Anyone else's wife faff about un-necessarily?
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Pit Pony said:
Yesterday I was chastised by my wife, for getting up, picking up our lap trays (we had our evening meal in bed) and saying, " Right. I'm off to wash up." Apparently normal people don't announce what they are about to do next. Apparently she hates my running commentary.
This was pointed out to her the same day by said nephew, who pointed out that he thinks its weird when people (at home or work) announce that they are going to the loo, going to the canteen, going for a walk, going to put some washing on, going to make a coffee, going to a meeting. My wife agrees with him.
I think it's weird not to.
But today I'm going to try not to announce anything.
I do this and I know precisely why. This was pointed out to her the same day by said nephew, who pointed out that he thinks its weird when people (at home or work) announce that they are going to the loo, going to the canteen, going for a walk, going to put some washing on, going to make a coffee, going to a meeting. My wife agrees with him.
I think it's weird not to.
But today I'm going to try not to announce anything.
We have a cat, who is spoiled. Mrs D adopts an "anything he wants" attitude, whereas I adopt an "anything he wants, so long as it doesn't put out the humans in the family" approach. He knows this, so if he has a choice of laps in the evening he'll sit on Mrs D, who will then decide that she cannot possibly move the cat off to do something. I swear that if the house was on fire I'd have to physically remove the cat so she would get up.
Which meant I got tired of the "whilst you're up..." jobs, and I got tired of saying "just kick the cat off and do it yourself". So now it's like a pre-emptive "I am already doing a thing, any additional things you require will necessitate the removal of the smug feline from your lap" flag.
I am also what I believe is termed a "completer/finisher" in some HR psycho-b
ks I did years back. If I have 10 jobs to do, I like to complete them sequentially, and get perturbed if someone starts trying to reorder them or insert new work that I know I cannot get finished in the time that I allotted for those 10 jobs. So I don't like being given extra jobs when I've already decided what my jobs for the evening are. 57Ford said:
Some people can be a little limited by a long-standing health condition so rather than them eating alone, perhaps their partner may choose to eat alongside them. Just saying…
Thank you.My wife has Chronic Fatigue (ME). Yesterday evening she was suffering Post Exertional Malaise. In effect she'd pushed herself too hard. So she went to bed for a rest whilst I made the tea (it's a northern thing..like Dinner in the South, Not to be confused by dinner, which I understand they call lunch).
I'd rather eat at the dinning table, so I always lay it up and then when it's ready give her the option.
CanAm said:
Pit Pony said:
Yesterday I was chastised by my wife, for getting up, picking up our lap trays (we had our evening meal in bed) and saying, " Right. I'm off to wash up." Apparently normal people don't announce what they are about to do next. Apparently she hates my running commentary.
This was pointed out to her the same day by said nephew, who pointed out that he thinks its weird when people (at home or work) announce that they are going to the loo, going to the canteen, going for a walk, going to put some washing on, going to make a coffee, going to a meeting. My wife agrees with him.
I think it's weird not to.
But today I'm going to try not to announce anything.
On the other hand, whenever I left the room, my wife would always ask me where was I going or what was I doing.......This was pointed out to her the same day by said nephew, who pointed out that he thinks its weird when people (at home or work) announce that they are going to the loo, going to the canteen, going for a walk, going to put some washing on, going to make a coffee, going to a meeting. My wife agrees with him.
I think it's weird not to.
But today I'm going to try not to announce anything.
Skyedriver said:
CanAm said:
On the other hand, whenever I left the room, my wife would always ask me where was I going or what was I doing.......
You too eh!Then there's the "what are you doing tomorrow/this afternoon/today etc"?
Got caught with the “are you free evening of 9th Dec?”
She knows I don’t plan socially that far ahead.
She knows if I say ‘not sure’ she’ll follow up incessantly to qualify what plans I might or might not have.
She knows I’ll say ‘err yeah I think so”.
Nothing more will be said for months, until 3 weeks before I’m informed ‘we’ are going to some godawful overpriced Christmas market bulls
t bloody miles from home with her parents. FFS!!!
Hoovering.
Most of our house has tiles or wooden flooring, they do not need hoovered every two fking days. But wife will.
We’re now looking after my father in law. Her dad. He’s on my side that she spends too much time bloody hoovering. He doesn’t know it but that earns him credits in being allowed to stay here. If he took her side he’d be out on his ear (not really).
Most of our house has tiles or wooden flooring, they do not need hoovered every two f
king days. But wife will.We’re now looking after my father in law. Her dad. He’s on my side that she spends too much time bloody hoovering. He doesn’t know it but that earns him credits in being allowed to stay here. If he took her side he’d be out on his ear (not really).
cheesejunkie said:
Hoovering.
Most of our house has tiles or wooden flooring, they do not need hoovered every two fking days. But wife will.
We’re now looking after my father in law. Her dad. He’s on my side that she spends too much time bloody hoovering. He doesn’t know it but that earns him credits in being allowed to stay here. If he took her side he’d be out on his ear (not really).
Get a robot vacuum.Most of our house has tiles or wooden flooring, they do not need hoovered every two f
king days. But wife will.We’re now looking after my father in law. Her dad. He’s on my side that she spends too much time bloody hoovering. He doesn’t know it but that earns him credits in being allowed to stay here. If he took her side he’d be out on his ear (not really).
