Modern single women

[Hoofy]

fido said:

Shakermaker said:

She's 29, blonde, works in Central London earning a good wedge, enjoys travelling, is pretty straighforward in saying what she likes/doesn't like so you aren't left having to guess, and looks good in a bikini.

... so why is she single?

Presumably, as the OPer suggests, she's fussy as fk.

[LordHaveMurci]

DonkeyApple said:

fido said:

Shakermaker said:

She's 29, blonde, works in Central London earning a good wedge, enjoys travelling, is pretty straighforward in saying what she likes/doesn't like so you aren't left having to guess, and looks good in a bikini.

... so why is she single?

She saw what happened to her sister?

[Ari]

fido said:

Shakermaker said:

She's 29, blonde, works in Central London earning a good wedge, enjoys travelling, is pretty straighforward in saying what she likes/doesn't like so you aren't left having to guess, and looks good in a bikini.

... so why is she single?

If the responses on here are typical of the average male, I think I can guess.

[Ari]

DonkeyApple said:

It's reads like a self help group for the pitiful failures and wretched examples of 'men'.

Think you've neatly summed up this thread!

[killingjoker]

Ari said:

I'm a bit older - in my forties. I met some very nice and very sorted women dating last year and am seeing one now.

A lot of posts on here do suggest that many men prioritise looks above everything else and will then put up with anything to keep the 'looker' (who is probably out of their league so will inevitably fail, leading to a bitter divorce). You've only got to look at the scorn and derision poured on any woman mentioned who isn't absolutely physically perfect - Aintree threads are the perfect example.

The concept of trying to find a woman with a nice rounded personality seems alien to many. It's ALL about the looks. It's no wonder some of these 'stunners' develop 'little princess' personalities.

I'm not saying date a munter. But maybe try going out with women who are a little more normal and down to earth.

Let them carry on, mate. They'll learn. hahaha

[del mar]

It was much the same at school 25 years ago.

All the attractive girls wanted to go out with the local moron / tough guy who had an old ford escort. They weren't keen on us more intelligent average guys with BMXs. I was always astonished that there was a queue of girls wanting to date the boys in class 5 and 6. (1 was highest 6 the lowest).

Role on 25 years and us average guys have upgraded our BMX for a new Ford Focus, and a decent job. Some of the attractive girls are stuck in dead end lives with several kids, and their looks have slipped. Some of course have managed to marry millionaires, but on the whole, the average guys in the top classes have proven to be the better long term bet...

[Jimmy Recard]

I just have no interest in having a girlfriend. It's nothing to do with women in general, I think I'm just quite selfish and as a result don't like being in a relationship.

I'm not sure that's the reason, but whatever the reason, I really dislike being in a relationship.

[fido]

Hoofy said:

Presumably, as the OPer suggests, she's fussy as fk.

That's what I sort of read into 'pretty straightforward in saying what she likes/doesn't like ..' - it could be either mean "she's a decisive and confident person who doesn't waste your time" or "screams at you because you bought a Hawaiian pizza and she doesn't like pineapple".

[Hoofy]

Jimmy Recard said:

I just have no interest in having a girlfriend. It's nothing to do with women in general, I think I'm just quite selfish and as a result don't like being in a relationship.

I'm not sure that's the reason, but whatever the reason, I really dislike being in a relationship.

Reading threads such as the faffing one tend to put you off.

[hyphen]

LordHaveMurci said:

DonkeyApple said:

fido said:

Shakermaker said:

She's 29, blonde, works in Central London earning a good wedge, enjoys travelling, is pretty straighforward in saying what she likes/doesn't like so you aren't left having to guess, and looks good in a bikini.

... so why is she single?

She saw what happened to her sister?

[Ari]

del mar said:

It was much the same at school 25 years ago.

All the attractive girls wanted to go out with the local moron / tough guy who had an old ford escort. They weren't keen on us more intelligent average guys with BMXs. I was always astonished that there was a queue of girls wanting to date the boys in class 5 and 6. (1 was highest 6 the lowest).

Role on 25 years and us average guys have upgraded our BMX for a new Ford Focus, and a decent job. Some of the attractive girls are stuck in dead end lives with several kids, and their looks have slipped. Some of course have managed to marry millionaires, but on the whole, the average guys in the top classes have proven to be the better long term bet...

Curse these women, choosing guys they want to be with rather than rating them by their earning potential!

May they never know the sweet joy of cruising in the front passenger seat of a new Ford Focus!

Hang on though, hadn't we all decided a minute ago that all these cursed women are just too materialistic?

[Ari]

killingjoker said:

Ari said:

I'm a bit older - in my forties. I met some very nice and very sorted women dating last year and am seeing one now.

