Strange relationship developed. HELP!

Strange relationship developed. HELP!

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telecat

8,528 posts

240 months

Monday 26th September 2016
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Buster73

5,042 posts

152 months

Monday 26th September 2016
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anonymous said:
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Haven't read the full thread , but the first thing I thought of after reading his op was that she'd popped his cherry.

Civpilot

6,235 posts

239 months

Monday 26th September 2016
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Europa1

10,923 posts

187 months

Monday 26th September 2016
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sidaorb said:
Ever since I left school and started work I enjoyed the pleasure of a number of older work colleagues at various jobs I had, most fun was at 23 with a 46 year old. I say enjoy it while it lasts.

I was also even luckier at 41 when I got divorced to be comforted by a work colleague at the time that was 23.

So I've done the plus 23 years and the minus 18 years.

Heyho lifes a bh.
Below the hard deck, fella. Cheeky.

AyBee

10,522 posts

201 months

Monday 26th September 2016
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You're 23, drive an A6 Avant and are in a friendship group with people more than twice your age, banging a 49 year old is the least of your problems wink

McFsC

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578 posts

151 months

Monday 26th September 2016
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Haha, the car thing was flukey, got it on the cheap (very cheap ) and I needed it for the space so suited at the time, and it's just kept going. The friendship thing. I do a hobby, so do the other people in this group, we meet up from time to time away from the hobby to keep in touch etc... I still play football, go to games, go to the pub etc... No worries there, thanks.

Interesting reading and some good advice, all taken on the chin and some of it read and digested more than others. Thanks people.


callmedave

2,686 posts

144 months

Monday 26th September 2016
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McFsC said:
Haha, the car thing was flukey, got it on the cheap (very cheap ) and I needed it for the space so suited at the time, and it's just kept going. The friendship thing. I do a hobby, so do the other people in this group, we meet up from time to time away from the hobby to keep in touch etc... I still play football, go to games, go to the pub etc... No worries there, thanks.

Interesting reading and some good advice, all taken on the chin and some of it read and digested more than others. Thanks people.
Keep us updated. Hope you prove a few people wrong!

Monkeylegend

26,226 posts

230 months

Monday 26th September 2016
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callmedave said:
but your 23, youve nothing to loose
I suspect unless he's a big boy, there will be quite a bit of slopping around.

She sounds like she's been around a bit.

irocfan

40,152 posts

189 months

Monday 26th September 2016
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battered said:
"Wasting time"?
What's the f* ing rush? He's 23 FFS.
Wasting time when he could be doing what? Changing nappies with a 21 year old mother? Well, there's a great life choice. He really wants to rush into that.
He's 23, he's having a good time. When that stops, move on. Until then he's a 23 year old man having a good time with a woman of his choosing.

I think there are more than a few people here who are getting a bit jealous.
meh - enjoy it while it lasts. As others have said if the roles were reversed....

anonymous-user

53 months

Monday 26th September 2016
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surely look in her eyes and say 'i really like you'.

she will be yours forever.

hora

36,999 posts

210 months

Monday 26th September 2016
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AyBee said:
You're 23, drive an A6 Avant and are in a friendship group with people more than twice your age, banging a 49 year old is the least of your problems wink
We c%d TLK 2 him on Hs levL. mAk him fEl lIk he's wit m8?

On another note I knew someone who was 34, seeing a married 50yr old bloke. I saw a few messages from him to her. It was all in text speak. It creeped me out.

Pacman1978

394 posts

102 months

Monday 26th September 2016
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McFsC said:
No, She said they haven't seen each other one to one for 6 weeks, and she told me about that as soon as he said he was going round. They still message from time to time. I am slightly worried about him making an appearance again though.
Do you 100% believe her?

My opinion for what its worth is thus.. Ill bet she regards the relationship as nothing more than having some fun times, after 18 years of marriage she wants anything but a serious relationship. Maybe her being distant is her way of moving on or letting you down gently. Or maybe your feelings and the "L" word have had a negative effect? Try and give her some space. As for the gap, as long as you both click and get each other then its nowt more than a number..

I presume she has offspring?

Freds

947 posts

136 months

Monday 26th September 2016
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Pacman1978 said:
Do you 100% believe her?

My opinion for what its worth is thus.. Ill bet she regards the relationship as nothing more than having some fun times, after 18 years of marriage she wants anything but a serious relationship. Maybe her being distant is her way of moving on or letting you down gently. Or maybe your feelings and the "L" word have had a negative effect? Try and give her some space. As for the gap, as long as you both click and get each other then its nowt more than a number..

I presume she has offspring?
They used to baby sit the O.P.

uber

855 posts

169 months

Tuesday 27th September 2016
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The best way to fix this is for other PH members to take one for the team and slip her some DMs to see if she engages. They can then report back here with evidence, video etc and we can group vote on the next steps in the relationship.

sidaorb

5,589 posts

205 months

Tuesday 27th September 2016
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uber said:
The best way to fix this is for other PH members to take one for the team and slip her some DMs to see if she engages. They can then report back here with evidence, video etc and we can group vote on the next steps in the relationship.
roflroflroflroflroflroflroflroflrofl

Sir you have just won the internet

anothernameitist

1,500 posts

134 months

Tuesday 27th September 2016
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anonymous said:
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Date night: Supermodel Karlie Kloss took Princess Beatrice as her date (above)

What? a date night, does this belong in a council thread or not???

dojo

741 posts

134 months

Tuesday 27th September 2016
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Surprised no one has mentioned Oedipus complex!

OP You happy about going out for meals and people saying "what does your mum" or "mums treating you to a meal is she?"

Basically you are going to to get horribly trapped, what is deal with her divorce settlement? (Does she get maintenance? Is effected if she co-habits?) You may stick around until you're 30 (when she thinking about retirement) and she'll be so dependant on you and when you decide you want to get married, have kids and buy a house in your own right she will lay the guilt trip on you so hard you'll be crippled!

My advice is to move on.

AyBee

10,522 posts

201 months

Tuesday 27th September 2016
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anonymous said:
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yikes She doesn't even need the money...how strange tongue out

anonymous-user

53 months

Tuesday 27th September 2016
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AyBee said:
anonymous said:
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yikes She doesn't even need the money...how strange tongue out
And I cant see Jordan in this pic?? I mean wtf?



Long walk: Jordan was walked down the aisle by her billionaire father John W. Jordan II (above)


hora

36,999 posts

210 months

Tuesday 27th September 2016
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My advice is to carry on but also look out for someone more long-term too. I doubt she would see you as long-term.

Just see it as handson life experience. You are both getting consequence free, free and happy quality time/action.

We all die at some point and as long as no one is being lied too. Who cares?