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crazy about cars said:
How's everyone doing?
Been browsing through old pictures and saw a few from summer 1-2 years ago which made me think... that was probably the last time I've actually felt happy. It's been months now but I never seem to ever feel positive or happy. Everyday seem to pass filled with worries and stress.
Not having a good week. Relationship is at breaking point again. Spent two full days in bed as I couldn't think of one good reason to get up. Complete apathy about everything. I know I need to do more but I can't bring myself to do it. Been browsing through old pictures and saw a few from summer 1-2 years ago which made me think... that was probably the last time I've actually felt happy. It's been months now but I never seem to ever feel positive or happy. Everyday seem to pass filled with worries and stress.
Slowly but surely I am removing the things that make me angry or change my emotions. I have cut alcohol completely, PS3 (Gets me angry) and Facebook.
Ruskie said:
Not having a good week. Relationship is at breaking point again. Spent two full days in bed as I couldn't think of one good reason to get up. Complete apathy about everything. I know I need to do more but I can't bring myself to do it.
Slowly but surely I am removing the things that make me angry or change my emotions. I have cut alcohol completely, PS3 (Gets me angry) and Facebook.
Perhaps my problems are not as serious but I do understand the feeling. I wish I have someone to talk to besides myself and people on the internet but now even the missus leaves me alone (I don't blame her though!)Slowly but surely I am removing the things that make me angry or change my emotions. I have cut alcohol completely, PS3 (Gets me angry) and Facebook.
Good point about alcohol, I think I really need to control my consumption. I've been using alcohol as an excuse lately to forget.
crazy about cars said:
How's everyone doing?
It's been months now but I never seem to ever feel positive or happy. Everyday seem to pass filled with worries and stress.
That pretty much covers it for me.It's been months now but I never seem to ever feel positive or happy. Everyday seem to pass filled with worries and stress.
I'm coming to the end of a Cognitive behavioural therapy course that, to be honest, I've got very little from.
Each week I hope it will be the day that they pull out the big guns that will make a difference but all you get is a few tricks to take your mind off things.
In the last session she explained to me how worrying doesn't achieve anything so I shouldn't do it.
I now have a new worry. That after waiting 6 months for this therapy, it will have solved nothing and I will be thrown back into the wilderness.
crazy about cars said:
Ruskie said:
Not having a good week. Relationship is at breaking point again. Spent two full days in bed as I couldn't think of one good reason to get up. Complete apathy about everything. I know I need to do more but I can't bring myself to do it.
Slowly but surely I am removing the things that make me angry or change my emotions. I have cut alcohol completely, PS3 (Gets me angry) and Facebook.
Perhaps my problems are not as serious but I do understand the feeling. I wish I have someone to talk to besides myself and people on the internet but now even the missus leaves me alone (I don't blame her though!)Slowly but surely I am removing the things that make me angry or change my emotions. I have cut alcohol completely, PS3 (Gets me angry) and Facebook.
Good point about alcohol, I think I really need to control my consumption. I've been using alcohol as an excuse lately to forget.
Ruskie said:
It is the day after if I have alcohol, I feel a lot worse. It is a depressive though so not a massive shock.
The "beer fear" certainly bigger impact on me; but that's only if I over do it. Went to BTCC @ Rockingham last weekend and ended up drinking more than I should. Monday was horrible.longshot said:
That pretty much covers it for me.
I'm coming to the end of a Cognitive behavioural therapy course that, to be honest, I've got very little from.
Each week I hope it will be the day that they pull out the big guns that will make a difference but all you get is a few tricks to take your mind off things.
In the last session she explained to me how worrying doesn't achieve anything so I shouldn't do it.
I now have a new worry. That after waiting 6 months for this therapy, it will have solved nothing and I will be thrown back into the wilderness.
I've completed my CGT last year. I did learn from it but in the end I really long for some kind of ongoing professional support.I'm coming to the end of a Cognitive behavioural therapy course that, to be honest, I've got very little from.
Each week I hope it will be the day that they pull out the big guns that will make a difference but all you get is a few tricks to take your mind off things.
In the last session she explained to me how worrying doesn't achieve anything so I shouldn't do it.
I now have a new worry. That after waiting 6 months for this therapy, it will have solved nothing and I will be thrown back into the wilderness.