Then get a robot wife.
hidetheelephants said:
Pit Pony said:
I'm sure that when I start doing that, she will quickly tell me I'm weird for just disappearing, without a bye or leave.
My mum used to berate me for, after an evening gawping at the TV, getting up and going to bed without saying so. 
I realise that, this being PH, every room should have an en suite.....
Hondashark said:
cheesejunkie said:
Hoovering.
Most of our house has tiles or wooden flooring, they do not need hoovered every two fking days. But wife will.
We’re now looking after my father in law. Her dad. He’s on my side that she spends too much time bloody hoovering. He doesn’t know it but that earns him credits in being allowed to stay here. If he took her side he’d be out on his ear (not really).
Get a robot vacuum.Most of our house has tiles or wooden flooring, they do not need hoovered every two f
king days. But wife will.We’re now looking after my father in law. Her dad. He’s on my side that she spends too much time bloody hoovering. He doesn’t know it but that earns him credits in being allowed to stay here. If he took her side he’d be out on his ear (not really).
Then get a robot wife.
That’s a poor taste joke and I felt bad before I typed it.
cheesejunkie said:
Hondashark said:
cheesejunkie said:
Hoovering.
Most of our house has tiles or wooden flooring, they do not need hoovered every two fking days. But wife will.
We’re now looking after my father in law. Her dad. He’s on my side that she spends too much time bloody hoovering. He doesn’t know it but that earns him credits in being allowed to stay here. If he took her side he’d be out on his ear (not really).
Get a robot vacuum.Most of our house has tiles or wooden flooring, they do not need hoovered every two f
king days. But wife will.We’re now looking after my father in law. Her dad. He’s on my side that she spends too much time bloody hoovering. He doesn’t know it but that earns him credits in being allowed to stay here. If he took her side he’d be out on his ear (not really).
Then get a robot wife.
That’s a poor taste joke and I felt bad before I typed it.
Pit Pony said:
Thank you.
My wife has Chronic Fatigue (ME). Yesterday evening she was suffering Post Exertional Malaise. In effect she'd pushed herself too hard. So she went to bed for a rest whilst I made the tea (it's a northern thing..like Dinner in the South, Not to be confused by dinner, which I understand they call lunch).
I'd rather eat at the dinning table, so I always lay it up and then when it's ready give her the option.
In this neck of the woods, tea is called supper. As a northern lad, that's my bedtime meal. But they still call people who serve you lunch in a canteen 'dinner ladies'. Its all very confusing.My wife has Chronic Fatigue (ME). Yesterday evening she was suffering Post Exertional Malaise. In effect she'd pushed herself too hard. So she went to bed for a rest whilst I made the tea (it's a northern thing..like Dinner in the South, Not to be confused by dinner, which I understand they call lunch).
I'd rather eat at the dinning table, so I always lay it up and then when it's ready give her the option.
Latest faff... or just female "logic"???
t'other half complains that the bathroom sink is always messy, soap dried on the soap shelf etc... so she wants a wall mounted soap dish.
We go to all the outlets spending almost half a day finding one and buying one of which she approves. I put it up and use it... result methinks!?!?!? Far from it... she now leaves the soap on the side of the washbasin to dry and then puts it in the soap dish as she "doesn't want the soap dish messy""!!!! Wimmins "logic"!!!! FFS!!!!!
t'other half complains that the bathroom sink is always messy, soap dried on the soap shelf etc... so she wants a wall mounted soap dish.
We go to all the outlets spending almost half a day finding one and buying one of which she approves. I put it up and use it... result methinks!?!?!? Far from it... she now leaves the soap on the side of the washbasin to dry and then puts it in the soap dish as she "doesn't want the soap dish messy""!!!! Wimmins "logic"!!!! FFS!!!!!
cheesejunkie said:
Hoovering.
Most of our house has tiles or wooden flooring, they do not need hoovered every two fking days. But wife will.
We’re now looking after my father in law. Her dad. He’s on my side that she spends too much time bloody hoovering. He doesn’t know it but that earns him credits in being allowed to stay here. If he took her side he’d be out on his ear (not really).
Can we swap? SWMBO vacuums TWICE a day. Blames the dog for hairy droppings.Most of our house has tiles or wooden flooring, they do not need hoovered every two f
king days. But wife will.We’re now looking after my father in law. Her dad. He’s on my side that she spends too much time bloody hoovering. He doesn’t know it but that earns him credits in being allowed to stay here. If he took her side he’d be out on his ear (not really).
CanAm said:
Pit Pony said:
Thank you.
My wife has Chronic Fatigue (ME). Yesterday evening she was suffering Post Exertional Malaise. In effect she'd pushed herself too hard. So she went to bed for a rest whilst I made the tea (it's a northern thing..like Dinner in the South, Not to be confused by dinner, which I understand they call lunch).
I'd rather eat at the dinning table, so I always lay it up and then when it's ready give her the option.
In this neck of the woods, tea is called supper. As a northern lad, that's my bedtime meal. But they still call people who serve you lunch in a canteen 'dinner ladies'. It’s all very confusing.My wife has Chronic Fatigue (ME). Yesterday evening she was suffering Post Exertional Malaise. In effect she'd pushed herself too hard. So she went to bed for a rest whilst I made the tea (it's a northern thing..like Dinner in the South, Not to be confused by dinner, which I understand they call lunch).
I'd rather eat at the dinning table, so I always lay it up and then when it's ready give her the option.
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