Match.com (Volume 3)
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Go on then... Things have been going great with this newish girlie of mine, except I've noticed something that I'd noticed in patches before, but this time it was blatant.
Saturday night at a bar in town with a group of friends she was chatting to her friend but she spent far too much time gazing in another direction, and I just knew that when I got up to go to the bar I'd pass the area and it would be a group of blokes.
Now, I'm realsitic, we all look a little bit...but this was blatant. Dilemma is to confront her about it and look like a complete control-freak, or to just sit back and let her get on with it, form a clearer picture in my head and do something about it later? Or not?
It REALLY upsets me even though she picked up on me being 'bored' (completely p***sed off actually...) and seemed to be as into me as much as ever that night.
Saturday night at a bar in town with a group of friends she was chatting to her friend but she spent far too much time gazing in another direction, and I just knew that when I got up to go to the bar I'd pass the area and it would be a group of blokes.
Now, I'm realsitic, we all look a little bit...but this was blatant. Dilemma is to confront her about it and look like a complete control-freak, or to just sit back and let her get on with it, form a clearer picture in my head and do something about it later? Or not?
It REALLY upsets me even though she picked up on me being 'bored' (completely p***sed off actually...) and seemed to be as into me as much as ever that night.
Possibly...but my gut instinct tells me otherwise...
NobleGuy said:
Go on then... Things have been going great with this newish girlie of mine, except I've noticed something that I'd noticed in patches before, but this time it was blatant.
Saturday night at a bar in town with a group of friends she was chatting to her friend but she spent far too much time gazing in another direction, and I just knew that when I got up to go to the bar I'd pass the area and it would be a group of blokes.
Now, I'm realsitic, we all look a little bit...but this was blatant. Dilemma is to confront her about it and look like a complete control-freak, or to just sit back and let her get on with it, form a clearer picture in my head and do something about it later? Or not?
It REALLY upsets me even though she picked up on me being 'bored' (completely p***sed off actually...) and seemed to be as into me as much as ever that night.
She's looking out for someone else, however you'll do for now.Saturday night at a bar in town with a group of friends she was chatting to her friend but she spent far too much time gazing in another direction, and I just knew that when I got up to go to the bar I'd pass the area and it would be a group of blokes.
Now, I'm realsitic, we all look a little bit...but this was blatant. Dilemma is to confront her about it and look like a complete control-freak, or to just sit back and let her get on with it, form a clearer picture in my head and do something about it later? Or not?
It REALLY upsets me even though she picked up on me being 'bored' (completely p***sed off actually...) and seemed to be as into me as much as ever that night.
Plotloss said:
Doesn't matter where you get your appetite old son, as long as you come home to eat.
Thing is that's fine to a point, but it's starting to cloud my judgement in terms of what I think we have. I don't know...over-sensitive maybe? It's just that I remember her gazing periodically over my shoulder at a resturant a few weeks ago and she had a little smile at the bloke as he left. Did not make me feel good at all and I can imagine how she would react if I did that. I also know blokes that would erupt and trash the joint if she had been with them.
Mobile Chicane said:
NobleGuy said:
Go on then... Things have been going great with this newish girlie of mine, except I've noticed something that I'd noticed in patches before, but this time it was blatant.
Saturday night at a bar in town with a group of friends she was chatting to her friend but she spent far too much time gazing in another direction, and I just knew that when I got up to go to the bar I'd pass the area and it would be a group of blokes.
Now, I'm realsitic, we all look a little bit...but this was blatant. Dilemma is to confront her about it and look like a complete control-freak, or to just sit back and let her get on with it, form a clearer picture in my head and do something about it later? Or not?
It REALLY upsets me even though she picked up on me being 'bored' (completely p***sed off actually...) and seemed to be as into me as much as ever that night.
She's looking out for someone else, however you'll do for now.Saturday night at a bar in town with a group of friends she was chatting to her friend but she spent far too much time gazing in another direction, and I just knew that when I got up to go to the bar I'd pass the area and it would be a group of blokes.
Now, I'm realsitic, we all look a little bit...but this was blatant. Dilemma is to confront her about it and look like a complete control-freak, or to just sit back and let her get on with it, form a clearer picture in my head and do something about it later? Or not?
It REALLY upsets me even though she picked up on me being 'bored' (completely p***sed off actually...) and seemed to be as into me as much as ever that night.
Dave200 said:
Sounds a bit like insecurity, Guy.
Frankly, it wouldn't bother me in the slightest where my other half was looking - unless I thought, even for one second, that she was looking for someone to cheat on me with.
Has she given any indications that she's less-than-settled with you?
This is my worry, that it's just good old insecurities that I thought I'd overcome but are coming back to haunt me. It seems that being in a relationship is the best way to kill my confidence Frankly, it wouldn't bother me in the slightest where my other half was looking - unless I thought, even for one second, that she was looking for someone to cheat on me with.
Has she given any indications that she's less-than-settled with you?
No, she hasn't actually. If anything she's hinting at plans quicker than I'm entirely comfortable with...
NobleGuy said:
Dave200 said:
Sounds a bit like insecurity, Guy.
Frankly, it wouldn't bother me in the slightest where my other half was looking - unless I thought, even for one second, that she was looking for someone to cheat on me with.
Has she given any indications that she's less-than-settled with you?
This is my worry, that it's just good old insecurities that I thought I'd overcome but are coming back to haunt me. It seems that being in a relationship is the best way to kill my confidence Frankly, it wouldn't bother me in the slightest where my other half was looking - unless I thought, even for one second, that she was looking for someone to cheat on me with.
Has she given any indications that she's less-than-settled with you?
No, she hasn't actually. If anything she's hinting at plans quicker than I'm entirely comfortable with...
Out of interest, if you are walking down the street and a young lady with 'uplifting' underwear and low-cut top comes the opposite way, what do you do?
Do you avert your gaze? Or, like 90%+ of the straight male population, do you have a ruddy good gander at her norks?
Does this "gander" make you any more likely to run off and cheat on your new belle?
Men and women aren't really all that different, you know...
Soovy said:
Mobile Chicane said:
I received a PM from Dita this morning apologising for last night's long shouty one (she'd mistaken me for someone else), so all's cool here too.
Von Teese?Edited by Mobile Chicane on Tuesday 10th August 13:43
Soov wants to punish her!
You will want to punch her.
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