It would be nice to be able to afford a psychologist, the kind that you lie on a chair and tell him/her your problems.
A bit sad to say this perhaps but by sharing with people with similar experience in this thread does help improve things for me.
crazy about cars said:
longshot said:
That pretty much covers it for me.
I'm coming to the end of a Cognitive behavioural therapy course that, to be honest, I've got very little from.
Each week I hope it will be the day that they pull out the big guns that will make a difference but all you get is a few tricks to take your mind off things.
In the last session she explained to me how worrying doesn't achieve anything so I shouldn't do it.
I now have a new worry. That after waiting 6 months for this therapy, it will have solved nothing and I will be thrown back into the wilderness.
I've completed my CGT last year. I did learn from it but in the end I really long for some kind of ongoing professional support.I'm coming to the end of a Cognitive behavioural therapy course that, to be honest, I've got very little from.
Each week I hope it will be the day that they pull out the big guns that will make a difference but all you get is a few tricks to take your mind off things.
In the last session she explained to me how worrying doesn't achieve anything so I shouldn't do it.
I now have a new worry. That after waiting 6 months for this therapy, it will have solved nothing and I will be thrown back into the wilderness.
It would be nice to be able to afford a psychologist, the kind that you lie on a chair and tell him/her your problems.
A bit sad to say this perhaps but by sharing with people with similar experience in this thread does help improve things for me.
crazy about cars said:
longshot said:
That pretty much covers it for me.
I'm coming to the end of a Cognitive behavioural therapy course that, to be honest, I've got very little from.
Each week I hope it will be the day that they pull out the big guns that will make a difference but all you get is a few tricks to take your mind off things.
In the last session she explained to me how worrying doesn't achieve anything so I shouldn't do it.
I now have a new worry. That after waiting 6 months for this therapy, it will have solved nothing and I will be thrown back into the wilderness.
I've completed my CGT last year. I did learn from it but in the end I really long for some kind of ongoing professional support.I'm coming to the end of a Cognitive behavioural therapy course that, to be honest, I've got very little from.
Each week I hope it will be the day that they pull out the big guns that will make a difference but all you get is a few tricks to take your mind off things.
In the last session she explained to me how worrying doesn't achieve anything so I shouldn't do it.
I now have a new worry. That after waiting 6 months for this therapy, it will have solved nothing and I will be thrown back into the wilderness.
It would be nice to be able to afford a psychologist, the kind that you lie on a chair and tell him/her your problems.
A bit sad to say this perhaps but by sharing with people with similar experience in this thread does help improve things for me.
Regardless of what we do or don't achieve in them, I do find it comforting to have someone to off load onto every week and I know that I will miss it when it finishes.
I've already told her (yes, it's a her and yes she is young and cute but no pics) that if I win the lottery, I will employ her full time.
I think my main fear is that I feel this is my one and only chance to get some help and so I am scared because it isn't having the effect I hoped for and I will just go back to feeling hopeless all the time.
I've been pinning a lot on this changing things for the better.
I think threads lie this are helpful to all in similar circumstances.
It's nice to know you are not alone and someone understands what you are going through because they have been there too.
Edited by longshot on Saturday 13th September 11:54
Young and cute... no wonder you don't want to stop the sessions 
Mine had to be stopped as basically I've completed the course. I was told I can go back for quarterly matchup but so far hasn't heard anything.
Mine had to be stopped as basically I've completed the course. I was told I can go back for quarterly matchup but so far hasn't heard anything.longshot said:
I don't want my sessions to stop.
Regardless of what we do or don't achieve in them, I do find it comforting to have someone to off load onto every week and I know that I will miss it when it finishes.
I've already told her (yes, it's a her and yes she is young and cute but no pics) that if I win the lottery, I will employ her full time.
I think my main fear is that I feel this is my one and only chance to get some help and so I am scared because it isn't having the effect I hoped for and I will just go back to feeling hopeless all the time.
I've been pinning a lot on this changing things for the better.
I think threads lie this are helpful to all in similar circumstances.
It's nice to know you are not alone and someone understands what you are going through because they have been there too.
Regardless of what we do or don't achieve in them, I do find it comforting to have someone to off load onto every week and I know that I will miss it when it finishes.
