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Ruskie said:
Sorry to hear of your troubles. Nothing much I can say without sounding hypocritical.
Likewise except the old cliche of remembering that we are fortunate to be living in the UK. The vast majority of the world are very poor and so we are fortunate already. Think positive, if you can.Ruskie said:
jogger1976 said:
Well I was doing well, but I can feel it slowly unraveling again.
Work is manic, I think the turbo on my car is f
ked and I'm having constant financial problems.
I think I've come to the conclusion that my life is pretty st and I don't know what to do to resolve it. I'm now 38 (39 in a few months) and I have come to realise that I'm pretty much fked because
1. I don't own my own house and probably never will, having given up the chance when things were more manageable to bail my dad out financially with my deposit. Said dad then royally fked me over by choosing his new wife over family and disappearing off the face of the earth 13 years ago.
2. The only member of my family that is still alive or is in contact with me is my sister, who lives a 7 hr plane ride away
3. I am employed in an industry (healthcare) that I love, but barely pays me enough to get through most months.This is even with being careful. Not very PH, I appreciate, but we can't all be multimillionaire directors with supercars, mansions and skiing holidays.
4. I'm totally at a loss regarding friendships,as I don't really have any friends.Used to, not just now though, as I end up not being able to cope and find I just want to run away from it all.
5.Relationships and dating are also hopeless as I think women just don't find me very attractive. The first 3 reasons are a massive handicap and I can't really see any way they can change, so I've pretty much given up and resigned myself to never having a happy ending.
Quite honestly, if you could give me a pill that would ensure I never woke up I'd take it.The only thing stopping me is the upset It'd probably cause.
too much upset.
Life really is st, isn't it?
Sorry to hear of your troubles. Nothing much I can say without sounding hypocritical. Work is manic, I think the turbo on my car is fked and I'm having constant financial problems. I think I've come to the conclusion that my life is pretty s
t and I don't know what to do to resolve it. I'm now 38 (39 in a few months) and I have come to realise that I'm pretty much fked because1. I don't own my own house and probably never will, having given up the chance when things were more manageable to bail my dad out financially with my deposit. Said dad then royally f
ked me over by choosing his new wife over family and disappearing off the face of the earth 13 years ago. 2. The only member of my family that is still alive or is in contact with me is my sister, who lives a 7 hr plane ride away
3. I am employed in an industry (healthcare) that I love, but barely pays me enough to get through most months.This is even with being careful. Not very PH, I appreciate, but we can't all be multimillionaire directors with supercars, mansions and skiing holidays.
4. I'm totally at a loss regarding friendships,as I don't really have any friends.Used to, not just now though, as I end up not being able to cope and find I just want to run away from it all.
5.Relationships and dating are also hopeless as I think women just don't find me very attractive. The first 3 reasons are a massive handicap and I can't really see any way they can change, so I've pretty much given up and resigned myself to never having a happy ending.
Quite honestly, if you could give me a pill that would ensure I never woke up I'd take it.The only thing stopping me is the upset It'd probably cause.
too much upset.
Life really is s
t, isn't it?Mike22233 said:
Personally, putting things in perspective always helps me
I agree, and you usually don't have to look far.I have friends and relatives with serious health issues, people in no better financial shape than me, getting divorced, etc.
It doesn't make my life any easier, but it helps to realize that even smiley happy people often have serious problems.
You're right that it helps most of the time, but if you're seriously depressed or anxious then trying to be logical and put things into perspective can just make things worse. Especially if somebody else does it for you 
Actually doing something proactive that helps you see another perspective might be different.
Actually doing something proactive that helps you see another perspective might be different.
maxxy5 said:
You're right that it helps most of the time, but if you're seriously depressed or anxious then trying to be logical and put things into perspective can just make things worse. Especially if somebody else does it for you
Actually doing something proactive that helps you see another perspective might be different.
Indeed - initially achieved by going out for walks and it made me think more positively Actually doing something proactive that helps you see another perspective might be different.
Hi all, thought I would post my experiences here as I've had depression and anxiety and am now a LOT better.
I run my own company and despite the perks it's bloody lonely at times. To cut a long story short I had a panic attack and genuinely thought I was having a heart attack, had to call an ambulance to work and ended up in A&E for the afternoon.
