Dodging Rounds
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rambo19 said:
Centurion07 said:
As long as someone doesn't mind being in charge of it.
And there is the problem, the person in charge of the kitty is the one constantly having to go to the bar.On a recent 'gentlemens weekend' in London I was deemed the sensible one and had to hold a drinks kitty for 8 people all weekend. It did get quite tedious being the one carrying the cash and paying at the bar all the time.
I was out with my 2 best mates yesterday and this thread was in the back of my mind...
So much so that, just as coffee's were being served at the end of the meal, I left to go to the Gents and walked past the bar and paid for the entire meal. I was conscious that the last time we went out we were short on time and only got 2 rounds in with me 'getting the first one in next time' - Religiously I always get the first round in whenever / wherever we go, but they beat me to it last time out as traffic delayed me and they got 2 rounds in at the first trip to the bar as it was busy - This time it was a fair amount, but as they are my best mates it's money well spent
So much so that, just as coffee's were being served at the end of the meal, I left to go to the Gents and walked past the bar and paid for the entire meal. I was conscious that the last time we went out we were short on time and only got 2 rounds in with me 'getting the first one in next time' - Religiously I always get the first round in whenever / wherever we go, but they beat me to it last time out as traffic delayed me and they got 2 rounds in at the first trip to the bar as it was busy - This time it was a fair amount, but as they are my best mates it's money well spent
Patrick Bateman said:
rambo19 said:
And there is the problem, the person in charge of the kitty is the one constantly having to go to the bar.
Or you just take it in turns and take whatever money you need from them at the time.dazwalsh said:
I have one mate who will sneakily avoid the odd round but he isnt on mega money so we humiliate him for a bit afterwards but then shrug it off. We know that he wouldnt be able to be out at all some nights if we didnt chip in a bit more.
My fiancé's friends are awful for it though, in particular one of them.
I went for a meal with her and 3 of her mates when we first met and the bill ended up in front of me. I opened it up, took the balance and divided it by 5 to get individual amounts imcluding a small tip. One of them piped up that she only had this and that and worked it out exact. Her figure was only a fiver different from the equal split, and she didnt throw in any tip which would have brought it down to about a £2 difference.
I refer to her as leach even to this day. The amount of wine she scrounges off the group on nights out or whilst round at ours is unreal. I have to put up with leach as she is a bridesmaid at our wedding.
please spell "leech" correctly when you put it on her name card at the weddingMy fiancé's friends are awful for it though, in particular one of them.
I went for a meal with her and 3 of her mates when we first met and the bill ended up in front of me. I opened it up, took the balance and divided it by 5 to get individual amounts imcluding a small tip. One of them piped up that she only had this and that and worked it out exact. Her figure was only a fiver different from the equal split, and she didnt throw in any tip which would have brought it down to about a £2 difference.
I refer to her as leach even to this day. The amount of wine she scrounges off the group on nights out or whilst round at ours is unreal. I have to put up with leach as she is a bridesmaid at our wedding.
My Mum just reminded me of a story that she has from a time she once invited friends over for a dinner party and told a couple to bring a pudding. This woman and her husband turned up with a 6 pack of yoghurts and after the party when nobody had eaten a yoghurt (because there were other options, luckily), she took them home again.
HarryFlatters said:
TEKNOPUG said:
IBest thing to do if in a group for a sessions is a simple £20 whip or similar.
This - £20 from everyone into the kitty and buy drinks from that.As in their everyday life they can pace themselves. They see a pot and spend spend spend.
Mrs 2CV has a friend... well i say friend... she always seems on the cusp of distancing herself from this friend, but never quite 'pulls the trigger' as it were... anyway this girl is a complete pain in the arse in many ways and just doesn't seem to get consideration for others. This is just one example... there are many regular ones.
She will regularly turn up at other peoples' houses e.g. drinks or dinner parties with tons of drink and food, snacks etc. She will show everyone what she has brought so they can all thank her for her gratitude and acknowledge this gesture, but then she will zip it in a bag and put in somewhere out of the way. She will take what she wants from in there as the night progresses, never offer anyone else anything from in there. She will also enjoy whatever is on offer from the hosts and then inevitably will take her full-to-brimming holdall away with her again when she leaves. Her friends have all worked out that she (being a bit large) likes to sit and eat her way through a hangover, and she's actually buying the food to eat by herself the day after the party, but seeks to legitimise it by pretending it is a host gift, and take the credit. I've encouraged Mrs 2CV on a few occasions over the years to bin the b
h off, but apparently "girls are too nice for that"!!