I've already told her (yes, it's a her and yes she is young and cute but no pics) that if I win the lottery, I will employ her full time.
I think my main fear is that I feel this is my one and only chance to get some help and so I am scared because it isn't having the effect I hoped for and I will just go back to feeling hopeless all the time.
I've been pinning a lot on this changing things for the better.
I think threads lie this are helpful to all in similar circumstances.
It's nice to know you are not alone and someone understands what you are going through because they have been there too.
Edited by longshot on Saturday 13th September 11:54
crazy about cars said:
Young and cute... no wonder you don't want to stop the sessions Mine had to be stopped as basically I've completed the course. I was told I can go back for quarterly matchup but so far hasn't heard anything.
I have a 2 week break and then it is my last session. Mine had to be stopped as basically I've completed the course. I was told I can go back for quarterly matchup but so far hasn't heard anything.She had a meeting last week about improving the services they provide.
More money has been found so they can have more therapists and people shouldn't have to wait do long so assuming this is a National thing, maybe they will be in touch.
crazy about cars said:
Ruskie said:
If you really want to help me then lend me your M3 for a week please
Don't mind that if it helps matey! Unfortunately I'm selling the M3 soon though 
Just waiting to see if I can get a good deal and it's being p/x for something more sensible.Just to underline the comment above about the huge value in being able to unload on a totally non-judgemental professional who has your interests at heart is vastly, vastly helpful. They may not solve any problems, but in my case they let you feel as though you are a bit more in control and capable of dealing with the pressure. When the course finishes, it can be, as the saying goes, a bit of a bugger. Just having an ear that can ask insightful questions that you totally overlooked, or make you think about things in a slightly different way helps, and all those tiny little helpful bits all add up to tilt the balance a bit more in your favour.
You can self-refer to local NHS funded CBT therapy services, but I suspect they might well just send you back to do the horrible form-filling stuff, rather than providing active intelligent advice.
I can see why some people go to self-help groups, but I suspect they would just stress me out even more.
You can self-refer to local NHS funded CBT therapy services, but I suspect they might well just send you back to do the horrible form-filling stuff, rather than providing active intelligent advice.
I can see why some people go to self-help groups, but I suspect they would just stress me out even more.
Well sold my M3 for something more sensible.
Mixed feelings, gutted to be letting the M3 go as it's mint with all the goodies I love but I'm hoping this will pass when I start to see the pros.I've just not got time to fully utilise plus don't really need to potential financial (and career-related) worries. Big first step for me if you know how much I like my cars but hopefully this is a first helpful step.
Sometimes when you are in a hole you will need to find a way to get out of the hole no matter how hard the decision may be. Do apologise for the random post but just feel I wanted to share...
Mixed feelings, gutted to be letting the M3 go as it's mint with all the goodies I love but I'm hoping this will pass when I start to see the pros.I've just not got time to fully utilise plus don't really need to potential financial (and career-related) worries. Big first step for me if you know how much I like my cars but hopefully this is a first helpful step.
Sometimes when you are in a hole you will need to find a way to get out of the hole no matter how hard the decision may be. Do apologise for the random post but just feel I wanted to share...
I have battled with depression myself for a decade or so. It became a lot worse when I separated in 2008 and had the divorce from hell with the associated contact issues with my ex over my son. I was lucky to be in the forces and feel I was very well looked after, there is a fantastic medical service to tap into. I spent some time on medication, went through a lot of CBT etc. now I'm a lot better but it still lurks in the background all the time. I'd recommend scoring your mood level on Moodscope as often as possible to keep track of where you are. Bookmarked for future reading.
Hit me in the last week or so. I don't think it's so bad as in the last because I have "outs" in front of me and I've been able to manage myself but this week is utter 0% level. With a measure of hindsight I can see the catalyst was a Quarterly Progress Meeting I had to attend back in the UK at HQ in place of my boss. These are never fun and basically a day long kicking from the customer. As it was I endured an hr plus of slating, our PM being woeful in defending us to the point where I simply swore at the customer told them I was pissed off with their crap and they were talking b
ks. Ironically my outburst shut everybody up and ended that part of the convo because I happened to be right, but it left me shaking after and furiously angry. Which has been my mood ever since I've realised. Culminating in last weekend with food poisoning pretty much because my reserves are gone, dead, running on fumes. I've existed this week, nothing more and got away with it because I know salvation is on hand...holiday to Barbados on fri!!!