I got the all clear so brushed it off and carried on as if nothing at happened. I wasn't sleeping and was constantly feeling like st, eating crap and basically had a very crap outlook despite nothing to really complain about if that makes sense.
With hindsight I was miserable but trying to put a brave face on for everyone, basically being a typical male.
I was also very angry at the world, the only thing that kept me sane was my son who I adore.
Anyhow, starting to ramble a bit.. I had another panic attack, breathlessness, tight chest, feeling of impending doom - really frightening. Horrible experience.
I went to the doctor eventually and told him everything and took a depression test and basically turned out that I was very depressed..
It was extremely difficult to pluck up the courage to go to the doctor but I wish I had gone years ago as with hindsight I have felt like crap for years and years. Horrible relationship breakdown, serious work worries, a relative dying etc etc.
I was prescribed citalopram and 1 year later I feel great but the biggest change I feel has come from lifestyle changes. I was basically a lazy bugger..I started walking and now absolutely love it, I've also started going to the gym (the old me would never have gone near it) I've also started eating a lot healthierI used to live on crap.
I've also read a few book on mindfullness,which helped a great deal.
Hopefully you won't find this patronising but thought I should share my positive experience.
Good luck and go and see a Doctor, I was lucky to find an understanding one but if you tell them how bad you really feel I'm sure they will listen.
Edited to add I now also take vitamin d.
Best of luck.
I run my own company and despite the perks it's bloody lonely at times. To cut a long story short I had a panic attack and genuinely thought I was having a heart attack, had to call an ambulance to work and ended up in A&E for the afternoon.
I got the all clear so brushed it off and carried on as if nothing at happened. I wasn't sleeping and was constantly feeling like s
t, eating crap and basically had a very crap outlook despite nothing to really complain about if that makes sense.With hindsight I was miserable but trying to put a brave face on for everyone, basically being a typical male.
I was also very angry at the world, the only thing that kept me sane was my son who I adore.
Anyhow, starting to ramble a bit.. I had another panic attack, breathlessness, tight chest, feeling of impending doom - really frightening. Horrible experience.
I went to the doctor eventually and told him everything and took a depression test and basically turned out that I was very depressed..
It was extremely difficult to pluck up the courage to go to the doctor but I wish I had gone years ago as with hindsight I have felt like crap for years and years. Horrible relationship breakdown, serious work worries, a relative dying etc etc.
I was prescribed citalopram and 1 year later I feel great but the biggest change I feel has come from lifestyle changes. I was basically a lazy bugger..I started walking and now absolutely love it, I've also started going to the gym (the old me would never have gone near it) I've also started eating a lot healthierI used to live on crap.
I've also read a few book on mindfullness,which helped a great deal.
Hopefully you won't find this patronising but thought I should share my positive experience.
Good luck and go and see a Doctor, I was lucky to find an understanding one but if you tell them how bad you really feel I'm sure they will listen.
Edited to add I now also take vitamin d.
Best of luck.
Edited by joscal on Sunday 24th May 21:18
Oakey said:
I've been wanting to post in this thread for a while but always end up backing out.
Now though I'm just increasingly getting fked off with things.
I wouldn't even know where to begin though.
By posting up a lot more than that. There is a World of difference between 'getting fNow though I'm just increasingly getting f
ked off with things. I wouldn't even know where to begin though.
ked off with things' and genuine depression.Oakey said:
Whiningst said:
t said: By posting up a lot more than that. There is a World of difference between 'getting fked off with things' and genuine depression.
I'm on a tablet, there's a lot to write. I'll expand more when I'm back at my desktop tomorrow.ked off with things' and genuine depression.
Here is my latest blog on what I am doing to address my problems.
https://howfootballruinedmylife.wordpress.com/2015...
I would genuinely like to know what people are thinking when they read my blog. The feedback means a lot. The blog has at the time of posting had over 5500 views.
https://howfootballruinedmylife.wordpress.com/2015...
I would genuinely like to know what people are thinking when they read my blog. The feedback means a lot. The blog has at the time of posting had over 5500 views.
