Dodging Rounds
Discussion
BigMon said:
I worked with someone like that. The amusing thing is he didn't think he was mean at all and was genuinely shocked when someone pointed it out to him.
If it's vaguely work related we can expense drinks but it's still hard to get some people to take their turn picking up the tab.HarryFlatters said:
TEKNOPUG said:
IBest thing to do if in a group for a sessions is a simple £20 whip or similar.
This - £20 from everyone into the kitty and buy drinks from that.
Our kitty is normally £10 on the 'after Thursday night mountain bike drinks'. (TBF, that's 3 pints max and we've all got to ride home cross country, so a self enforced limit.)
Yep - I know a few people like that....including family members. Seen it all.
People who wont even buy a round of drinks even when you pay to take them out for a meal.
People who skip drinks when it's their round - yet order nice expensive ones when it's yours.
People who are always last to the bar - regardless of the order in which they entered the establishment.
People who never bring a bottle round when coming for a meal.
The thing is - it's not the poorest people either. My father in law is pretty much on the bread line - but is always the first to the bar and insists on getting a round in despite my protests to the contrary. Same with my dad - he will never see you without a drink.
The people who display the above round dodging behaviours are all invariably middle class, with new cars, ipads etc etc.
People who wont even buy a round of drinks even when you pay to take them out for a meal.
People who skip drinks when it's their round - yet order nice expensive ones when it's yours.
People who are always last to the bar - regardless of the order in which they entered the establishment.
People who never bring a bottle round when coming for a meal.
The thing is - it's not the poorest people either. My father in law is pretty much on the bread line - but is always the first to the bar and insists on getting a round in despite my protests to the contrary. Same with my dad - he will never see you without a drink.
The people who display the above round dodging behaviours are all invariably middle class, with new cars, ipads etc etc.
Becoming less rare in my circle, thankfully.
A couple of my mates have always gone their own way - they won't accept a pint as part of a round because they don't want to buy a round back for everyone else, but its fine, they come more for the social aspect than the drinking aspect, and therefore, don't drink as much.
A few people I hung around with when I was a bit younger were like described in the above posts, always skipping a round but happy to accept drinks from everyone else, but never dipped their hand in their pocket because they "didnt have much money" despite spending £8 a day on cigarettes... Hence why I tend not to hang around with them so much anymore I guess.
A couple of my mates have always gone their own way - they won't accept a pint as part of a round because they don't want to buy a round back for everyone else, but its fine, they come more for the social aspect than the drinking aspect, and therefore, don't drink as much.
A few people I hung around with when I was a bit younger were like described in the above posts, always skipping a round but happy to accept drinks from everyone else, but never dipped their hand in their pocket because they "didnt have much money" despite spending £8 a day on cigarettes... Hence why I tend not to hang around with them so much anymore I guess.
HarryFlatters said:
TEKNOPUG said:
IBest thing to do if in a group for a sessions is a simple £20 whip or similar.
This - £20 from everyone into the kitty and buy drinks from that.Cotty said:
HarryFlatters said:
TEKNOPUG said:
IBest thing to do if in a group for a sessions is a simple £20 whip or similar.
This - £20 from everyone into the kitty and buy drinks from that.There used to be a girl in our group who would lift drinks off tables and drink them, including strangers drinks. If she got collared she would make out she innocently mistaken it for hers. She was a cheapskate to the highest order.
One night i called for two taxis and nobody wanted to share with her because they knew she would make some excuse for not chipping in. I was ready to leave her but as is the way with drunk mates someone always ready to bail you out.
My old flat mate used to head home just as it reached his round. So i more or less frog march him to the bar and place the order for him, pat him on the back and leave him to it.
One night i called for two taxis and nobody wanted to share with her because they knew she would make some excuse for not chipping in. I was ready to leave her but as is the way with drunk mates someone always ready to bail you out.
My old flat mate used to head home just as it reached his round. So i more or less frog march him to the bar and place the order for him, pat him on the back and leave him to it.
kennydies said:
The classic one last week is people came round for my birthday. A "friend" brought a bottle of whiskey for my birthday but didn't bring anything for himself to drink so ended up drinking my whiskey. Grr
Happens all the time. I tend to get JD as gifts, but of course they are empty by the end of the night because the people giving bottles of JD as a gift also drink JD. Doesn't really bother me too much though. There's an actual medical condition for it you know, Myroundaphobia 
I know a couple like this that I used to work with and get on with socially, they are otherwsie nice people but there's no getting away from it, they are as tight as a gnat's chuff when it comes to getting their shout in. They did try a stint of playing the game of I would buy a round, then they (treating themselves as one single entity) would buy a round, before it was back to me to buy one. f
k off! This is despite both being high-earners in IT. I soon dropped out of that and started going to the bar solo.
