Anyone post 35 and childless

[AClownsPocket]

londonbabe said:

You have my deepest sympathy.

I think my last assertion stands. :-D

I'll cope.

Super Slo Mo said:

Why wow, it's just an opinion? Not everyone likes kids. I'm much closer to Londonbabe's view than yours, I can't stand them either.
In fact, I have strong anxiety attacks when close to kids, to the point where I'd prefer to be in a different building, but it's not possible when it's one of the nephews at the in-laws.

An opinion, I know. I was just surprised at the view point 'Kids are awful', that's all. I didn't come over all Mumsnet and threaten to burn the house down

Ari said:

You've been doing it for four months - how can you possibly know it's the best thing you ever did?

Maybe it will be, maybe it won't. Come back in twenty years time and let us know what you think.

Instinct, a previous poster summed it up. Something changes inside, I've never felt more content or happy with my lot in life. Can't see it changing, but I'll quote this in 20 years and we'll see if I've become a raging alcoholic

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[tr7v8]

HOGEPH said:

Even from a fairly young age I knew I never wanted children. Nearly 50 and I enjoy the freedom that gives me now.

This & I'm 59. Caused some conflict when I met my now wife but we got through it.

[Hoofy]

Ari said:

OwenK said:

But buying a BMW even just to try means you are stuck with it until the day you die whether you like it or not.

True, but for the first twelve months you get to tell everyone it's the best thing you ever did and that everyone should have one because they're brilliant!

And as much as picking up your new BMW from the dealership was a really painful experience, you then buy another one a couple of years later to add to your fleet?

[David87]

londonbabe said:

Children are just awful, and something a bit wrong seems to happen to otherwise sane people when they become parents too.

Nearly, but not quite. Other people's children are awful.

[Carrot]

37, no children of my own but two barely teenage stepchildren.

Been with current wife 4 years, happy with the stepchildren at this age but frankly I find babies and very young children very irritating and as another poster said, the new parents become nauseatingly irritating as well.

Half my Facebook friends are hidden from my newsfeed due to repetitive baby st.

My wife doesn't want any more kids and I am very happy with that. We have a good setup here and she had to deal with the irritating stage.

Give me a puppy or a kitten instead any day

[Ari]

Hoofy said:

Ari said:

OwenK said:

But buying a BMW even just to try means you are stuck with it until the day you die whether you like it or not.

True, but for the first twelve months you get to tell everyone it's the best thing you ever did and that everyone should have one because they're brilliant!

And as much as picking up your new BMW from the dealership was a really painful experience, you then buy another one a couple of years later to add to your fleet?

On the basis that the damage is done so you might as well, and maybe the two BMWs will entertain each other instead of sucking the lifeforce from you.

I think we've probably pushed this analogy further than it really wanted to go!

[Ari]

AClownsPocket said:

Instinct, a previous poster summed it up. Something changes inside, I've never felt more content or happy with my lot in life. Can't see it changing, but I'll quote this in 20 years and we'll see if I've become a raging alcoholic

Nah, you're right. I've been right through it and I can assure you, they stay exactly the same right the way through preschool, the teenage years, and on. Just a fluffy bundle of joy the whole way through. Good luck!

[With these feet]

Met the missus 14 or so years ago, both of us divorcees with no kids. Both owned houses so sold and bought together. No intentions of having kids, in fact my missus never showed any interest or got broody around babies.We enjoyed nights out and doing what we liked when we liked. I was around 38 when she announced she was expecting, she is 4 years younger. After the initial shock I came round to the idea of being a dad and when the big day came everything changed.
Im not going to wax lyrical about kids, due to medical reasons my wife could only have 1 child and thats it. It can be hard and I do miss not being able to go out when or where we like and the fact that the FiL is a cock and so we have little babysitting help.
However it does allow me to fulfil those childish wishes, buying things you wish youd had as a kid for them. etc etc.

Im sure if he had not happened we would still be fine, but so many decisions are made around the family - ie we moved house last year for a better school next year - that its difficult to imagine not having kids.

Each to their own, I have aunts and uncles that have no kids and are blissfully happy.

