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i have just been told an ex partener of mine has died suddenly, which even though it has been 8 years since we split up and i have not seen her since, the news totaly knocked me for six, would it seem inconsiderate not to go to the funeral, not because of any bad feelings but just because it would be too hard and upsetting for me to take.
Tricky one. Similar thing happened to my wife this summer - her ex died suddenly.
Decided in the end to send flowers to the funeral, write a letter to the family but not to attend. She is going to see the parents in a few weeks once they have had some space, but not seeing his widow.
Tricky one either way, no straightforward answer. Depends on the dynamics, your relationship with the family and I guess how they might perceive you. Is there someone in the family you could talk with - brother / sister / cousin that you could sound out?
Sorry for your loss.
Decided in the end to send flowers to the funeral, write a letter to the family but not to attend. She is going to see the parents in a few weeks once they have had some space, but not seeing his widow.
Tricky one either way, no straightforward answer. Depends on the dynamics, your relationship with the family and I guess how they might perceive you. Is there someone in the family you could talk with - brother / sister / cousin that you could sound out?
Sorry for your loss.
hi, i work with her brother in law, thats who told me about it. thing is i should have no real feelings of sadness, as she traded me in for a newer model about half my (and her) age, and after 8 years, time should have erased the memory of the time we had. all her friends and family were at a loss to why we split up, so was i. all that happend was one night she just said 'i dont want to be with you anymore' that was it. after a few days of trying to ask why, and what have i done, all to no avail, i just though 'ok one person happy is better than two sad' so i packed my bags and left. soon after she sold the house and that was it, i never seen her again.
B0LLIKS said:
hi, i work with her brother in law, thats who told me about it. thing is i should have no real feelings of sadness, as she traded me in for a newer model about half my (and her) age, and after 8 years, time should have erased the memory of the time we had. all her friends and family were at a loss to why we split up, so was i. all that happend was one night she just said 'i dont want to be with you anymore' that was it. after a few days of trying to ask why, and what have i done, all to no avail, i just though 'ok one person happy is better than two sad' so i packed my bags and left. soon after she sold the house and that was it, i never seen her again.
Don't even send a card.Eric Mc said:
B0LLIKS said:
hi, i work with her brother in law, thats who told me about it. thing is i should have no real feelings of sadness, as she traded me in for a newer model about half my (and her) age, and after 8 years, time should have erased the memory of the time we had. all her friends and family were at a loss to why we split up, so was i. all that happend was one night she just said 'i dont want to be with you anymore' that was it. after a few days of trying to ask why, and what have i done, all to no avail, i just though 'ok one person happy is better than two sad' so i packed my bags and left. soon after she sold the house and that was it, i never seen her again.
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