A lot of posts on here do suggest that many men prioritise looks above everything else and will then put up with anything to keep the 'looker' (who is probably out of their league so will inevitably fail, leading to a bitter divorce). You've only got to look at the scorn and derision poured on any woman mentioned who isn't absolutely physically perfect - Aintree threads are the perfect example.

The concept of trying to find a woman with a nice rounded personality seems alien to many. It's ALL about the looks. It's no wonder some of these 'stunners' develop 'little princess' personalities.

I'm not saying date a munter. But maybe try going out with women who are a little more normal and down to earth.

Let them carry on, mate. They'll learn. hahaha

I'm not holding by breath, to be honest...

[AyBee]

Shakermaker said:

OP - my sister in law is single?

She's 29, blonde, works in Central London earning a good wedge, enjoys travelling, is pretty straighforward in saying what she likes/doesn't like so you aren't left having to guess, and looks good in a bikini.

I married her sister, which I guess puts her off limits to me though.

How many messages have you had so far?

[BRR]

Lots of women are morons, as are lots of men, interestingly though men seem to find it hard to understand that a woman will pick one based on how attractive they are based on the things that are important to her. I also find it weird that blokes are surprised women don't find whatever it is the bloke is into to be interesting, we don't find most stuff they're into interesting so why would they be interested in cars etc?

I guess the saving grace is that as these women start to naturally become less physically attractive they become more tolerant to her prospective partner being fat & boring

[Shakermaker]

DonkeyApple said:

fido said:

Shakermaker said:

She's 29, blonde, works in Central London earning a good wedge, enjoys travelling, is pretty straighforward in saying what she likes/doesn't like so you aren't left having to guess, and looks good in a bikini.

... so why is she single?

She saw what happened to her sister?

Pretty much this I expect LOL.

But the last chap she was with, decided that instead of saving up his money for a house deposit, he went and splashed £15,000 on a watch and was happy to live in his parent's flat in central London.

So don't be "that guy"

[okgo]

I think people in general have changed. But there are still some good ones out there.

And not everyone wants to be attached. There's plenty of good ones out there that choose not to tie themselves down to conformity.

To be honest, life must be a total slog if you're not good looking.

[garylythgoe]

Shakermaker said:

OP - my sister in law is single?

She's 29, blonde, works in Central London earning a good wedge, enjoys travelling, is pretty straighforward in saying what she likes/doesn't like so you aren't left having to guess, and looks good in a bikini.

I married her sister, which I guess puts her off limits to me though.

Hook me up

[mjb1]

BoRED S2upid said:

I'm surprised the age range is like this as I'm not far off this age range as is my wife. I thought we were the last generation to know what a pension is, to own our own homes, to plan for the future and save money.

Not all women are like that stop looking on Tinder and POF!

What age were you when you first got together though. Most of the decent ones have settled down by 30 (including the two of you by the sound of it), which explains why a lot of the remaining selection are the one with 'issues'. This goes for the single blokes as well to an extent, although there might be a few more normal ones still available, as men often don't feel ready to commit until they're a bit older perhaps.

The alternative is to keep an eye out for women looking for 'round two' - the divorcees/separatees. There are a few that got out child free, otherwise you may need to be prepared to take someone with a bit of baggage. It seems pretty unrealistic these days (or even at any time in the past I guess) to expect to find a decent selection of single women in their 30's that don't have baggage or issues.

I've got a good friend who's mid/late 30's and single. And as far as I know, he's straight and never had any kind of relationship, probably still a virgin. He's tall, fit and healthy, reasonable looks, decent personality and sense of humour, own house and business. He should pretty well have the pick of the crop, but the ever diminishing range of single women around his age, and his very high standards might mean he stays single. If he'd consider girls in their early to mid 20's as suitable, I'm sure he'd fare better, and it wouldn't be that much of an age gap.

[Hoofy]

Shakermaker said:

DonkeyApple said:

fido said:

Shakermaker said:

She's 29, blonde, works in Central London earning a good wedge, enjoys travelling, is pretty straighforward in saying what she likes/doesn't like so you aren't left having to guess, and looks good in a bikini.

... so why is she single?

She saw what happened to her sister?

Pretty much this I expect LOL.

But the last chap she was with, decided that instead of saving up his money for a house deposit, he went and splashed £15,000 on a watch and was happy to live in his parent's flat in central London.

So don't be "that guy"

It's not really an issue, is it? While I would prioritise the house before the watch, if he's secure in his parents' flat then good for him.

[AndrewEH1]

Hoofy said:

It's not really an issue, is it? While I would prioritise the house before the watch, if he's secure in his parents' flat then good for him.

I was lucky and able to afford to move out of the family home permanently when I was 19 therefore had no issues bringing someone back to mine at the end of the night. I can't understand why anyone would give up the chance to have their own place to buy a watch...

Obviously a lot of people can't afford to move out of the family home until their late 20s/early 30s but you have to be a bit silly to give that chance up!