As for the 40+ at school gates, where we are in a village environment, there are very few under 25's with kids - Im 48 and in no way the oldest dad at the gates!

[AClownsPocket]

ash73 said:

Interesting when it comes to children everyone considers what they want, rather than what the world needs.

Sometimes, the needs of the one outweigh the needs of the many. Spock isn't always right

[Tango13]

Noisey

Smelly

Messy

Expensive to maintain

Temperamental

Needs lots of TLC to keep sweet

Fragile

Temperature sensitive in the extreme

Prone to temper tantrums at the most inopportune moments




















Tuned two stroke motorcycle or a small child?

[parabolica]

Approaching 35; no kids and no real desire for them. Dad wants grandkids but I feel less guilty by the fact my sister is 7 years older and showing no signs of family either.

Best friend married his childhood sweetheart at 18 (v religious families) and started pumping out kids instantly - they now have 6! I reckon that may have put me off; love 'me but I wouldn't want to be in the middle of that bedlam for 18+ years.

[Johnnytheboy]

The "parents wanting grandkids" thing is a good point.

My father has two childless 40-something sons, and I get the impression he is profoundly relieved.

[tribbles]

I've only recently got married - both of us in our 40s. Neither of us want kids, but we had to work out how to tell my mother who wanted us to (both my brother and sister have 2 kids each [to separate partners, before those of you who jump to conclusions!]).

"Luckily" my wife was recently diagnosed with premature menopause (and probably had it for the past two or more years), which meant it was easier to use that as an excuse rather than "we don't like them"

[MG CHRIS]

AClownsPocket said:

ash73 said:

Interesting when it comes to children everyone considers what they want, rather than what the world needs.

Sometimes, the needs of the one outweigh the needs of the many. Spock isn't always right

The world needs less people not more.

Im only 24 have no desire to have kids single and happy that way I like cars and racing too much to have any ideas on kids or relationship unless I find a girl who likes cars and racing as much as I do.

As someone said back a few pages back with mgtow its spreading rapidly more men and younger men like myself are not going down the relationship kids route im happy and aslong as your happy nobody has any say in what you should do and what you believe in.

[Ari]

ash73 said:

Interesting when it comes to children everyone considers what they want, rather than what the world needs.

Children and, err, everything else! Humans are selfish - all of us.

[OwenK]

ash73 said:

True but if people want kids why don't they adopt, rather than making more?

Because reproducing and spreading your genes is the most base-level fundamental drive of all organisms on the planet!

[anonymous-user]

I don't want kids, as in honestly I don't think I would be a good dad to them and offer them the chances to really succeed in life. I have spent most of my life on my own, so probably too selfish.

I earn enough money to cover me, but I would want them sent to private school at the least.

[227bhp]

Ari said:

Hoofy said:

Ari said:

OwenK said:

But buying a BMW even just to try means you are stuck with it until the day you die whether you like it or not.

True, but for the first twelve months you get to tell everyone it's the best thing you ever did and that everyone should have one because they're brilliant!

And as much as picking up your new BMW from the dealership was a really painful experience, you then buy another one a couple of years later to add to your fleet?

On the basis that the damage is done so you might as well, and maybe the two BMWs will entertain each other instead of sucking the lifeforce from you.

I think we've probably pushed this analogy further than it really wanted to go!

No there's much more life in it yet

When you're getting on a bit like the OP you can always get some part worns, or good used ones, even one careful owner, nearly new.
I think I could maybe cope with a 7+, babies are horrible.

[rb5er]

OwenK said:

ash73 said:

True but if people want kids why don't they adopt, rather than making more?

Because reproducing and spreading your genes is the most base-level fundamental drive of all organisms on the planet!

Exactly. Odd to state otherwise. A generation or 2 of nobody having kids would wipe out the human race.

[creampuff]

cloggy said:

I am 69 and been married for 47 years (married young at 22) Mrs Cloggy who is English is 3 years older.
We had a boy and a girl who are now 43 and 45.

We have 3 grand daughters aged 8, 9 and 10.

Life is great.

Top work, Mr and Mrs Cloggy