Dodging Rounds
Discussion
I've been guilty of this (a bit) years ago. Would go out with work colleagues, most of whom were on a lot more money than me. They'd get the early rounds in, by the time it was my turn people would be disappearing off so less drinks for me to buy 
Not proud, but I like to think I make up for it now
Not that long ago there were 4 or 5 of us who lived close enough to each other to share a taxi. It became a running joke that one guy (a fairly senior manager) would manage to avoid paying. Journey would go something like:
Colleague 1 dropped off - here's a tenner for the taxi
Colleague 2 dropped off - here's another tenner
Colleague 3 dropped off - see you Monday
Me (usually last) - here you go mate, 30 quid, keep the change
Not proud, but I like to think I make up for it now
Not that long ago there were 4 or 5 of us who lived close enough to each other to share a taxi. It became a running joke that one guy (a fairly senior manager) would manage to avoid paying. Journey would go something like:
Colleague 1 dropped off - here's a tenner for the taxi
Colleague 2 dropped off - here's another tenner
Colleague 3 dropped off - see you Monday
Me (usually last) - here you go mate, 30 quid, keep the change
ashleyman said:
Guilty of this on Saturday. Totally not planned but I got half way home and realised that me and my wife had been bought drinks and we left when it was our round. It was OUR round and we left. Feel so bad!!! 
Everyone drops the ball from time to time - or circumstances just don't work out. I think this thread is more for the serial offenders - people you just know will try and doge every time.
When I go out with mates - I am usually one of the first to leave, but if it's been a few rounds since I last bought - I make a point of buying (or at the very least offering) a round as I leave.
TEKNOPUG said:
I know people who will order the most expensive premium beer on tap when it's someone else's round but buy themselves a coke or whenever when it's theirs. Dicks.
What's wrong with them buying themselves a coke? So long as you're getting back from them, something equivalent to what you're getting them?SeeFive said:
My daughter got married. The other family were deeply involved on speccing the wedding, venue, food etc, but of course didn't pay for any of it. The grooms father made a cake as he is a baker, and to be fair, not short of a few bob.
The weather was scorching on the day, and the venue was closer to them than me. Plus I had to go in a car with my daughter to the venue. So, I suggested that as the bar would not be able to open immediately after the ceremony, and it was hot could they pick up some soft drinks and get the to the venue to stop people from dehydrating in the heat while the photographer took the usual hours to take pictures. They got a 4 pack of coke and a 4 pack of lemonade... For 120 guests... Mostly their crew.
Anyway, after the ceremony and meal, I put a tab behind the bar. After a couple of hours they called me over and said it was 1200 quid. Carry on, let me know when it is 2 and a half grand. This conversation was overheard by one of the in law family, and inside 15 minutes, they all had 5 rounds each lined up on each table.
I kind of thought that was taking the piss, closed the tab and kind of half expected the other w
ker to pick it up out of guilt. Did he feck. Complete tight wads and leeches to a person.
ETA: when I say pick it up, I mean open a new one going forward for the last hour or so. I had paid the last one already and he had contributed precisely one bunch of cake ingredients and 8 bottles of pop to a £35 grand wedding that his wife and kids had specced, and was 75% attended by his lot...
I seethed quite a lot reading that.The weather was scorching on the day, and the venue was closer to them than me. Plus I had to go in a car with my daughter to the venue. So, I suggested that as the bar would not be able to open immediately after the ceremony, and it was hot could they pick up some soft drinks and get the to the venue to stop people from dehydrating in the heat while the photographer took the usual hours to take pictures. They got a 4 pack of coke and a 4 pack of lemonade... For 120 guests... Mostly their crew.
Anyway, after the ceremony and meal, I put a tab behind the bar. After a couple of hours they called me over and said it was 1200 quid. Carry on, let me know when it is 2 and a half grand. This conversation was overheard by one of the in law family, and inside 15 minutes, they all had 5 rounds each lined up on each table.
