How many of your wedding guests are still in your life?
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Well it wasn’t intended to be a depressing thread, but you’re the second poster to make that point so that’s obviously how it’s worked out!
Personally,, I feel really aligned to the philosophy that life is about letting go.
It’s not that I feel I have lost anything, more that it’s just amazing how much things have shifted in 19 years.
As long as my kids want to be in my life (they do), that’s a win.
What I find remarkable is the extreme churn in social circles.
Maybe it’s just me :-)
Personally,, I feel really aligned to the philosophy that life is about letting go.
It’s not that I feel I have lost anything, more that it’s just amazing how much things have shifted in 19 years.
As long as my kids want to be in my life (they do), that’s a win.
What I find remarkable is the extreme churn in social circles.
Maybe it’s just me :-)
As we got married in 1985 a large number of the guests are now dead...but we are still in touch with at least half a dozen. My FIL is still alive, and we also keep in touch with my sister in law as well as five or six via Facebook as they are all in Shetland while we are in Central Scotland.
Married 27 years ago.
There were probably 250+ at our wedding, mainly from my wife's side of the family and her friends
Still in touch with all my siblings who attended (the wedding was abroad so they didn't all come)
Still in touch with my wife's parents and siblings (mainly because they appreciate me doing their tax returns
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I'm Asian and, for my generation, "family" was and is a big thing. I'm close to all my cousins. However for my kids' generation I don't think family is as important.
There were probably 250+ at our wedding, mainly from my wife's side of the family and her friends
Still in touch with all my siblings who attended (the wedding was abroad so they didn't all come)
Still in touch with my wife's parents and siblings (mainly because they appreciate me doing their tax returns
)I'm Asian and, for my generation, "family" was and is a big thing. I'm close to all my cousins. However for my kids' generation I don't think family is as important.
Been married 11 years, I'm as 'close' to them as I was before I guess. None have died that I can think of.
There are members of my Wife's family I couldn't pick out of a lineup, but I couldn't before.
I worry about the correlation in previous posts from people who don't have anyone from their wedding(s) in their lives - not their best man, ushers, family, friends? None. Jesus.
There are members of my Wife's family I couldn't pick out of a lineup, but I couldn't before.
I worry about the correlation in previous posts from people who don't have anyone from their wedding(s) in their lives - not their best man, ushers, family, friends? None. Jesus.
Had a small wedding 15 years ago with only close family in attendance; grand parents, parents, siblings and our 2 daughters, still see everyone apart from A) Dad as he died 9 years ago, B) Granny, she died 11 years ago and C) Dad's widow, she f
ked off after he died, good riddance!
In the evening we had a small get together at a local pub, I suppose 50 people max turned up as and when, I guess we are still in contact with half of them.
ked off after he died, good riddance!In the evening we had a small get together at a local pub, I suppose 50 people max turned up as and when, I guess we are still in contact with half of them.
We've been together almost 25 years, but only married ... err ... 11 years ago? So we'd had time for our friendship groups to largely merge well before we got hitched and we were also borderline middle aged, so life style and interests haven't changed much. Consequently I don't think we've lost touch with any of the friends at our wedding, and the only losses have been two of my wife's relatives to old age, that generation having been considerably thinned out prior to the wedding.
We were married in 2012. Couple of weeks ago we took our kids to our wedding venue for lunch while visiting family in Scotland.
It was a fairly small wedding, about 60 I think honestly can't remember despite paying for it. I'm still I'm touch with everyone on 'my side' in general other than one of my best mates who's wife sadly died of cancer about 8 years ago, one of my ushers wives cheated on him years ago now so we're no longer I'm contact with her. My Father in law died in 2018 in his 70's, and my sister in law from cancer in 2021.
I think there's only one other death my wife's uncle who would have been in his 80's. Oh my sister has a different partner and now a family of her own than who was at our wedding with.
12 years is a long time it's seems although I was 28 when we got married and had quality over quantity in terms of friends at that stage of life and still see them all regularly.
It was a fairly small wedding, about 60 I think honestly can't remember despite paying for it. I'm still I'm touch with everyone on 'my side' in general other than one of my best mates who's wife sadly died of cancer about 8 years ago, one of my ushers wives cheated on him years ago now so we're no longer I'm contact with her. My Father in law died in 2018 in his 70's, and my sister in law from cancer in 2021.
