Christmas Bad News
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Thanks for the kind replies all.
I guess what makes this even worse is that because of the severe morning sickness we had to tell my wife's family. They were super supportive but also super excited going into John lewis and looking at prams etc. I tried to pour cold water on all that saying its still v early because I knew, in particular after reading this thread at Xmas, that horrible stuff can and does happen to good people, for no reason at all.
Unfortunately my caution was well founded and my wifes mum is as upset as she is.
Further complications involve having to tell two of our neighbours who accidentally found out too as one owns the pharmacy we had to get some morning sickness tablet from and another is a gp who saw her puking up as we were going to hospital. He is a doctor and so we told him. So I guess we will have to tell them too, or I will, In case they see her in the street and ask her how she is doing. Sounds like a small thing but its just an additional hassle and s
t thing to have to do.
The missus will be OK, I'm sure of it. She also had a mild form of depression before all this which triggered it off becoming even worse. Basically if it could go wrong it did go wrong on this occasion
Better luck next time to all who need it eh.
I guess what makes this even worse is that because of the severe morning sickness we had to tell my wife's family. They were super supportive but also super excited going into John lewis and looking at prams etc. I tried to pour cold water on all that saying its still v early because I knew, in particular after reading this thread at Xmas, that horrible stuff can and does happen to good people, for no reason at all.
Unfortunately my caution was well founded and my wifes mum is as upset as she is.
Further complications involve having to tell two of our neighbours who accidentally found out too as one owns the pharmacy we had to get some morning sickness tablet from and another is a gp who saw her puking up as we were going to hospital. He is a doctor and so we told him. So I guess we will have to tell them too, or I will, In case they see her in the street and ask her how she is doing. Sounds like a small thing but its just an additional hassle and s
t thing to have to do.The missus will be OK, I'm sure of it. She also had a mild form of depression before all this which triggered it off becoming even worse. Basically if it could go wrong it did go wrong on this occasion
Better luck next time to all who need it eh.
Wishing you and the OH all the best. PP,
my sister went through the same. After a while she accepted the fact that it was natures way of rejecting a rather incomplete ( as she put it) baby and the body took the dcision.
Year later 1 healthy baby girl followed by a brother in another year.
time is a healer, iwish you a mrs pp all the very best. lightining very rarely strikes twices ( well i does, but you know what i mean)
my sister went through the same. After a while she accepted the fact that it was natures way of rejecting a rather incomplete ( as she put it) baby and the body took the dcision.
Year later 1 healthy baby girl followed by a brother in another year.
time is a healer, iwish you a mrs pp all the very best. lightining very rarely strikes twices ( well i does, but you know what i mean)
Bloody hell, as other have said,reading this thread at Christmas was genuinely hard, especially as my wife and I were at an early stage ourselves. My thoughts are with you both at this time, I can't begine to imagine what it's like. Don't be afraid to look for help and support over the coming weeks, and strange though it may seem, PH is a good place to find both, especially the Health section.
PP - sorry to hear this - it really is rubbish, but it does slowly get better. Personally, I would say having the support of the family is far better than having to deal with it on your own. Never mind the MIL is upset - you two are priority one right now. I can honestly say our little boy is the most amazing thing I have ever seen, but I can totally understand why you would think twice about going through this again. Everyone is different, but now isn't the time for decisions, just hugs and comfort.
princeperch said:
Thanks for the kind replies all.
I guess what makes this even worse is that because of the severe morning sickness we had to tell my wife's family. They were super supportive but also super excited going into John lewis and looking at prams etc. I tried to pour cold water on all that saying its still v early because I knew, in particular after reading this thread at Xmas, that horrible stuff can and does happen to good people, for no reason at all.
Unfortunately my caution was well founded and my wifes mum is as upset as she is.
Further complications involve having to tell two of our neighbours who accidentally found out too as one owns the pharmacy we had to get some morning sickness tablet from and another is a gp who saw her puking up as we were going to hospital. He is a doctor and so we told him. So I guess we will have to tell them too, or I will, In case they see her in the street and ask her how she is doing. Sounds like a small thing but its just an additional hassle and st thing to have to do.
The missus will be OK, I'm sure of it. She also had a mild form of depression before all this which triggered it off becoming even worse. Basically if it could go wrong it did go wrong on this occasion
Better luck next time to all who need it eh.
We had 4 in all. Every one hits hard, more so on the Mrs. than me, but you can almost taste the hurt and dare I say it despair. I guess what makes this even worse is that because of the severe morning sickness we had to tell my wife's family. They were super supportive but also super excited going into John lewis and looking at prams etc. I tried to pour cold water on all that saying its still v early because I knew, in particular after reading this thread at Xmas, that horrible stuff can and does happen to good people, for no reason at all.
