Help 6yr old son stealing and lying
Discussion
amusingduck said:
alorotom said:
Rawwr said:
Have you tried throwing his TV out of the window?
Can't believe that hadn't been acknowledged ... laughing my socks off at that! 
What you are all failing to remember is the simple fact it was my TV not his.
Perhaps flush his favourite teddy bear down the toilet when the teddy bear is caught stealing, with a marked coin?
cat with a hat said:
What the f
k is a 6 year old doing with £110?
And why is nobody else batting an eye lid?
Pocket money, rewards, birthday or christmas money.k is a 6 year old doing with £110?And why is nobody else batting an eye lid?
They don't have many bills, it soon builds up. Mine just spent £70 of his money on a lego set (he's 7) - Which amusingly in the theme of this thread is a prison island theme "for robbers".
A 6yo should know it's wrong and I'd suggest the Op's son does as he's hiding it. Whenever I've had similar issues I've just asked them how they would feel if someone took a favourite toy. It's something they can relate to.
cat with a hat said:
What the fk is a 6 year old doing with £110?
And why is nobody else batting an eye lid?
This is, in my opinion part of the problem, you/relatives have previously been too generous, and allowed him to "save" that much money, and not encouraged him to spend/enjoy it to understand its value/use.k is a 6 year old doing with £110?And why is nobody else batting an eye lid?
If you have 110 of something laying around your room, another £1 doesn’t seem a big deal, it de-values it.
I know the principle is the issue, not the amount, but you have normalised and probably prioritised quite high value money.
When I was 6, I probably had between 25p and £2 to my name, depending on if I had just "pulled the trigger" on a toy/ice lolly.
Even when I was 15, I got a summer job at a printing company and at the end of the first day I was handed £50 cash, I sat there for about 15 minutes looking at and counting it, i had never owned so much money in my life (bikes. big toys etc were got for me as xmas presents).
Shakermaker said:
I was 6 once. 26 years ago now.
He is pushing the limits and doesn't understand the consequence of what he is doing and the impact it has. He sees that these coins have a value to people, and so he wants more of them and thinks he can get away with it.
Talk to him. Just talk to him. Explain why it is wrong, and try and link it to something he can comprehend. No need yet to get the police involved; but explain to him how stealing is wrong, and lying is wrong and what would he feel if someone stole his actual favourite toy, and how bad he would feel if he knew the person who stole it was lying about it.
Why does he want this money? What is it for? Find out. Then try and use that to set a goal for him to work towards maybe? If he tells the truth, and behaves properly then a reward? Reward systems seem to work well with children. They can see their progress, they can see their goal at the end. As my wife will tell you, she's a primary school teacher, children of that age will do nearly ANYTHING for a sticker on their acheivement chart.
+1He is pushing the limits and doesn't understand the consequence of what he is doing and the impact it has. He sees that these coins have a value to people, and so he wants more of them and thinks he can get away with it.
Talk to him. Just talk to him. Explain why it is wrong, and try and link it to something he can comprehend. No need yet to get the police involved; but explain to him how stealing is wrong, and lying is wrong and what would he feel if someone stole his actual favourite toy, and how bad he would feel if he knew the person who stole it was lying about it.
Why does he want this money? What is it for? Find out. Then try and use that to set a goal for him to work towards maybe? If he tells the truth, and behaves properly then a reward? Reward systems seem to work well with children. They can see their progress, they can see their goal at the end. As my wife will tell you, she's a primary school teacher, children of that age will do nearly ANYTHING for a sticker on their acheivement chart.
6 is slightly to young for many to attach consequences to actions. This is a boundary test, and probably hints at something else underlying, rather than being ' a thing' / hint of future behaviour that requires.
It may well take some patience, subtlety, listening and love to uncover the why.
'Angryness' alone (and its expressions, as some dolts above suggest) is something children that young react too, - usually badly overall - but certainly do not/will not understand. And it won't *ever* fix the cause, which is likely something really /desperately simple (to the adult that listens)
ATB, OP.
Edited by Huff on Monday 27th February 21:03
It's got £110 through gifts from in-laws, uncles, aunt's. Etc.
He's not a slender. Let's hope we tweak one habit but avoid him become a habitual living on credit adult.
Still don't have a clue about the TV/window. I'm guessing this is a pH topic where one PH'er is now being continually reminded by select others.
He's not a slender. Let's hope we tweak one habit but avoid him become a habitual living on credit adult.
Still don't have a clue about the TV/window. I'm guessing this is a pH topic where one PH'er is now being continually reminded by select others.
Nanook said:
So, you're not going to address any of the points, you're not going to use anything else I've said, instead, you're going to try to gather some bandwagon jumpers to prove, using only my word, that I was being agressive, based on a fraction of what I've posted here in this thread, when they only person here that was present at the time is me, and I'm stating that I wasn't being aggressive, I was clear, concise, and firm.
I can if you think there is a point. I've been parenting since last you got spittle on your screen.blugnu said:
gtidriver said:
I told my son from an early age that at birth we allowed the police to finger print and take a dna swab, if he plays up i remind him that the police have his details..
You're joking, right? Nanook said:
I had someone near me recently tell their kid that "That bad man will take you away if you don't do what your told"
sleepera6 said:
She called an innocent man off the street a fking paedophile. And used him to tell off her own kids.. teaching the kids that innocent men are paedophiles.
How is that not wrong?
I think we've been reading a different thread. Where is the paedophile accusation?king paedophile. And used him to tell off her own kids.. teaching the kids that innocent men are paedophiles.How is that not wrong?
blugnu said:
Nanook said:
I had someone near me recently tell their kid that "That bad man will take you away if you don't do what your told"
sleepera6 said:
She called an innocent man off the street a fking paedophile. And used him to tell off her own kids.. teaching the kids that innocent men are paedophiles.
How is that not wrong?
I think we've been reading a different thread. Where is the paedophile accusation?king paedophile. And used him to tell off her own kids.. teaching the kids that innocent men are paedophiles.How is that not wrong?
Doesn't ring a bell about Mark Bridger...Madelaine McCann's disappearance.. no?
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