It's interesting reading through the process you're going through and I can fully empathise with the discomfort you feel with the counselling. It's not for everyone and can often be extremely draining, but then that's also part of the process. The bits and pieces you learn about yourself can be quite enlightening, although not always pleasant. Stick with it for as long as you can, or at least for as long as you feel there's something positive in continuing.
I can't comment on the prescribed drugs as I've never taken them, much to the frustration of various doctors but if you feel they're bringing some sort of stability (even if it's at the expense of ultimate sensitivity) then keep up with the dosage.
I can't comment on the prescribed drugs as I've never taken them, much to the frustration of various doctors but if you feel they're bringing some sort of stability (even if it's at the expense of ultimate sensitivity) then keep up with the dosage.
Ruskie said:
Here is my latest blog on what I am doing to address my problems.
https://howfootballruinedmylife.wordpress.com/2015...
I would genuinely like to know what people are thinking when they read my blog. The feedback means a lot. The blog has at the time of posting had over 5500 views.
To say I 'enjoy' reading your blog might be the wrong word, because reading about somebody else's misfortune is never a nice thing, but I always look forward to your next post. Your blog has really helped to give me an understanding of depression and has helped me to come to terms with how I am feeling. I think the number of views it has had speaks for itself. Hopefully I speak for a lot of people on this thread when I say that I really appreciate you taking the time to write your blog, and I wish you all the best in your recovery.https://howfootballruinedmylife.wordpress.com/2015...
I would genuinely like to know what people are thinking when they read my blog. The feedback means a lot. The blog has at the time of posting had over 5500 views.
sorry to hear your troubles jogger1976. I know what you mean when you say that if you had a pill to end it all, you'd take it, but wouldn't want to hurt others. I feel the same. I find life exhausting sometimes and find the idea of death quite welcoming.
All can I can say to you is chin up. I know its very hard and easier said than done. try and find a hobby or two. I walk many miles a day myself in the country to try and blow off steam, and it works (sometimes).
Good luck, and hope you find happiness in the end
All can I can say to you is chin up. I know its very hard and easier said than done. try and find a hobby or two. I walk many miles a day myself in the country to try and blow off steam, and it works (sometimes).
Good luck, and hope you find happiness in the end
Feel a little odd today.
I came across what I thought were some people assisting a broken down vehicle, as I got closer I could see a motorbike on it's side, with it's rider lying motionless on the road in front of it.
I stopped to offer the use of my first aid kit and ended up making the 999 call as only my phone had signal and I was the only one with local knowledge of the area.
The poor lad was slipping in and out of consciousness, barely making any movement or sound.
He was only 24 and was on a lesson with an intructor and another pupil. His helmet had scratches all over it, he was wearing gloves, boots and a proper jacket, but only jeans. Which had torn open at the knee and grazed his leg quite badly.
Myself and another chap had used our vans to shield him from traffic and were attempting to control traffic on what was a very tight, blind bend on an NSL road. The instructor put out some mini cones, which several people ran over!
He was a bit more responsive by the time the paramedic had arrived, he was able to move his body enough to aid them in removing some of his clothes. I left just as the big Ambulance turned up.
Ever since I drove away from it, I've been feeling odd. Very similar feeling to "the fog", just with even less ability to concentrate. I just can't stop thinking about the poor guy.
I came across what I thought were some people assisting a broken down vehicle, as I got closer I could see a motorbike on it's side, with it's rider lying motionless on the road in front of it.
I stopped to offer the use of my first aid kit and ended up making the 999 call as only my phone had signal and I was the only one with local knowledge of the area.
The poor lad was slipping in and out of consciousness, barely making any movement or sound.
He was only 24 and was on a lesson with an intructor and another pupil. His helmet had scratches all over it, he was wearing gloves, boots and a proper jacket, but only jeans. Which had torn open at the knee and grazed his leg quite badly.
Myself and another chap had used our vans to shield him from traffic and were attempting to control traffic on what was a very tight, blind bend on an NSL road. The instructor put out some mini cones, which several people ran over!
He was a bit more responsive by the time the paramedic had arrived, he was able to move his body enough to aid them in removing some of his clothes. I left just as the big Ambulance turned up.
Ever since I drove away from it, I've been feeling odd. Very similar feeling to "the fog", just with even less ability to concentrate. I just can't stop thinking about the poor guy.
