How many of your wedding guests are still in your life?
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Thought about this recently, not out of self pity or sadness, more amazement about how dramatically life can change.
For a variety of reasons, and no doubt I am partly the cause, my stats are:
Wedding in Aug 2005
Day guests - 90
Evening quests - 50
Remain in touch with:
My daughter (now 19)
My sister
My closest friend
For now, my soon-to-be ex
This just occurred to me recently as I drove past the wedding venue.
For a variety of reasons, and no doubt I am partly the cause, my stats are:
Wedding in Aug 2005
Day guests - 90
Evening quests - 50
Remain in touch with:
My daughter (now 19)
My sister
My closest friend
For now, my soon-to-be ex
This just occurred to me recently as I drove past the wedding venue.
Married in 2016 and of the 63 daytime guests, 10 have died, 14 I speak to at least once every couple of months and the rest are either extended family who I see at weddings, funerals and bar mitzvahs, plus ones who have broken up or friends who have drifted away over time.
There were another 50 or so in the evening but most of those are former colleagues who have long since moved on or friends from uni etc who have drifted away
There were another 50 or so in the evening but most of those are former colleagues who have long since moved on or friends from uni etc who have drifted away
Edited by John87 on Monday 15th April 18:27
We got married 10 years ago and are planning a party to celebrate. We're really planning a family get together and needed something to hang it on.
The same thought as you had crossed my mind, we had 80 people at our wedding I think.
My best man will be there
Perhaps 2 of the 5 bridesmaids
I think 1 of Mrs J's friends, possibly 2
No other friends of mine
We did move 200 odd miles a few years ago but that's not really made that much difference if the truth be told.
The same thought as you had crossed my mind, we had 80 people at our wedding I think.
My best man will be there
Perhaps 2 of the 5 bridesmaids
I think 1 of Mrs J's friends, possibly 2
No other friends of mine
We did move 200 odd miles a few years ago but that's not really made that much difference if the truth be told.
Married in 1992. Wife is Indian and there were lots of people from her side I didn’t know (and never got to know).
I think a third to a half are probably dead.
Still in contact with family members that are alive.
Of the friends at the wedding I think my wife is still in contact with all except one (maybe two) from her side. Perhaps surprisingly I am still in contact with most of the friends from my side (there weren’t that many). I think the bigger issue is that over the following 32 years I have made (and lost) lots of acquaintances but I think only added one friend.
I think a third to a half are probably dead.
Still in contact with family members that are alive.
Of the friends at the wedding I think my wife is still in contact with all except one (maybe two) from her side. Perhaps surprisingly I am still in contact with most of the friends from my side (there weren’t that many). I think the bigger issue is that over the following 32 years I have made (and lost) lots of acquaintances but I think only added one friend.
daqinggregg said:
We married August 1st 2012, small event, just the two of us; happy to report all present and correct.
+1We f
ked off overseas, Registrar left his chickens for the morning (really), two people from Guest Relations did the Witnessing, and we had the incongruous experience of random Germans videoing our wedding standing there in their budgie smugglers. Didn't care. Still can't shake her off 
About to hit my 20th wedding anniversary, out of the 60 guests quite a few of them have died (Wifes older relatives), I am still in contact with all 8 of my friends that attended including my best man although most have now moved to different parts of the country.
Strangely I no longer speak to anyone that I went on my stag do with (best man couldnt make it!)
Strangely I no longer speak to anyone that I went on my stag do with (best man couldnt make it!)
Had a wedding/reception in around 2003 ish I think. 60 guests.
Still in contact with family on my side who attended. Speak to the ex father in law sometimes when I see him about. Speak to the ex wife as little as possible.
Best man is still best friend.
Not seen anyone else who was there in many years.
Still in contact with family on my side who attended. Speak to the ex father in law sometimes when I see him about. Speak to the ex wife as little as possible.
Best man is still best friend.
Not seen anyone else who was there in many years.
A depressing but interesting topic. We had a small wedding.in 2007. 30 guests, then more in the evening.
Dead:
My mum
Mother in law.
My Auntie
My Auntie
Wife’s grandfather
Wife’s grandmother.
Wife’s great uncle.
Family friend and “uncle” role in my life.
Lost touch with:
Best man’s partner when they split.
Usher. He’s around, just not really in touch much.
Friend of mine and his wife. We fell out over a business deal.
Wife’s colleague and friend. A bit like my usher, life moves on, just not in touch much.
A couple my wife went to university with. As above, had kids moved on.
A cousin of mine and his wife, only invited to keep my mum and aunt happy. Their two sons who were alright teenagers then.
We actually moved to the village where we got married and have actually had a slightly different discussion along the lines of what-if we were marrying today, who would we invite?
It turns out we’ve far more friends than 17 years ago. Many my wife’s colleagues some of whom have become friends of mine independently. Moving here, to the village where I was born, has seen me reconnect with childhood friends, now in their 50s who have had the same idea and come back.
I now work in a different industry, and several colleagues of mine from the past have actually become close friends. Then there are the people not born when we married.
I guess it just illustrates the ebb and flow of life.
Dead:
My mum
Mother in law.
My Auntie
My Auntie
Wife’s grandfather
Wife’s grandmother.
Wife’s great uncle.
Family friend and “uncle” role in my life.
Lost touch with:
Best man’s partner when they split.
Usher. He’s around, just not really in touch much.
Friend of mine and his wife. We fell out over a business deal.
Wife’s colleague and friend. A bit like my usher, life moves on, just not in touch much.
A couple my wife went to university with. As above, had kids moved on.
A cousin of mine and his wife, only invited to keep my mum and aunt happy. Their two sons who were alright teenagers then.
We actually moved to the village where we got married and have actually had a slightly different discussion along the lines of what-if we were marrying today, who would we invite?
It turns out we’ve far more friends than 17 years ago. Many my wife’s colleagues some of whom have become friends of mine independently. Moving here, to the village where I was born, has seen me reconnect with childhood friends, now in their 50s who have had the same idea and come back.
I now work in a different industry, and several colleagues of mine from the past have actually become close friends. Then there are the people not born when we married.
I guess it just illustrates the ebb and flow of life.
Edited by Wildcat45 on Sunday 14th April 20:48
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