I am getting bad vibes
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grumbledoak said:
AVV EM said:
Best get out whilst he can.
There is a kid involved. Getting out will cost him everything.The only hope of a happy ending now is that he does get the family he missed out on by wasting his time with the last one, and even then it will be "one for the price of three".
simoid said:
Careful, you're maybe moving into territory where she can reasonably say "look at this, BiL is trying to turn you against me..."
Joint facebook, joint hotmail, joint hen and stag night. Not seen him alone in 14 months except for 1 hour out on the bikes when he wanted to go hope 30 mins in to a 3 hour ride. I think he deserves all he gets!4x4Tyke said:
'The question of what is controlling behaviour can be hard to answer. Much of it can be put down to personality traits. However it can over step the mark and become abusive. Some examples of what a controlling man or woman may do include:Not allowing their partner to go out
Forbidding contact with friends and family
Controlling what they wear
Controlling what they eat
Constant texting and calling
Constantly checking on where the victim is, what they are doing and who they are with
Making all the plans without discussion'
Indeed. That could just be a wiki entry for 'wife'.
DonkeyApple said:
4x4Tyke said:
'The question of what is controlling behaviour can be hard to answer. Much of it can be put down to personality traits. However it can over step the mark and become abusive. Some examples of what a controlling man or woman may do include:Not allowing their partner to go out
Forbidding contact with friends and family
Controlling what they wear
Controlling what they eat
Constant texting and calling
Constantly checking on where the victim is, what they are doing and who they are with
Making all the plans without discussion'
Indeed. That could just be a wiki entry for 'wife'.
Then I read the last line
AVV EM said:
I think that you should seriously consider reporting her for domestic abuse and get some sort of therapy for your brother as he's obviously not doing so well up there in the head, either that or she's blackmailing him.
They move into the new house next week. I am hoping it settles her nerves. Can't say too much now but there have been several other, apparently unrelated, 'incidents' which have compounded things.Looking like an interesting Christmas and new year.
Cogcog said:
They move into the new house next week. I am hoping it settles her nerves. Can't say too much now but there have been several other, apparently unrelated, 'incidents' which have compounded things.
Looking like an interesting Christmas and new year.
How did this end up?Looking like an interesting Christmas and new year.
Bit of a resurrection but I saw one of your other threads.
Vaud said:
How did this end up?
Bit of a resurrection but I saw one of your other threads.
I twigged that too.Bit of a resurrection but I saw one of your other threads.
I think that some women are extremely unpleasant and controlling. Its unrelated but at Xmas one of our mates was telling us of a member of staff who worked for him. He had bad vibes about her and got shot off as soon as he could. It turns out she wasn't who she said she was and was actually had a deeply chequered past.
UPDATE:
He has now had to change his mobile number and email address for her fear of him contacting an ex. Zero, and I mean zero time when she isn't with him 24/7.
2 weeks after they bought the new house he called us asking for a bed for the night (twice) with her sceaming and swearing in the background.
If she was the man I am sure this would be emotional abuse and seen as domestic violence.
He says he is happy.
Father in laws will has been changed.
He has now had to change his mobile number and email address for her fear of him contacting an ex. Zero, and I mean zero time when she isn't with him 24/7.
2 weeks after they bought the new house he called us asking for a bed for the night (twice) with her sceaming and swearing in the background.
If she was the man I am sure this would be emotional abuse and seen as domestic violence.
He says he is happy.
Father in laws will has been changed.
bloomen said:
If he himself isn't recording calls and taking notes of incidents, then you can do it for him. At some point it's going to come to a head and he'll be in a much safer position if there's evidence to back up his position.
No doubt she'll be rolling out the domestic violence trope.
Never thought of that, thanksNo doubt she'll be rolling out the domestic violence trope.
Cogcog said:
bloomen said:
If he himself isn't recording calls and taking notes of incidents, then you can do it for him. At some point it's going to come to a head and he'll be in a much safer position if there's evidence to back up his position.
No doubt she'll be rolling out the domestic violence trope.
Never thought of that, thanksNo doubt she'll be rolling out the domestic violence trope.
chilistrucker said:
Cogcog said:
bloomen said:
If he himself isn't recording calls and taking notes of incidents, then you can do it for him. At some point it's going to come to a head and he'll be in a much safer position if there's evidence to back up his position.
No doubt she'll be rolling out the domestic violence trope.
Never thought of that, thanksNo doubt she'll be rolling out the domestic violence trope.
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