.
Even if she does have another bloke, I believe the marriage was over the moment he tried to make her son's death about him and his feelings, without any consideration for what she is going through. If there is another bloke, the OP deserves it as his behaviour and selfishness has been on a scale that I cant get my head around

xjay1337

15,966 posts

118 months

Tuesday 30th August 2016
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No-one deserves to be cheated on! Who the f**k deserves that!?

Irrespective of what they have done. If you are unhappy in a relationship, LEAVE IT, and then pursue new partners.
That is the respectful thing to do. There is no excuse to do otherwise. If you don't, you are simply weak.

Finding another partner, fooling around for a bit and then letting your existing relationship "go cold" because you are too much of a chicken to commit to one partner or another is a vile thing to do.

(I am not defending the OP's lack of empathy given or inferred towards the passing of his Wifes child).

BuzzBravado

2,944 posts

171 months

Tuesday 30th August 2016
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Se7enheaven said:
..... she had cleared off with my boy. And I haven't seem him since.

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Probably my biggest fear in life. Is she stopping you, or you don't know where he is? Are you going through the courts to get access?


blindswelledrat

25,257 posts

232 months

Tuesday 30th August 2016
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xjay1337 said:
No-one deserves to be cheated on! Who the f**k deserves that!?

Irrespective of what they have done. If you are unhappy in a relationship, LEAVE IT, and then pursue new partners.
That is the respectful thing to do. There is no excuse to do otherwise. If you don't, you are simply weak.

Finding another partner, fooling around for a bit and then letting your existing relationship "go cold" because you are too much of a chicken to commit to one partner or another is a vile thing to do.

(I am not defending the OP's lack of empathy given or inferred towards the passing of his Wifes child).
Agreed. Similarly I am not defending her if she did, merely reinforcing my opinion that the marriage has been doomed for a long time.

HighwayStar

4,266 posts

144 months

Friday 2nd September 2016
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Are we to assume there was no fairy tale happy ending?

C'mon fella, is it small steps rebuilding a life together or moving on separately?

stuttgartmetal

8,108 posts

216 months

Sunday 4th September 2016
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Stay strong
Eat
Sleep
Don't lose your job
Tell your boss
Unburden to someone
Don't lose your kids
You'll get through it.

Wikivorce.com

Good luck buddy.