I think there's only one other death my wife's uncle who would have been in his 80's. Oh my sister has a different partner and now a family of her own than who was at our wedding with.
12 years is a long time it's seems although I was 28 when we got married and had quality over quantity in terms of friends at that stage of life and still see them all regularly.
waynedear said:
daqinggregg said:
We married August 1st 2012, small event, just the two of us; happy to report all present and correct.
.That's the way to do it, we invited no one, told no one... Rang the family and closest friends afterwards.
Us too, 35 years ago, although we told our immediate families on the morning of the wedding and invited our parents along to be witnesses. Still close to our Mums but both Dads have died.
However a lot of family and friends complained about the loss of a chance for a booze up and we had an open house party a few months later with a mock up cake, first dance, tongue-in-cheek speeches etc. I think we had about 150 guests that night and we are pretty much still in touch with everyone who is still alive albeit over Facebook for some.
Married 10 years ago next month after being together for 12 years prior to that. My wife and I both have slightly challenging families and we don’t like your typical “wedding” so we decided to book some business class flights to Florida and the penthouse apartment in a nice hotel on Marco Island. We got married in the afternoon by a celebrant on the roof garden of the penthouse then went for a swim in the sea. After that we got in the Mustang convertible and drove up to our favourite steak restaurant in Naples. It was our perfect day. We go back to the island every year.
We did have a family meal when we got back to celebrate with family.
We did have a family meal when we got back to celebrate with family.
Married in 2000 but sadly my wife and both parents in law have passed away (in laws were older and would be well into their 90s by now)
All my immediate family that attended are still around, only two aunts still alive now (of the 10 aunts and uncles) my gran is gone now as well. Haven’t seen any of my cousins since her funeral.
Still in touch with all BiLs and SiLs ( there are loads of them), all of their kids ( a bit just about with some of them.
we had lost touch with all wives friends long before she was unwell, she had a huge circle of newer friends though
To end on a positive note, I’m still in touch with two of the four of my friends that came and was out with them last Friday
All my immediate family that attended are still around, only two aunts still alive now (of the 10 aunts and uncles) my gran is gone now as well. Haven’t seen any of my cousins since her funeral.
Still in touch with all BiLs and SiLs ( there are loads of them), all of their kids ( a bit just about with some of them.
we had lost touch with all wives friends long before she was unwell, she had a huge circle of newer friends though
To end on a positive note, I’m still in touch with two of the four of my friends that came and was out with them last Friday
Not that many I see regularly, or at all, but not that surprising when you think about it.
For starters you tend to invite many people from work and you are bound to lose touch with virtually all of those in twenty+ years.
Then there is the extended family and as you get older I find you see them less. Last time was my sister's wedding over 5 years ago for virtually all of those.
As a side note unless you make a big effort you are bound to lose work friends no matter how close you seem. I was with a close knit bunch when the firm was taken over and we went our separate ways. We still meet up occasionally for things like country walks and pub even seven years later, but that is the exception and you have to work at keeping things going.
For starters you tend to invite many people from work and you are bound to lose touch with virtually all of those in twenty+ years.
Then there is the extended family and as you get older I find you see them less. Last time was my sister's wedding over 5 years ago for virtually all of those.
As a side note unless you make a big effort you are bound to lose work friends no matter how close you seem. I was with a close knit bunch when the firm was taken over and we went our separate ways. We still meet up occasionally for things like country walks and pub even seven years later, but that is the exception and you have to work at keeping things going.
Edited by JagLover on Tuesday 16th April 06:36
Married 40 years ago..
Most of the ‘older generation’ relatives have passed away. Only 2 still alive!
Sisters/Brothers/Cousins are all still about.
See the cousins at funerals mostly
Friends, only really in touch with 2 of them.
One i’ve been friends with since we were 3, nearly 60 years ago.
Most of the ‘older generation’ relatives have passed away. Only 2 still alive!
Sisters/Brothers/Cousins are all still about.
See the cousins at funerals mostly
Friends, only really in touch with 2 of them.
One i’ve been friends with since we were 3, nearly 60 years ago.
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