I kind of thought that was taking the piss, closed the tab and kind of half expected the other w
ker to pick it up out of guilt. Did he feck. Complete tight wads and leeches to a person.ETA: when I say pick it up, I mean open a new one going forward for the last hour or so. I had paid the last one already and he had contributed precisely one bunch of cake ingredients and 8 bottles of pop to a £35 grand wedding that his wife and kids had specced, and was 75% attended by his lot...
Edited by SeeFive on Wednesday 30th November 14:17
tannhauser said:
TEKNOPUG said:
I know people who will order the most expensive premium beer on tap when it's someone else's round but buy themselves a coke or whenever when it's theirs. Dicks.
What's wrong with them buying themselves a coke? So long as you're getting back from them, something equivalent to what you're getting them?
PurpleTurtle said:
I know a couple like this that I used to work with and get on with socially, they are otherwsie nice people but there's no getting away from it, they are as tight as a gnat's chuff when it comes to getting their shout in. They did try a stint of playing the game of I would buy a round, then they (treating themselves as one single entity) would buy a round, before it was back to me to buy one. f
k off! This is despite both being high-earners in IT. I soon dropped out of that and started going to the bar solo. Another one concerns a chum who I've been meeting for a pint every couple of weeks for years now. For a while his brother started joining us, no problem there at all. But then the brother's son started coming along too. No problem with that either, a nice enough lad, but of course he never put his hand in his pocket once, week in week out. Went on for months. And the son was working!! If I'd been the father I'd have made sure he got his round in, or if he was a bit skint I'd have slipped him £20 before we went out to make sure he could.
Years ago, a few of my friends (teenagers) joined in socialising with an existing and slightly older group. The younguns were all students with limited means, and the older ones of the group were gracious enough to buy more rounds than we did. But one lad never, ever bought a round, and after a while people started to notice. We'd drop subtle hints and he'd always have an excuse - forgot my wallet, etc.
Eventually, one of the group got fed up enough to make an issue out of it. Over a few weeks he'd been commenting to him "You will get us a drink next week, won't you Tony?", so the lad had fair warning. We all thought he was finally going to cough for a round. Then stood at the bar he got put on the spot about it: "I thought you were joking" was his reply, "I've only got enough for a half". So he bought the bloke who'd been most vocal half a beer, with a pile of pocket change, and sat nursing a glass of water himself for the next hour.
Roll on 20 years, and this lad has had a bit of a sheltered life - married to the girl he'd been with since he was 15, and she keeps him on a very short lead. We're still pretty much the closest thing he has to any friends, but he literally never socialises with anyone. One of the group got married a couple of years ago, and we all got together for the stag do. Tony is still exactly the same - had to twist his arm to get a single round out of him (this is after he'd been on the receiving end of several from each of us). He just can't see the issue, some people never change.
Eventually, one of the group got fed up enough to make an issue out of it. Over a few weeks he'd been commenting to him "You will get us a drink next week, won't you Tony?", so the lad had fair warning. We all thought he was finally going to cough for a round. Then stood at the bar he got put on the spot about it: "I thought you were joking" was his reply, "I've only got enough for a half". So he bought the bloke who'd been most vocal half a beer, with a pile of pocket change, and sat nursing a glass of water himself for the next hour.
Roll on 20 years, and this lad has had a bit of a sheltered life - married to the girl he'd been with since he was 15, and she keeps him on a very short lead. We're still pretty much the closest thing he has to any friends, but he literally never socialises with anyone. One of the group got married a couple of years ago, and we all got together for the stag do. Tony is still exactly the same - had to twist his arm to get a single round out of him (this is after he'd been on the receiving end of several from each of us). He just can't see the issue, some people never change.
tannhauser said:
What's wrong with them buying themselves a coke? So long as you're getting back from them, something equivalent to what you're getting them?
They are placing the burden of cost of their drinking onto you - that's the problem. They are intentionally making their rounds cheaper - whilst making your rounds more expensive. Over the course of a few rounds - this can mount up.If you cant keep up in rounds - either do go into them, or order halves on each round.
With these people - it never seems to work the other way (i.e. they buy themselves beer when it's their round - and coke when it's yours).
