Divorce advice
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Sorry to hear about the divorce.
Try and not get wound up and angry. The solicitors are very good at winding you and the other party up because they will make more money. I fell in to their trap.
Stay calm and think of the bigger picture, hopefully children are not involved.
Hope it goes ok for you.
Try and not get wound up and angry. The solicitors are very good at winding you and the other party up because they will make more money. I fell in to their trap.
Stay calm and think of the bigger picture, hopefully children are not involved.
Hope it goes ok for you.
eightseventhree said:
Im about to start divorce proceedings and looking for the quickest cheapest way of doing it.
We are going down the Unreasonable Behaviour route uncontested with transfer of property (with no equity) to myself and a clean break agreement
Any advice would be good!
Don't let her talk to mates or a solicitor! We are going down the Unreasonable Behaviour route uncontested with transfer of property (with no equity) to myself and a clean break agreement
Any advice would be good!
Otherwise try & keep it amicable. Oh & good luck.
Lawpack guide to divorce. Don't bother with solicitors if you're agreeing with each other.
You'll have filing fees etc but should be able to avoid any other bills, should be done & dusted in a few months. I did the whole thing myself about 10 years back and it was pretty straightforward.
You'll have filing fees etc but should be able to avoid any other bills, should be done & dusted in a few months. I did the whole thing myself about 10 years back and it was pretty straightforward.
eightseventhree said:
we have spoke tonight and agreed what grounds etc. Both wanting to be out and get on with our lives as quick and painless as possible
Then sort it out between your selves. Don't get Matrimonial Solicitors evolved. Serious money coming your way if you do.My advice is ,agree a figure and stick to it.Settle out of Court my friend. HTH
The best advice I've heard is to take a few days off work and go and speak to every solicitor that will see you and give you an initial consult for free.
Apparenty, if you do this, then she can't hire them due to 'conflicts of interests'.
No idea if it's true...but if I'm ever in the unlucky situation you are in, a move I'll definitely be making!
Cheers
The Moose
Apparenty, if you do this, then she can't hire them due to 'conflicts of interests'.
No idea if it's true...but if I'm ever in the unlucky situation you are in, a move I'll definitely be making!
Cheers
The Moose
cazzer said:
And the second you get a whiff that she may have seen a solictor (which she will)
You know his ex then?Perfectly possible to act like responsible adults and not piss money up the wall, even when divorcing.
ETA: If you want to use a solicitor to review proceedings then do so, but don't get them to represent you - no need to pay through the nose for someone else to type letters on your behalf. However if you are agreeing on divorce proceedings then you're better off maintaining the fragile peace and working through the lawpack book "Do your own divorce" or whatever it's called these days.
Our last few dealings with my wife's ex were reviewed by a solicitor to cover our backs, but the fkwit ex had no idea because we wrote our own letters. He eventually had a solicitor representing him and was not being reasonable in any sense of the word.
Edited by oldcynic on Monday 21st February 23:35
My Ex and I agreed everthing between us in a perfectly amicable way. The split of "stuff" we agreed wasn't quite 50:50 (I was getting more stuff) so we agreed that I would go to the solicitor and get the ball rolling. That solicitor rightly said Ex needed an independant solicitor just to confirm she was aware that things were not 50:50 and she was entitled to more and suggested another solicitor in town. Ex had brief meeting with that solicitor and confirmed everthing was as agreed. Total cost for us both was circa £500(ish) to have minute of agreement drawn up and everthing done properly and still amicable.
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