Am I an ungrateful child?

[joestifff]

I don't think (correct me if I am wrong OP) the time thing is the issue here, just an excuse, I am dam sure he could make time if he wanted to ... as most of you point out.

The real issue (again OP correct me if I am wrong) is that the women is just plain not nice, toxic, and full of negativity. So why waste your time.

Personally, having a st relationship with my mother, I think you are doing nothing wrong. I know some of you are trying to guilt him into "when she's gone you'll regret it" but I know I wont. So maybe OP wont either. Might be a sigh of relief that the negativity has gone.

My mother isn't my mother like you all think, she is a strange person who I don't overly know, have nothing in common with and generally bring the mood down when about, and I am very sure the feeling is mutual.

[Alex@POD]

andy-xr said:

Alex@POD said:

Says more about you than the OP in my book, whenever I post things on Facebook is to update a specific set of friends on what I'm doing. Those who are not interested, guess what: they don't care and skip right past it!

What better way to keep all who care updated than through Facebook?

You're missing the point, it was that the OP had time to fk about showing off his building on Facebook and would rather be doing that than calling his Mum

Well, that's entirely up to him and how he feels about his mum. My point was specifically about the bit I highlighted, that the person who commented only see things their way and considers that everybody should only do things the way they do.

[Drummond Baize]

Neilsfirst said:

Had a phone call from my mother today to remind me she is still alive and tell me how her health is and all her hospital appointments.

To be fair, conversations with my mum are pretty much the same as this. How she's doing and which of her friends have died this week. They're practically the same conversation every time, often with her repeating stuff she's already told me before. I rarely get a word in edgeways; it's usually just "Yep", "Not bad" and "fine" from my end. As a result, I have to be reminded (nagged) and coerced by the GF to give mum a ring - actually the GF probably rings her more often than I do.

Having said that:

bhstewie said:

Mine drives me mad but you only get one and you'll miss her when she's gone.

[Neilsfirst]

joestifff said:

I don't think (correct me if I am wrong OP) the time thing is the issue here, just an excuse, I am dam sure he could make time if he wanted to ... as most of you point out.

The real issue (again OP correct me if I am wrong) is that the women is just plain not nice, toxic, and full of negativity. So why waste your time.

Personally, having a st relationship with my mother, I think you are doing nothing wrong. I know some of you are trying to guilt him into "when she's gone you'll regret it" but I know I wont. So maybe OP wont either. Might be a sigh of relief that the negativity has gone.

My mother isn't my mother like you all think, she is a strange person who I don't overly know, have nothing in common with and generally bring the mood down when about, and I am very sure the feeling is mutual.

No correction needed.

[ChasW]

I find this an interesting post. I got on with my folks and it has influenced outlook as a parent with my grown up kids who have recently left home. In fact I only have one objective and that is that we become friends as adults. I would have counted my folks as being in my social circle if I had lived in their village or close by but not been related to them. They we fun to be with, quite outgoing and interested in people. Sadly I have friends of my generation whose relationships with their parents was the polar opposite. I just assumed everyone lived in a tolerable to happyish family. I had a big shock when I went away to Uni. At the end of the first term there were a couple of lads I knew who applied to stay at halls over the Xmas break, 3 weeks. When I discovered this I asked one of them who I was quite friendly with why he wasn't going home, asssuming he might have a lucrative holiday job locally or some other reason like a girlfirend he could be separated from. He told me bluntly he could not wait to get away from home and had no intention of visiting his parents even, at Christmas. It was then I realised that some people just have sh!tty relationships with their parents that may be irreparable.