Anyone post 35 and childless

Anyone post 35 and childless

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Chris7865677

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211 posts

91 months

Monday 19th September 2016
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Anyone on here post 35 with no kids? Anyone not want any? I am 46 and childless. Never been married and wouldn't have kids with just anyone. Although I did always want them. No friends in the same boat as me. Everyone has kids. So I have very little in common with people my own age. I do worry about the future though without anyone there when I am old and no chance of ever being a grandparent. How many on here are childless in my age bracket? Did you decide that u never wanted any or did it just not happen?

creampuff

6,511 posts

142 months

Monday 19th September 2016
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So you would be open to the idea of children with the right person?

Chris7865677

Original Poster:

211 posts

91 months

Monday 19th September 2016
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creampuff said:
So you would be open to the idea of children with the right person?
Yes definitely. Just think it's unlikely to now. In an ideal world I would have had all my children by now.

creampuff

6,511 posts

142 months

Monday 19th September 2016
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Chris7865677 said:
Yes definitely. Just think it's unlikely to now. In an ideal world I would have had all my children by now.
No 30-something ladies who you think are ok?

If you want to meet people, go online. You can get a good idea after 3 or so emails that they aren't a freak and that both of you have similar things in mind, though only meeting in person will tell you if you get on or not.

Edited by creampuff on Monday 19th September 15:47

amancalledrob

1,248 posts

133 months

Monday 19th September 2016
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I'm 39 next month. I always wanted to have at least one by age 35 with the idea that I'd be "only" about 53ish by the time said kid left school. Hasn't happened though. My OH is 12 years younger than me and has a career that's just starting to go well so of course while we both want kids I don't want that to have a negative effect on her achieving her career goals.

We've discussed it and we'll probably be giving it a go in 2018. I've coped with the change of plan mentally by just deciding to work to her timescale instead of mine - I look and feel younger than I am so that makes it a bit easier. Still jealous of those around me who have popped a couple out though!

Johnnytheboy

24,498 posts

185 months

Monday 19th September 2016
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43, in a relationship for 21 years.

Never wanted kids, never had any.

smile

andy-xr

13,204 posts

203 months

Monday 19th September 2016
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You the guy who's still hung up on the ex from 30 years ago arent you?

What gives?

DaveGoddard

1,192 posts

144 months

Monday 19th September 2016
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I'm 30, have never had a relationship and never want one, never mind children.

Chris7865677

Original Poster:

211 posts

91 months

Monday 19th September 2016
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creampuff said:
Chris7865677 said:
Yes definitely. Just think it's unlikely to now. In an ideal world I would have had all my children by now.
No 30-something ladies who you think are ok?
No noone

Chris7865677

Original Poster:

211 posts

91 months

Monday 19th September 2016
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andy-xr said:
You the guy who's still hung up on the ex from 30 years ago arent you?

What gives?

Yes I am. Well remembered

Pothole

34,367 posts

281 months

Monday 19th September 2016
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51, got married in May, inherited an 11 year old. He often drives me insane but mostly he's a lovable little bugger. I had resigned myself to never having a family until March 2014

Chris7865677

Original Poster:

211 posts

91 months

Monday 19th September 2016
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amancalledrob said:
I'm 39 next month. I always wanted to have at least one by age 35 with the idea that I'd be "only" about 53ish by the time said kid left school. Hasn't happened though. My OH is 12 years younger than me and has a career that's just starting to go well so of course while we both want kids I don't want that to have a negative effect on her achieving her career goals.

We've discussed it and we'll probably be giving it a go in 2018. I've coped with the change of plan mentally by just deciding to work to her timescale instead of mine - I look and feel younger than I am so that makes it a bit easier. Still jealous of those around me who have popped a couple out though!


Yes I can understand the jealousy. I think I am jealous of my friends and their families

BoRED S2upid

19,643 posts

239 months

Monday 19th September 2016
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Never say never us men can still do the business well into old age you would have to find a younger woman though.

Do you have brothers or sisters who have kids? You could become a very cool uncle buy them stuff take them for days out etc... the joys of having kids but you get to give them back.

HOGEPH

5,249 posts

185 months

Monday 19th September 2016
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Even from a fairly young age I knew I never wanted children. Nearly 50 and I enjoy the freedom that gives me now.

BOBTEE

1,034 posts

163 months

Monday 19th September 2016
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I turn 40 next year, no kids, no plans for kids, not bothered, don't like them! laugh

Moonhawk

10,730 posts

218 months

Monday 19th September 2016
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41 here and no kids (of my own). Never wanted any and since my wife is older than me and menopausal - no chance it will happen accidentally either.

Robbins

110 posts

136 months

Monday 19th September 2016
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Opposite problem here. 27, no desire for kids. Girlfriend wants them in the next couple of years.

TwigtheWonderkid

43,248 posts

149 months

Monday 19th September 2016
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DaveGoddard said:
I'm 30, have never had a relationship and never want one, never mind children.
yikes

bloomen

6,854 posts

158 months

Monday 19th September 2016
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41 and no kids. No desire either. Having seen what's happened to others when it goes tits up I don't think I'd ever trust someone enough to go down that road.

As for kids in old age, how many oldies are abandoned by their kids? There's no guarantee they'll be around. They'll have a lot on in their own lives.

Speed addicted

5,561 posts

226 months

Monday 19th September 2016
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Fast approaching 40 here, no kids.
I've never really wanted them (don't like them) but my wife is desperate. It now looks like she may have a slim chance through IVF if at all and has started talking about adoption.