If you could turn back your clock where would it be too?
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Just before 16th birthday and have some serious words with teenaged self about a) hurrying up oncoming diagnosis of nasty genetic condition, b) gender identity misery and c) A level choices. If I'd done biology and chemistry then, when my physical disability got more severe a few years later I'd have been able to carry on with a few adjustments. Instead I was at music college training to be a professional musician, now cannot hold the instrument, dropped out before I graduated and am slogging through the biochem stuff now aged 31 instead.
k up and not saving enough cash when younger.This is really hard one..
Part of me wants to say mid 2008, break it off with the girl i was seeing, cause 8 years down the road when we finally split, it left me with a huge pile of crap to work through (still on that)
But i dont think id want to miss my kids..
The rest of it all is rather unimportant, sure i could go back and switch to a path earning more money, but i feel like i cant complain about that right now, the only thing really wrong with life right now is cleaning up the crap (both physical and emotional) of 8 years of a dysfunctional relationship
Part of me wants to say mid 2008, break it off with the girl i was seeing, cause 8 years down the road when we finally split, it left me with a huge pile of crap to work through (still on that)
But i dont think id want to miss my kids..
The rest of it all is rather unimportant, sure i could go back and switch to a path earning more money, but i feel like i cant complain about that right now, the only thing really wrong with life right now is cleaning up the crap (both physical and emotional) of 8 years of a dysfunctional relationship
Jezus this thread is fecking awful to read.
Yes I made some mistakes in my life (who does not) but mostly financial but I also made some good financial decisions so they cancel each other out.
In my private life I have been very lucky although I took some risks.
So overall I am very happy and don't want to turn back the clock.
I am a happy bunny.
Yes I made some mistakes in my life (who does not) but mostly financial but I also made some good financial decisions so they cancel each other out.
In my private life I have been very lucky although I took some risks.
So overall I am very happy and don't want to turn back the clock.
I am a happy bunny.
There's nothing in my life I'd want to change, just go back to 3 years ago when my grandad died, I'd had an operation that morning and my mum picked me up as my grandad was unwell.
Mum asked me if I wanted to pop in to see him but as I'd just come round from general anesthetic I said I'd see him tomorrow which never happened. I know I couldn't change it, but I'd like to say goodbye.
Mum asked me if I wanted to pop in to see him but as I'd just come round from general anesthetic I said I'd see him tomorrow which never happened. I know I couldn't change it, but I'd like to say goodbye.
Like most people Ive screwed up along the way. That time you ran into the car in front. Or choose the right numbers on the lottery. That's learning experience.
Big one, would be career. I wish when I got to 16 and was deciding on what course to do at College that I'd chosen differently. I really wish at the time I had a better clue of what I wanted to be. I feel "trapped" in a profession that I simply don't want to do anymore. And because I have near 2 decades experience, not to mention mortgage et al. I simply cannot retrain to be something else.
I'm sure I'm not alone in thinking like this. But I suppose I have potentially 20+ years left of this crap. Call it a mid life crisis perhaps.
Other one
Like lots of guys I've almost certainly missed out on a million clues from various girls they were interested in me. Probably missed out on some good times as a result.
Big one, would be career. I wish when I got to 16 and was deciding on what course to do at College that I'd chosen differently. I really wish at the time I had a better clue of what I wanted to be. I feel "trapped" in a profession that I simply don't want to do anymore. And because I have near 2 decades experience, not to mention mortgage et al. I simply cannot retrain to be something else.
I'm sure I'm not alone in thinking like this. But I suppose I have potentially 20+ years left of this crap. Call it a mid life crisis perhaps.
Other one
Like lots of guys I've almost certainly missed out on a million clues from various girls they were interested in me. Probably missed out on some good times as a result.
Rich_W said:
Like most people Ive screwed up along the way. That time you ran into the car in front. Or choose the right numbers on the lottery. That's learning experience.
Big one, would be career. I wish when I got to 16 and was deciding on what course to do at College that I'd chosen differently. I really wish at the time I had a better clue of what I wanted to be. I feel "trapped" in a profession that I simply don't want to do anymore. And because I have near 2 decades experience, not to mention mortgage et al. I simply cannot retrain to be something else.