Yes. I noticed it early, he'd (and his mrs! She was just as bad!) would get to the pub first, and hang around in the foyer, waiting for me or someone else going straight to the bar. He wasn't really my friend, would just be out sometimes. So I let it pass initially. As time went on, I started not buying him drinks when it was my round, which would at least make him get the next one. As time went on and things generally didn't improve, I started calling him 'Budmiser'. I don't think he liked that much, but meh.
Edited by Tonsko on Wednesday 30th November 17:03
Worked at a place some years ago where there was one guy who was never invited on work outings. Apparently they'd all gone out for a curry one time, and he'd had no cash on him, so said he'd pay the lot by card and take the cash. Everyone else chucked in some cash including tip, he pocketed the cash and paid the amount on the bill, ie pocketed the tip. Next time they went out he did it again so they never invited him again.
I'm usually poor, and only go out for the christmas party at work, or other work sponsored drinks. When the tab runs out and I have £30 in my pocket for the night the rounds usually start. So I make a loud point of saying 'sorry, count me out, I can't afford to get a round when its my turn' etc poor excuses.
Fair enough, everyone isn't expecting me to have my turn, and I purposefully step away. But (and I know this is a bit cheeky) everyone is so pissed they won't take that and say fk it don't worry, have a drink... Not one to turn down a free drink I say go on then, I'll have a pint rather than the cocktail/shots everyone else is having.
Everyone ends up so stfaced by the end of the night they don't remember. I usually add some value back though as by 1am all the smokers have run out of smokes, so I make them rollies.
So yes I'm usually a round dodger, but not sneakily. I always get the beers in when I can with the colleague I like the most when we have a lunchtime drink as and when I can. But we have a mutual understanding (not of the bum variety).
Fair enough, everyone isn't expecting me to have my turn, and I purposefully step away. But (and I know this is a bit cheeky) everyone is so pissed they won't take that and say f
k it don't worry, have a drink... Not one to turn down a free drink I say go on then, I'll have a pint rather than the cocktail/shots everyone else is having.Everyone ends up so s
tfaced by the end of the night they don't remember. I usually add some value back though as by 1am all the smokers have run out of smokes, so I make them rollies.So yes I'm usually a round dodger, but not sneakily. I always get the beers in when I can with the colleague I like the most when we have a lunchtime drink as and when I can. But we have a mutual understanding (not of the bum variety).
I would have no problem with a person who is tight on finances asking to sit out the rounds. I'd even make sure they still get bought drinks so they can enjoy their night out. It's more about the principle than the money.
It's the secret round dodgers who can afford it that agitate me.
It's the secret round dodgers who can afford it that agitate me.
Had a guy who did this but would also do something else
About 7 years I worked at a good IT company, lots of money sloshing about the younguns
We would all go out for a meal, say mine came to 27, I'd put in 30 cash
Every one did this, bit of give and take.
Bloke from finance would collect the money and pay
Turns out he would pay on his card then pocket the change, leaving no tip
Get a table of ten to twenty and this added up to a nice chunk
I seem to remember hr getting involved with that one and we would always end up at Nando's where you pay individually up front.
About 7 years I worked at a good IT company, lots of money sloshing about the younguns
We would all go out for a meal, say mine came to 27, I'd put in 30 cash
Every one did this, bit of give and take.
Bloke from finance would collect the money and pay
Turns out he would pay on his card then pocket the change, leaving no tip
Get a table of ten to twenty and this added up to a nice chunk
I seem to remember hr getting involved with that one and we would always end up at Nando's where you pay individually up front.
I had a mate who always used to dodge his round. This was when we were 20'ish. Half of us were students and the other half in poor paying entry level jobs.
The dodger had quite a few tricks up his sleeve.
His favourite was when it was his round he'd get 'distracted' on the way to the bar. Be it going to the toilet, playing the puggy, chatting to a friend, etc , etc.
Anyhoos we'd get fed up waiting so eventually somebody would cave and get a round in minus his. He'd then come back sit down and ask where his was. "You were getting the round" we'd all shout. Oh aye I forgot, he say and then go and buy just a drink for himself cos we all already had one. Did it probably every 2nd week.