Unfortunately my caution was well founded and my wifes mum is as upset as she is.
Further complications involve having to tell two of our neighbours who accidentally found out too as one owns the pharmacy we had to get some morning sickness tablet from and another is a gp who saw her puking up as we were going to hospital. He is a doctor and so we told him. So I guess we will have to tell them too, or I will, In case they see her in the street and ask her how she is doing. Sounds like a small thing but its just an additional hassle and s
t thing to have to do.The missus will be OK, I'm sure of it. She also had a mild form of depression before all this which triggered it off becoming even worse. Basically if it could go wrong it did go wrong on this occasion
Better luck next time to all who need it eh.
However we have two wonderful kids (18 and 15) and you just treasure them even more after all the heartbreak.
That is AWESOME news!
And in a twist of fate Lady F is also pregnant after 10 months of trying - but very early days and we are both terrified it's going to go wrong again. Very odd experience: none of the excitement of the last time, only dread that it's all going to go south again. We are going for a private early scan on Wednesday - 8 weeks. Useless really as they won't be able to tell if it has chromosomal deficiencies like the last time, but we both felt we had to do something...
Well done PP. hopefully in a few weeks we'll join you in celebration!
And in a twist of fate Lady F is also pregnant after 10 months of trying - but very early days and we are both terrified it's going to go wrong again. Very odd experience: none of the excitement of the last time, only dread that it's all going to go south again. We are going for a private early scan on Wednesday - 8 weeks. Useless really as they won't be able to tell if it has chromosomal deficiencies like the last time, but we both felt we had to do something...
Well done PP. hopefully in a few weeks we'll join you in celebration!
Fantastic news everyone.
We suffered three miscarriages when trying for our 2nd. Heart breaking and with the 2nd two very close together (we suspect it was twins). Not long after we had a baby girl.
The 3rd on the other hand was a complete unexpected surprise! (Guess whose since had the snip).
We suffered three miscarriages when trying for our 2nd. Heart breaking and with the 2nd two very close together (we suspect it was twins). Not long after we had a baby girl.
The 3rd on the other hand was a complete unexpected surprise! (Guess whose since had the snip).
Harry Flashman said:
That is AWESOME news!
And in a twist of fate Lady F is also pregnant after 10 months of trying - but very early days and we are both terrified it's going to go wrong again. Very odd experience: none of the excitement of the last time, only dread that it's all going to go south again. We are going for a private early scan on Wednesday - 8 weeks. Useless really as they won't be able to tell if it has chromosomal deficiencies like the last time, but we both felt we had to do something...
Well done PP. hopefully in a few weeks we'll join you in celebration!
Nice one Harry. I think that like you say very little will be revealed at the scan , however, if it's a way of lady F feeling like she has a bit of control over the situation, then that is no bad thing at all and might make her feel a bit better about things. And in a twist of fate Lady F is also pregnant after 10 months of trying - but very early days and we are both terrified it's going to go wrong again. Very odd experience: none of the excitement of the last time, only dread that it's all going to go south again. We are going for a private early scan on Wednesday - 8 weeks. Useless really as they won't be able to tell if it has chromosomal deficiencies like the last time, but we both felt we had to do something...
Well done PP. hopefully in a few weeks we'll join you in celebration!
I have my fingers crossed for you both that this all works out- I truly do.
Harry Flashman said:
That is AWESOME news!
And in a twist of fate Lady F is also pregnant after 10 months of trying - but very early days and we are both terrified it's going to go wrong again. Very odd experience: none of the excitement of the last time, only dread that it's all going to go south again. We are going for a private early scan on Wednesday - 8 weeks. Useless really as they won't be able to tell if it has chromosomal deficiencies like the last time, but we both felt we had to do something...
Well done PP. hopefully in a few weeks we'll join you in celebration!
We felt the same sense of fear throughout the pregnancy (having lost what should have been our first through a late miscarriage) and I doubt you’ll escape that feeling throughout, the overwhelming sense of relief at a healthy birth was a massive release point for both of us, we couldn’t face going through that stress for a couple of years following No1, finally got pregnant with No2 and it was a much more happy/chilled experience - the little darlings are 25 & 22 now. I guess what I’m trying to say is that what you are feeling.....is normal! And in a twist of fate Lady F is also pregnant after 10 months of trying - but very early days and we are both terrified it's going to go wrong again. Very odd experience: none of the excitement of the last time, only dread that it's all going to go south again. We are going for a private early scan on Wednesday - 8 weeks. Useless really as they won't be able to tell if it has chromosomal deficiencies like the last time, but we both felt we had to do something...
Well done PP. hopefully in a few weeks we'll join you in celebration!
Fingers firmly crossed for you & Mrs F ;-)
Jim
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