Anyone post 35 and childless
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Ari said:
PurpleTurtle said:
I still want to go skiing, and yesterday got the invite to go with the lads in January 2017, which I put to her last night.
Cue much protestation about leaving her alone for a week with a 2yo and a full blown guilt trip.
My response: "Look, I'd happily take the three of us, but you're constanly banging on about your knees and not being able to ski. I don't want to miss a third consecutive season, so I'm going. If you'd told me on our first date that having a kid would create this much drama about me doing something you know I love, I'd have got up and walked out of the boozer after the first drink"
Cue a large
and a frosty atmosphere this morning!
I've put it to her that as soon as our kid is in school I will a) want to get him on the slopes on a family holiday and b) be having my wallet plundered by the cost of term-time holidays, so have a short window of opportunity to get a couple of last trips with my mates in over the next few years before the whole dynamic changes. Will she listen to reason? Pffft.
Yeah, you're not going skiing. Cue much protestation about leaving her alone for a week with a 2yo and a full blown guilt trip.
My response: "Look, I'd happily take the three of us, but you're constanly banging on about your knees and not being able to ski. I don't want to miss a third consecutive season, so I'm going. If you'd told me on our first date that having a kid would create this much drama about me doing something you know I love, I'd have got up and walked out of the boozer after the first drink"
Cue a large
and a frosty atmosphere this morning! I've put it to her that as soon as our kid is in school I will a) want to get him on the slopes on a family holiday and b) be having my wallet plundered by the cost of term-time holidays, so have a short window of opportunity to get a couple of last trips with my mates in over the next few years before the whole dynamic changes. Will she listen to reason? Pffft.
Better get used to the idea.
PurpleTurtle, go skiing if you want to. It's your life. So she decided she wants to be a little frosty - so what? Boo hoo. Leave her to it.
She won't appreciate your sacrifice if you stay (as evidenced by her current behaviour, absolutely no acknowledgement that you skipped the last 2 years for her). So go and enjoy yourself, come back a happy invigorated chap again. She'll be snotty for a little while but deep down she won't be able to help appreciating that you are your own man and she can't control you.
I assume she didn't first fall in love with you because you were a total doormat.
ReallyReallyGood said:
Viewing it from your partner's perspective just for a second, I can see why she would think you demanding to go off on a jolly with your mates while she holds the baby is a bit off.
People are able to take separate holidays. My mum used to holiday with her sister and my dad used to go to Spain for a week playing golf. Sounds like she does not want him having fun without her. When it sounds like she could also do with a break from the child, sound like it would do her good not to put the child above everything else. Get some perspective back in her life.
this is what I was trying to say, children change perspectives and yr life. I could sod off on a skiing jaunt, but can you imagine me leaving my wife and children to it for a week ? its hardly fair to her. With kids comes a change in what's important or a priority.
what would purple do if his wife said, right I want a £1000 plus spends for a week in the sun with my mates ??? Oh, yr doing childcare for the week..........Hmmmmmm !
what would purple do if his wife said, right I want a £1000 plus spends for a week in the sun with my mates ??? Oh, yr doing childcare for the week..........Hmmmmmm !
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