Anyone post 35 and childless

[djc206]

ash73 said:

Interesting when it comes to children everyone considers what they want, rather than what the world needs.

The world doesn't need me driving a V8, or flying 20+ times a year etc etc but I don't give a st. I'm not going to begrudge someone a child because 9 times out of 10 it precludes the above and so it all works out

[Ari]

rb5er said:

Exactly. Odd to state otherwise. A generation or 2 of nobody having kids would wipe out the human race.

Fortunately, in this country at least, we handsomely reward ne'er-do-wells for breeding so it'll never be a problem. The more kids, the more cash and the bigger the house. And what do the offspring do? Rinse and repeat.

So we'll be fine in this country with all these upstanding citizens propagating te species.

[creampuff]

Anyway OP, I think you need:
http://www.asianfriendfinder.com

I'm serious. Chinese women are very straightforward once they are over about 35 or so (I'm married to one, although not via Asianfriendfinder). They will meet you, probably shag you and quickly work out if you are a good match or not. If not, welcome to dumpsville and if you are a match you can expect to be popping them out about a year later. Also as a gross generalisation generalisation, they will probably stick by you.

If you don't like the sound of Asianfriendfinder then there are plenty of Chinese/Taiwanese/Singaporean etc networking events which are notionally for business but are often just places 30-something year olds go to find husbands

[poing]

creampuff said:

Anyway OP, I think you need:
http://www.asianfriendfinder.com

I'm serious. Chinese women are very straightforward once they are over about 35 or so (I'm married to one, although not via Asianfriendfinder). They will meet you, probably shag you and quickly work out if you are a good match or not. If not, welcome to dumpsville and if you are a match you can expect to be popping them out about a year later. Also as a gross generalisation generalisation, they will probably stick by you.

If you don't like the sound of Asianfriendfinder then there are plenty of Chinese/Taiwanese/Singaporean etc networking events which are notionally for business but are often just places 30-something year olds go to find husbands

That just made me think of Little Britain and Ting Tong.

[rb5er]

Ari said:

rb5er said:

Exactly. Odd to state otherwise. A generation or 2 of nobody having kids would wipe out the human race.

Fortunately, in this country at least, we handsomely reward ne'er-do-wells for breeding so it'll never be a problem. The more kids, the more cash and the bigger the house. And what do the offspring do? Rinse and repeat.

So we'll be fine in this country with all these upstanding citizens propagating te species.

Hence it is every proper persons duty to have kids and out populate the lazy feckless. Do your bit or you are only helping the problem of which you speak

[Huff]

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[STO]

I`m 49 never had kids never likely too, haven`t been in a relationship for over 6 years. So i gess I`m a MGTOW not really sure what that`s all about though.

[vonuber]

What someone posted above about something changing in your brain when you have one is entirely true.

One is nearly 18months now, and she delights and surprises me everyday as she discovers the world and new skills.
We have another girl coming too, and I can't wait.

It even beats passing my motorbike test.

[FGB]

Aged 52, married for 21 years.

I have not seen anything in children that has made me think "I would like kids one day".

I doubt it's going to change in my next 52 years .

ps I wouldn't say I dislike them - Some of my pals kids, Nieces and Nephews are fine (to a point ).

[Classy6]

Personally never been interested & really dislike being around them. The Mrs want's one, "one" day. I definitely don't understand the success status in having kids, like it's a difficult thing to make happen...!! Maybe my generation but it bemuses me that Laura the school bike has banged out her 5th sprog in 12 years and get's 400 likes, yet some dude just won Gold in the Olympics get's 20! Maybe it says something about where I went to school!

Honestly think it's not only due to sheer lack of interest but I guess I'm selfish and materialistic. I've seen how much people sacrifice to have kids and how well others live without (Keeping wages relative) and despite how they all tell me it's the best thing ever, I don't envy them at all. Had a long running joke with the Mrs that I said when I first met her: I'll only be interested in Kids when I've got a Ferrari on the drive and the mortgage paid off. Which doesn't bare to much from the truth, I couldn't think of anything worst than driving a Zafira and holidaying in Butlin's because kid's have drained the bank account (no offence to anyone, but not for me).

I'm 28 now and a lot of mates seem to be interested in having kids now they've got a mortgage, like it's the next logical step in life. Rarely was it mentioned before..

The only point that's made me think about it over the time more than anything else is that an older friend says because all their friends have kids and they don't, they find that they have been somewhat alienated as most of the activities have now shifted away from days out on the Piss and instead towards kids parties etc and because they don't have any, they literally don't get invited to partake.