She will regularly turn up at other peoples' houses e.g. drinks or dinner parties with tons of drink and food, snacks etc. She will show everyone what she has brought so they can all thank her for her gratitude and acknowledge this gesture, but then she will zip it in a bag and put in somewhere out of the way. She will take what she wants from in there as the night progresses, never offer anyone else anything from in there. She will also enjoy whatever is on offer from the hosts and then inevitably will take her full-to-brimming holdall away with her again when she leaves. Her friends have all worked out that she (being a bit large) likes to sit and eat her way through a hangover, and she's actually buying the food to eat by herself the day after the party, but seeks to legitimise it by pretending it is a host gift, and take the credit. I've encouraged Mrs 2CV on a few occasions over the years to bin the b
h off, but apparently "girls are too nice for that"!!anonymous said:
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I would argue that dining out was not part of the 'take it in turns to have a dinner party' and thus the couple were under no obligation to pay towards your dinner.Though admittedly, I would probably just treat you to some M&S dinner for two's instead of inflicting my lack of culinary skills on you!
Patrick Bateman said:
Cotty said:
HarryFlatters said:
TEKNOPUG said:
IBest thing to do if in a group for a sessions is a simple £20 whip or similar.
This - £20 from everyone into the kitty and buy drinks from that.bulldong said:
My Mum just reminded me of a story that she has from a time she once invited friends over for a dinner party and told a couple to bring a pudding. This woman and her husband turned up with a 6 pack of yoghurts and after the party when nobody had eaten a yoghurt (because there were other options, luckily), she took them home again.
Lol, reminds me of my brother in law and his wife again (see my post a page or so back).For a few years we held had a BBQ at our place for the mum in laws birthday in August, we supply the majority of the food and one year asked the brother in law to bring the booze and any food that they fancy, him and his wife brought 1 bottle of low alcohol Rose'!!.
Another year we just said bring what you want to eat and drink and we will do the salads, they turned up with the bare minimum of reduced in price meat that had obviously been sat in their freezer for a fair while, for them and no booze, there was no way I was letting him have any of mine and fortunately he isn't that keen on cider or wine, so he sat sulking all night, making the odd comment about wanting a beer, the local shop is only a 5 minute walk away but he refused to go and get anything, it was quite funny.
We no longer do an official birthday BBQ for the MIL as the last few times the BIL has caused a scene, we now have a BBQ near her birthday and invite her and not them.
Blown2CV said:
Mrs 2CV has a friend... well i say friend... she always seems on the cusp of distancing herself from this friend, but never quite 'pulls the trigger' as it were... anyway this girl is a complete pain in the arse in many ways and just doesn't seem to get consideration for others. This is just one example... there are many regular ones.
She will regularly turn up at other peoples' houses e.g. drinks or dinner parties with tons of drink and food, snacks etc. She will show everyone what she has brought so they can all thank her for her gratitude and acknowledge this gesture, but then she will zip it in a bag and put in somewhere out of the way. She will take what she wants from in there as the night progresses, never offer anyone else anything from in there. She will also enjoy whatever is on offer from the hosts and then inevitably will take her full-to-brimming holdall away with her again when she leaves. Her friends have all worked out that she (being a bit large) likes to sit and eat her way through a hangover, and she's actually buying the food to eat by herself the day after the party, but seeks to legitimise it by pretending it is a host gift, and take the credit. I've encouraged Mrs 2CV on a few occasions over the years to bin the bh off, but apparently "girls are too nice for that"!!
She probably brings something to the friendship. Funny, edgy, stories etc. She will regularly turn up at other peoples' houses e.g. drinks or dinner parties with tons of drink and food, snacks etc. She will show everyone what she has brought so they can all thank her for her gratitude and acknowledge this gesture, but then she will zip it in a bag and put in somewhere out of the way. She will take what she wants from in there as the night progresses, never offer anyone else anything from in there. She will also enjoy whatever is on offer from the hosts and then inevitably will take her full-to-brimming holdall away with her again when she leaves. Her friends have all worked out that she (being a bit large) likes to sit and eat her way through a hangover, and she's actually buying the food to eat by herself the day after the party, but seeks to legitimise it by pretending it is a host gift, and take the credit. I've encouraged Mrs 2CV on a few occasions over the years to bin the b
h off, but apparently "girls are too nice for that"!!Some people are the gel, the person who gets everyone talking together through whatever means.
bulldong said:
anonymous said:
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How ridiculous. Cotty said:
Patrick Bateman said:
Cotty said:
HarryFlatters said:
TEKNOPUG said:
IBest thing to do if in a group for a sessions is a simple £20 whip or similar.
