Divorce advice
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Sir Clip Pliers said:
Can I ask a question op? Has this put you off ever getting married again?
If I can be forgiven for jumping in, as I'm going through almost exactly the same process (also amicable, but we may leave it 2yrs and go for seperation) - my answer is a resounding yes. I would be amazed if I ever considered marriage again in the future. As said before, remain on speaking terms, and hopefully you'll be able to sort it out yourselves. I did this and apart from giving the ex a cheque (which we both agreed on), we remained friends for a short while, but it kinda fizzled out in the end, as you would expect really. The most important thing though, is I got to keep the cats...that would have been a deal breaker.
Good luck OP, not a nice time in your life, but it doesn't have to be too painful and it's good to keep looking towards the future, as it should seem exciting.
Good luck OP, not a nice time in your life, but it doesn't have to be too painful and it's good to keep looking towards the future, as it should seem exciting.
You can agree what you like between you but unless you have a binding agreement, she can come back to you for more at any time.
See a solicitor and ignore all the s
t about them winding parties up - the only winding up done is when one party wants to be difficult and the solicitor has to follow instructions.
Where are you - I can give you names of two very good firms in south east London who will do just what you need.
See a solicitor and ignore all the s
t about them winding parties up - the only winding up done is when one party wants to be difficult and the solicitor has to follow instructions.Where are you - I can give you names of two very good firms in south east London who will do just what you need.
PHer Racylady did a separation agreement for us to sort out all the legal bits in a proper way, it was just a few hundred pounds and well worth it to make sure that neither party had any comeback down the line.
We did all the division of assets by mutual agreement between the two of us and the Separation Agreement formalises it and can be presented to the Court.
We did all the division of assets by mutual agreement between the two of us and the Separation Agreement formalises it and can be presented to the Court.
Edited by tonyvid on Tuesday 22 February 09:59
Sir Clip Pliers said:
Can I ask a question op? Has this put you off ever getting married again?
It has not put me off getting married. Im only 28 so only young! i will just make sure its right this time! Cheers for all of the advice! There should be a wiki on here that covers this!
We are trying to keep solicitors out of this if we can!
I divorced online last year and it took about 4 months and £400.
We did a clean break agreement at the same time, but the ex delayed in signing it.
The divorce came through - but the clean break was never signed and she still refuses to sign it.
Be careful. Woman are evil cows and don't think she wont fk you over. She will.
We did a clean break agreement at the same time, but the ex delayed in signing it.
The divorce came through - but the clean break was never signed and she still refuses to sign it.
Be careful. Woman are evil cows and don't think she wont f
k you over. She will. The Moose said:
The best advice I've heard is to take a few days off work and go and speak to every solicitor that will see you and give you an initial consult for free.
Apparenty, if you do this, then she can't hire them due to 'conflicts of interests'.
No idea if it's true...but if I'm ever in the unlucky situation you are in, a move I'll definitely be making!
Cheers
The Moose
If you believe everything you see on The Sopranos, it's defintiely true.Apparenty, if you do this, then she can't hire them due to 'conflicts of interests'.
No idea if it's true...but if I'm ever in the unlucky situation you are in, a move I'll definitely be making!
Cheers
The Moose
There is no money!
We both earn similar money, she has a better pension (NHS) the house is now worth what we owe on the mortgage and im taking on the small overdraft that we have on our joint account.
Yes im getting a house which i hope in a couple of years has some equity but she is going to be walking away with a clean sheet which is what she wants. There is nothing to take!
We both earn similar money, she has a better pension (NHS) the house is now worth what we owe on the mortgage and im taking on the small overdraft that we have on our joint account.
Yes im getting a house which i hope in a couple of years has some equity but she is going to be walking away with a clean sheet which is what she wants. There is nothing to take!
Marital debts are joint, ensure she pays her share - she would not be so willing to walk if the house was in positive equity!
You need a sol to ensure no future comebacks, there is no such thing as an amicable agreement, courts won't recognise it when she later claims half your long built equity/pay rise/windfall/new partner's earnings.
A stitch in time saves nine, my friend.
You need a sol to ensure no future comebacks, there is no such thing as an amicable agreement, courts won't recognise it when she later claims half your long built equity/pay rise/windfall/new partner's earnings.
A stitch in time saves nine, my friend.
eightseventhree said:
There is no money!
We both earn similar money, she has a better pension (NHS) the house is now worth what we owe on the mortgage and im taking on the small overdraft that we have on our joint account.
Yes im getting a house which i hope in a couple of years has some equity but she is going to be walking away with a clean sheet which is what she wants. There is nothing to take!
Until your 6 numbers come up in 5 years time and she claims half!!We both earn similar money, she has a better pension (NHS) the house is now worth what we owe on the mortgage and im taking on the small overdraft that we have on our joint account.
Yes im getting a house which i hope in a couple of years has some equity but she is going to be walking away with a clean sheet which is what she wants. There is nothing to take!
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