It's been a yr of 60hr weeks since the stArt of the yr and largely every week travelling between uk, Germany and Italy. I've had a load of job offers and interviews hit me this week so I know I have plenty of options I've back off hol and this is very much taking the edge off. This low lethargic zoned out place I'm currently in is my first real Depressive episode in 4yrs I think, I'm just grateful it's come at a time I have positive options.
Being stuck abroad on your own when all you have is a semi empty hotel with only another 60hr week of slog is a very peculiar hell as it is. I actually feel a little like a stranger looking in at myself atm.
Oh well, good to talk and all that!
ks. Ironically my outburst shut everybody up and ended that part of the convo because I happened to be right, but it left me shaking after and furiously angry. Which has been my mood ever since I've realised. Culminating in last weekend with food poisoning pretty much because my reserves are gone, dead, running on fumes. I've existed this week, nothing more and got away with it because I know salvation is on hand...holiday to Barbados on fri!!! It's been a yr of 60hr weeks since the stArt of the yr and largely every week travelling between uk, Germany and Italy. I've had a load of job offers and interviews hit me this week so I know I have plenty of options I've back off hol and this is very much taking the edge off. This low lethargic zoned out place I'm currently in is my first real Depressive episode in 4yrs I think, I'm just grateful it's come at a time I have positive options.
Being stuck abroad on your own when all you have is a semi empty hotel with only another 60hr week of slog is a very peculiar hell as it is. I actually feel a little like a stranger looking in at myself atm.
Oh well, good to talk and all that!
DJRC said:
Hit me in the last week or so. I don't think it's so bad as in the last because I have "outs" in front of me and I've been able to manage myself but this week is utter 0% level. With a measure of hindsight I can see the catalyst was a Quarterly Progress Meeting I had to attend back in the UK at HQ in place of my boss. These are never fun and basically a day long kicking from the customer. As it was I endured an hr plus of slating, our PM being woeful in defending us to the point where I simply swore at the customer told them I was pissed off with their crap and they were talking bks. Ironically my outburst shut everybody up and ended that part of the convo because I happened to be right, but it left me shaking after and furiously angry. Which has been my mood ever since I've realised. Culminating in last weekend with food poisoning pretty much because my reserves are gone, dead, running on fumes. I've existed this week, nothing more and got away with it because I know salvation is on hand...holiday to Barbados on fri!!!
It's been a yr of 60hr weeks since the stArt of the yr and largely every week travelling between uk, Germany and Italy. I've had a load of job offers and interviews hit me this week so I know I have plenty of options I've back off hol and this is very much taking the edge off. This low lethargic zoned out place I'm currently in is my first real Depressive episode in 4yrs I think, I'm just grateful it's come at a time I have positive options.
Being stuck abroad on your own when all you have is a semi empty hotel with only another 60hr week of slog is a very peculiar hell as it is. I actually feel a little like a stranger looking in at myself atm.
Oh well, good to talk and all that!
Take it easy my friend, from reading that seems that most of your stress is from your job. I've been in the same shoes and know how bad that can be. ks. Ironically my outburst shut everybody up and ended that part of the convo because I happened to be right, but it left me shaking after and furiously angry. Which has been my mood ever since I've realised. Culminating in last weekend with food poisoning pretty much because my reserves are gone, dead, running on fumes. I've existed this week, nothing more and got away with it because I know salvation is on hand...holiday to Barbados on fri!!! It's been a yr of 60hr weeks since the stArt of the yr and largely every week travelling between uk, Germany and Italy. I've had a load of job offers and interviews hit me this week so I know I have plenty of options I've back off hol and this is very much taking the edge off. This low lethargic zoned out place I'm currently in is my first real Depressive episode in 4yrs I think, I'm just grateful it's come at a time I have positive options.
Being stuck abroad on your own when all you have is a semi empty hotel with only another 60hr week of slog is a very peculiar hell as it is. I actually feel a little like a stranger looking in at myself atm.
Oh well, good to talk and all that!
Someone told me long ago that it's worth taking a step back and trying to get the "big picture".
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