[Jefferson Steelflex]

Technically I am over 35 and childless.

I shagged this woman/girl once, ended up sticking with her when she got pregnant when we were both 19. We got married, had another one when we were 22. Now we are 40, still happily married and technically childless as we no longer look after them or have any parental responsibilities so to speak.

Maybe the wrong topic/subject, but seeing as we have our freedom again it feels like life has begun. Lots of our friends had their kids in the last 5 years, so we see everything now as a blessing that we don't have the hassle, but when we had no money and had to raise 2 kids while everyone was fking about on holiday, etc. it was hard to see the positives.

If you're over 35 and enjoy your life, I'd carefully consider whether to bother with kids to be honest.

[TwigtheWonderkid]

Jefferson Steelflex said:

Technically I am over 35 and childless.

I shagged this woman/girl once, ended up sticking with her when she got pregnant when we were both 19. We got married, had another one when we were 22. Now we are 40, still happily married and technically childless as we no longer look after them or have any parental responsibilities so to speak.

On what planet are you technically childless? You have 2 children, who are now adults.

Do you think your children are technically orphans, because they don't need their parents to provide for them any longer???

[Impasse]

TwigtheWonderkid said:

On what planet are you technically childless? You have 2 children, who are now adults.

Do you think your children are technically orphans, because they don't need their parents to provide for them any longer???

Just in case you're not being deliberately obtuse, no that's not what is being said. At all. The kids have grown up and left the nest. The parents have taken them from defenceless babies through to adulthood and the offspring are now responsible for their own lives leaving the parents free to concentrate on one another.

[Ari]

Jefferson Steelflex said:

Technically I am over 35 and childless.

I shagged this woman/girl once, ended up sticking with her when she got pregnant when we were both 19. We got married, had another one when we were 22. Now we are 40, still happily married and technically childless as we no longer look after them or have any parental responsibilities so to speak.

Maybe the wrong topic/subject, but seeing as we have our freedom again it feels like life has begun. Lots of our friends had their kids in the last 5 years, so we see everything now as a blessing that we don't have the hassle, but when we had no money and had to raise 2 kids while everyone was fking about on holiday, etc. it was hard to see the positives.

If you're over 35 and enjoy your life, I'd carefully consider whether to bother with kids to be honest.

But but... they're the most joyous thing in all the world! Ask anyone with a child under one year old, they know better than you!

[Cotty]

Classy6 said:

The only point that's made me think about it over the time more than anything else is that an older friend says because all their friends have kids and they don't, they find that they have been somewhat alienated as most of the activities have now shifted away from days out on the Piss and instead towards kids parties etc and because they don't have any, they literally don't get invited to partake.

I also found that couples socialise with other couples, so if you are single you get excluded from any activity couples participate in. Meals out with friends? Nope they only have a meals with other couples.

I don't see them anymore, I was excluded from so much I don't think they noticed.

[Ari]

TwigtheWonderkid said:

On what planet are you technically childless? You have 2 children, who are now adults.

Do you think your children are technically orphans, because they don't need their parents to provide for them any longer???

They're not orphans, they're adults. That's why he doesn't have children anymore, they grew up and stopped being children.

Did you miss biology that day..?

[Johnnytheboy]

Ari said:

TwigtheWonderkid said:

On what planet are you technically childless? You have 2 children, who are now adults.

Do you think your children are technically orphans, because they don't need their parents to provide for them any longer???

They're not orphans, they're adults. That's why he doesn't have children anymore, they grew up and stopped being children.

Did you miss biology that day..?

Twig is - technically - PH's biggest pedant.

[Cotty]

Ari said:

They're not orphans, they're adults. That's why he doesn't have children anymore, they grew up and stopped being children.

Did you miss biology that day..?

The legal definition of child generally refers to a minor, otherwise known as a person younger than the age of majority

Child may also describe a relationship with a parent (such as sons and daughters of any age)

[Impasse]

Autism traits do seem to be rife on PH.

[Claret Badger]

Im 43 and marrying later this year. We have no children and no plans to have them. Whilst it must be amazing otherwise no one would have any and the human race would die out, I dont like the way people seem to change when they have them. So many become smug one topic bores who rarely go out or socialise unless their offspring are with them, meaning that good friends just seem to disappear which is a great shame.

After 15 years of hard work Ive just managed to buy the most amazing 1 bed flat with my wife to be. Our life would dramatically change if we had kids and again, Im not sure Id sacrifice everything Ive struggled to buy, just to have a child. Id be selling my cars, selling the flat, moving out of London and thats before Ive started the struggle of raising a child and the costs and stress it brings.

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