Fortunately my close drinking buddies are the opposite of this and everyone goes out of their way to make sure they are not seen as the tightwad jibbing out. We had a pub crawl the other week, there was much mirth about "It's my round .... when we get to The Wetherspoons!"
I know a couple like this that I used to work with and get on with socially, they are otherwsie nice people but there's no getting away from it, they are as tight as a gnat's chuff when it comes to getting their shout in. They did try a stint of playing the game of I would buy a round, then they (treating themselves as one single entity) would buy a round, before it was back to me to buy one. f
k off! This is despite both being high-earners in IT. I soon dropped out of that and started going to the bar solo. Fortunately my close drinking buddies are the opposite of this and everyone goes out of their way to make sure they are not seen as the tightwad jibbing out. We had a pub crawl the other week, there was much mirth about "It's my round .... when we get to The Wetherspoons!"
There was a chap in our shooting party that got away with it for months until I clocked on to it. He bought a round every week for weeks after that!
We were all happy to make allowances as he was a skint farm labourer but he took it way too far.
Another lad who wasn't hard up would always be the 1st to the bar at Wetherspoons or similar cheap establishments, put paid to that one too.
We were all happy to make allowances as he was a skint farm labourer but he took it way too far.
Another lad who wasn't hard up would always be the 1st to the bar at Wetherspoons or similar cheap establishments, put paid to that one too.
Cotty said:
Digga said:
Cotty said:
Most of the time there is not a spare table, we just stand at the bar, with other people coming and going.
Stand?!! You're not drinking enough. 
My daughter got married. The other family were deeply involved on speccing the wedding, venue, food etc, but of course didn't pay for any of it. The grooms father made a cake as he is a baker, and to be fair, not short of a few bob.
The weather was scorching on the day, and the venue was closer to them than me. Plus I had to go in a car with my daughter to the venue. So, I suggested that as the bar would not be able to open immediately after the ceremony, and it was hot could they pick up some soft drinks and get the to the venue to stop people from dehydrating in the heat while the photographer took the usual hours to take pictures. They got a 4 pack of coke and a 4 pack of lemonade... For 120 guests... Mostly their crew.
Anyway, after the ceremony and meal, I put a tab behind the bar. After a couple of hours they called me over and said it was 1200 quid. Carry on, let me know when it is 2 and a half grand. This conversation was overheard by one of the in law family, and inside 15 minutes, they all had 5 rounds each lined up on each table.
I kind of thought that was taking the piss, closed the tab and kind of half expected the other wker to pick it up out of guilt. Did he feck. Complete tight wads and leeches to a person.
ETA: when I say pick it up, I mean open a new one going forward for the last hour or so. I had paid the last one already and he had contributed precisely one bunch of cake ingredients and 8 bottles of pop to a £35 grand wedding that his wife and kids had specced, and was 75% attended by his lot...
The weather was scorching on the day, and the venue was closer to them than me. Plus I had to go in a car with my daughter to the venue. So, I suggested that as the bar would not be able to open immediately after the ceremony, and it was hot could they pick up some soft drinks and get the to the venue to stop people from dehydrating in the heat while the photographer took the usual hours to take pictures. They got a 4 pack of coke and a 4 pack of lemonade... For 120 guests... Mostly their crew.
Anyway, after the ceremony and meal, I put a tab behind the bar. After a couple of hours they called me over and said it was 1200 quid. Carry on, let me know when it is 2 and a half grand. This conversation was overheard by one of the in law family, and inside 15 minutes, they all had 5 rounds each lined up on each table.
I kind of thought that was taking the piss, closed the tab and kind of half expected the other w
ker to pick it up out of guilt. Did he feck. Complete tight wads and leeches to a person.ETA: when I say pick it up, I mean open a new one going forward for the last hour or so. I had paid the last one already and he had contributed precisely one bunch of cake ingredients and 8 bottles of pop to a £35 grand wedding that his wife and kids had specced, and was 75% attended by his lot...
Edited by SeeFive on Wednesday 30th November 14:17
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