I'm sure I'm not alone in thinking like this. But I suppose I have potentially 20+ years left of this crap. Call it a mid life crisis perhaps.
Other one
Like lots of guys I've almost certainly missed out on a million clues from various girls they were interested in me. Probably missed out on some good times as a result.
What's your number industry rich? I know a fair few who felt like you, so they went contracting and it put a new perspective on the job and made it fun again. Possible?Big one, would be career. I wish when I got to 16 and was deciding on what course to do at College that I'd chosen differently. I really wish at the time I had a better clue of what I wanted to be. I feel "trapped" in a profession that I simply don't want to do anymore. And because I have near 2 decades experience, not to mention mortgage et al. I simply cannot retrain to be something else.
I'm sure I'm not alone in thinking like this. But I suppose I have potentially 20+ years left of this crap. Call it a mid life crisis perhaps.
Other one
Like lots of guys I've almost certainly missed out on a million clues from various girls they were interested in me. Probably missed out on some good times as a result.
While there a lot of things that I think about wanting to change, there are 3 events in my life that if I had the option to change.
15 years old, never start smoking
17 years old, instead of agreeing with my mum would have told her no, moved out got a flat and continued down the job line that I wanted and not got dragged the other end of the country.
20 years old, instead of acting like an idiot manned up and properly gone after the girl of my dreams
25 years old, not bought the bike that I crashed and wrecked my health,fitness, and mental health
But life is life, just have to get on with it, you never know while they seem crappy at the time might have stopped you from a worse one.
15 years old, never start smoking
17 years old, instead of agreeing with my mum would have told her no, moved out got a flat and continued down the job line that I wanted and not got dragged the other end of the country.
20 years old, instead of acting like an idiot manned up and properly gone after the girl of my dreams
25 years old, not bought the bike that I crashed and wrecked my health,fitness, and mental health
But life is life, just have to get on with it, you never know while they seem crappy at the time might have stopped you from a worse one.
jebus said:
But life is life, just have to get on with it, you never know while they seem crappy at the time might have stopped you from a worse one.
Very true. Easy to say you wish you hadn't crashed a bike aged 17 and lost a leg, but if you hadn't, you might have crashed it the week later and lost both! alock said:
Early 1993 and the 16 year olds at my school could use the attached gym for free after school. One evening it was just me and two girls. They tried to get me to sneak into the girls only sauna with them.
I was too embarrassed and shy. Barely a week goes by when I don't regret that decision.
Were you their teacher?I was too embarrassed and shy. Barely a week goes by when I don't regret that decision.
To before I met my current girlfriend, so that I could sleep with a lot more girls. She's perfect, really, and I can see myself marrying her, but I can't help but feel like I can't go through life never experiencing someone else in that way again. Cheating is of course out of the question.
Difficult one because if you go back 10 years then everything since then would have changed. I'd have gone back to high school and chosen a career rather than going to uni because it was an easy subject which I didnt really care about.
BUT had that happened then I wouldnt have gone travelling and probably wouldnt have been interested in the career I would choose today...
BUT had that happened then I wouldnt have gone travelling and probably wouldnt have been interested in the career I would choose today...
Would be 2010 for me, I would actually try hard in my A-Levels and go to Uni the conventional way rather than doing two nights a week for the last few years while working full time.
I've been managing a project on a university accommodation site and having had an insight into that life I feel that by going straight from sixth form to work made me miss out on so much life experience.
I'd be nowhere near where I am now in terms of a career but I feel that I would have benefitted from the uni life in the end.
I've been managing a project on a university accommodation site and having had an insight into that life I feel that by going straight from sixth form to work made me miss out on so much life experience.
I'd be nowhere near where I am now in terms of a career but I feel that I would have benefitted from the uni life in the end.
I'd turn the clock back 18 years to when i was 21 and stop myself taking out a loan of £12,000 in 1999 to fund a new car which in turn pretty much stopped me getting on the property ladder......at the same time I would also stop myself getting several credit cards and the ladening myself with debt which I will only finish paying off in March 2018
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