This - £20 from everyone into the kitty and buy drinks from that.ker than the guy that tries to stiff everyone! Who, when the idea of a kitty being proposed, would resolutely respond with "I don't carry cash"? That guy would be a of the highest order. If I was the kitty holder then I'd suggest we go to the cash machine with his card, start by withdrawing £100 and I'll charge 20% holding fee. So he's chucked in £80, and he also needs to keep track of how much he has contributed when the ensuing chuck ins happen. Blown2CV said:
having thought about it I do know people that do this. We are seeing a couple this week that insist we get a takeaway when we go to theirs, and split the bill, obvs. I don't want takeaway food and I don't want to pay either! I am sure it will happen again this week. At least one other couple have sprung this on us after being at their house for an hour. You don't just suddenly decide to get a takeaway.... it requires that you've had a number of days of not having bought any food, and also a number of hours that day of not having cooked it either.
We know a couple like this- they have two young boys. Very stressed/tired couple hora said:
Blown2CV said:
Mrs 2CV has a friend... well i say friend... she always seems on the cusp of distancing herself from this friend, but never quite 'pulls the trigger' as it were... anyway this girl is a complete pain in the arse in many ways and just doesn't seem to get consideration for others. This is just one example... there are many regular ones.
She will regularly turn up at other peoples' houses e.g. drinks or dinner parties with tons of drink and food, snacks etc. She will show everyone what she has brought so they can all thank her for her gratitude and acknowledge this gesture, but then she will zip it in a bag and put in somewhere out of the way. She will take what she wants from in there as the night progresses, never offer anyone else anything from in there. She will also enjoy whatever is on offer from the hosts and then inevitably will take her full-to-brimming holdall away with her again when she leaves. Her friends have all worked out that she (being a bit large) likes to sit and eat her way through a hangover, and she's actually buying the food to eat by herself the day after the party, but seeks to legitimise it by pretending it is a host gift, and take the credit. I've encouraged Mrs 2CV on a few occasions over the years to bin the bh off, but apparently "girls are too nice for that"!!
She probably brings something to the friendship. Funny, edgy, stories etc. She will regularly turn up at other peoples' houses e.g. drinks or dinner parties with tons of drink and food, snacks etc. She will show everyone what she has brought so they can all thank her for her gratitude and acknowledge this gesture, but then she will zip it in a bag and put in somewhere out of the way. She will take what she wants from in there as the night progresses, never offer anyone else anything from in there. She will also enjoy whatever is on offer from the hosts and then inevitably will take her full-to-brimming holdall away with her again when she leaves. Her friends have all worked out that she (being a bit large) likes to sit and eat her way through a hangover, and she's actually buying the food to eat by herself the day after the party, but seeks to legitimise it by pretending it is a host gift, and take the credit. I've encouraged Mrs 2CV on a few occasions over the years to bin the b
h off, but apparently "girls are too nice for that"!!Some people are the gel, the person who gets everyone talking together through whatever means.
hora said:
Blown2CV said:
Mrs 2CV has a friend... well i say friend... she always seems on the cusp of distancing herself from this friend, but never quite 'pulls the trigger' as it were... anyway this girl is a complete pain in the arse in many ways and just doesn't seem to get consideration for others. This is just one example... there are many regular ones.
She will regularly turn up at other peoples' houses e.g. drinks or dinner parties with tons of drink and food, snacks etc. She will show everyone what she has brought so they can all thank her for her gratitude and acknowledge this gesture, but then she will zip it in a bag and put in somewhere out of the way. She will take what she wants from in there as the night progresses, never offer anyone else anything from in there. She will also enjoy whatever is on offer from the hosts and then inevitably will take her full-to-brimming holdall away with her again when she leaves. Her friends have all worked out that she (being a bit large) likes to sit and eat her way through a hangover, and she's actually buying the food to eat by herself the day after the party, but seeks to legitimise it by pretending it is a host gift, and take the credit. I've encouraged Mrs 2CV on a few occasions over the years to bin the bh off, but apparently "girls are too nice for that"!!
She probably brings something to the friendship. Funny, edgy, stories etc. She will regularly turn up at other peoples' houses e.g. drinks or dinner parties with tons of drink and food, snacks etc. She will show everyone what she has brought so they can all thank her for her gratitude and acknowledge this gesture, but then she will zip it in a bag and put in somewhere out of the way. She will take what she wants from in there as the night progresses, never offer anyone else anything from in there. She will also enjoy whatever is on offer from the hosts and then inevitably will take her full-to-brimming holdall away with her again when she leaves. Her friends have all worked out that she (being a bit large) likes to sit and eat her way through a hangover, and she's actually buying the food to eat by herself the day after the party, but seeks to legitimise it by pretending it is a host gift, and take the credit. I've encouraged Mrs 2CV on a few occasions over the years to bin the b
h off, but apparently "girls are too nice for that"!!Some people are the gel, the person who gets everyone talking together through whatever means.
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