Also had another mate who would count back how many rounds he bought the previous week and how many we'd all bought. For example he'd bought 2 rounds last week to my 1 round so it was my round next. One week he counted back about 4 weeks rhyming off how many rounds everybody had bought. Was very tiresome going drinking with him.
In each case they didn't think they were doing anything wrong. They genuinely thought they were doing the right thing to ensure they weren't getting ripped off and everybody else was paying their fair share.
The dodger had quite a few tricks up his sleeve.
His favourite was when it was his round he'd get 'distracted' on the way to the bar. Be it going to the toilet, playing the puggy, chatting to a friend, etc , etc.
Anyhoos we'd get fed up waiting so eventually somebody would cave and get a round in minus his. He'd then come back sit down and ask where his was. "You were getting the round" we'd all shout. Oh aye I forgot, he say and then go and buy just a drink for himself cos we all already had one. Did it probably every 2nd week.
Also had another mate who would count back how many rounds he bought the previous week and how many we'd all bought. For example he'd bought 2 rounds last week to my 1 round so it was my round next. One week he counted back about 4 weeks rhyming off how many rounds everybody had bought. Was very tiresome going drinking with him.
In each case they didn't think they were doing anything wrong. They genuinely thought they were doing the right thing to ensure they weren't getting ripped off and everybody else was paying their fair share.
HarryFlatters said:
TEKNOPUG said:
IBest thing to do if in a group for a sessions is a simple £20 whip or similar.
This - £20 from everyone into the kitty and buy drinks from that.I had a ex friend who was a bloody miser, always dodging rounds, hence, ex friend.
Zodiac M said:
SeeFive said:
My daughter got married. The other family were deeply involved on speccing the wedding, venue, food etc, but of course didn't pay for any of it. The grooms father made a cake as he is a baker, and to be fair, not short of a few bob.
The weather was scorching on the day, and the venue was closer to them than me. Plus I had to go in a car with my daughter to the venue. So, I suggested that as the bar would not be able to open immediately after the ceremony, and it was hot could they pick up some soft drinks and get the to the venue to stop people from dehydrating in the heat while the photographer took the usual hours to take pictures. They got a 4 pack of coke and a 4 pack of lemonade... For 120 guests... Mostly their crew.
Anyway, after the ceremony and meal, I put a tab behind the bar. After a couple of hours they called me over and said it was 1200 quid. Carry on, let me know when it is 2 and a half grand. This conversation was overheard by one of the in law family, and inside 15 minutes, they all had 5 rounds each lined up on each table.
I kind of thought that was taking the piss, closed the tab and kind of half expected the other wker to pick it up out of guilt. Did he feck. Complete tight wads and leeches to a person.
ETA: when I say pick it up, I mean open a new one going forward for the last hour or so. I had paid the last one already and he had contributed precisely one bunch of cake ingredients and 8 bottles of pop to a £35 grand wedding that his wife and kids had specced, and was 75% attended by his lot...
I seethed quite a lot reading that.The weather was scorching on the day, and the venue was closer to them than me. Plus I had to go in a car with my daughter to the venue. So, I suggested that as the bar would not be able to open immediately after the ceremony, and it was hot could they pick up some soft drinks and get the to the venue to stop people from dehydrating in the heat while the photographer took the usual hours to take pictures. They got a 4 pack of coke and a 4 pack of lemonade... For 120 guests... Mostly their crew.
Anyway, after the ceremony and meal, I put a tab behind the bar. After a couple of hours they called me over and said it was 1200 quid. Carry on, let me know when it is 2 and a half grand. This conversation was overheard by one of the in law family, and inside 15 minutes, they all had 5 rounds each lined up on each table.
I kind of thought that was taking the piss, closed the tab and kind of half expected the other w
ker to pick it up out of guilt. Did he feck. Complete tight wads and leeches to a person.ETA: when I say pick it up, I mean open a new one going forward for the last hour or so. I had paid the last one already and he had contributed precisely one bunch of cake ingredients and 8 bottles of pop to a £35 grand wedding that his wife and kids had specced, and was 75% attended by his lot...
Edited by SeeFive on Wednesday 30th November 14:17
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