Rickyy said:
Feel a little odd today.
I came across what I thought were some people assisting a broken down vehicle, as I got closer I could see a motorbike on it's side, with it's rider lying motionless on the road in front of it.
I stopped to offer the use of my first aid kit and ended up making the 999 call as only my phone had signal and I was the only one with local knowledge of the area.
The poor lad was slipping in and out of consciousness, barely making any movement or sound.
He was only 24 and was on a lesson with an intructor and another pupil. His helmet had scratches all over it, he was wearing gloves, boots and a proper jacket, but only jeans. Which had torn open at the knee and grazed his leg quite badly.
Myself and another chap had used our vans to shield him from traffic and were attempting to control traffic on what was a very tight, blind bend on an NSL road. The instructor put out some mini cones, which several people ran over!
He was a bit more responsive by the time the paramedic had arrived, he was able to move his body enough to aid them in removing some of his clothes. I left just as the big Ambulance turned up.
Ever since I drove away from it, I've been feeling odd. Very similar feeling to "the fog", just with even less ability to concentrate. I just can't stop thinking about the poor guy.
Massive pat on the back to you matey, so many people would just drive past. You did an awesome thing and should be "up". Of course you could do a bit of digging and find out how the poor fella is doing but , of course, I also realise the reason you won't do this. Either way you've achieved something most of us won't have done today. Well done fella I came across what I thought were some people assisting a broken down vehicle, as I got closer I could see a motorbike on it's side, with it's rider lying motionless on the road in front of it.
I stopped to offer the use of my first aid kit and ended up making the 999 call as only my phone had signal and I was the only one with local knowledge of the area.
The poor lad was slipping in and out of consciousness, barely making any movement or sound.
He was only 24 and was on a lesson with an intructor and another pupil. His helmet had scratches all over it, he was wearing gloves, boots and a proper jacket, but only jeans. Which had torn open at the knee and grazed his leg quite badly.
Myself and another chap had used our vans to shield him from traffic and were attempting to control traffic on what was a very tight, blind bend on an NSL road. The instructor put out some mini cones, which several people ran over!
He was a bit more responsive by the time the paramedic had arrived, he was able to move his body enough to aid them in removing some of his clothes. I left just as the big Ambulance turned up.
Ever since I drove away from it, I've been feeling odd. Very similar feeling to "the fog", just with even less ability to concentrate. I just can't stop thinking about the poor guy.
Rickyy said:
Feel a little odd today.
I came across what I thought were some people assisting a broken down vehicle, as I got closer I could see a motorbike on it's side, with it's rider lying motionless on the road in front of it.
I stopped to offer the use of my first aid kit and ended up making the 999 call as only my phone had signal and I was the only one with local knowledge of the area.
The poor lad was slipping in and out of consciousness, barely making any movement or sound.
He was only 24 and was on a lesson with an intructor and another pupil. His helmet had scratches all over it, he was wearing gloves, boots and a proper jacket, but only jeans. Which had torn open at the knee and grazed his leg quite badly.
Myself and another chap had used our vans to shield him from traffic and were attempting to control traffic on what was a very tight, blind bend on an NSL road. The instructor put out some mini cones, which several people ran over!
He was a bit more responsive by the time the paramedic had arrived, he was able to move his body enough to aid them in removing some of his clothes. I left just as the big Ambulance turned up.
Ever since I drove away from it, I've been feeling odd. Very similar feeling to "the fog", just with even less ability to concentrate. I just can't stop thinking about the poor guy.
I had a very similar experience a few years ago.... was on my own for 10 mins or so until emergency services arrived.... It wasn't until some time later (hospital would give no info) I was contacted by the families that I felt better about things... too many would have driven past so you did a very good thing today and I am certain he and his family are very pleased you did what you could.I came across what I thought were some people assisting a broken down vehicle, as I got closer I could see a motorbike on it's side, with it's rider lying motionless on the road in front of it.
I stopped to offer the use of my first aid kit and ended up making the 999 call as only my phone had signal and I was the only one with local knowledge of the area.
The poor lad was slipping in and out of consciousness, barely making any movement or sound.
He was only 24 and was on a lesson with an intructor and another pupil. His helmet had scratches all over it, he was wearing gloves, boots and a proper jacket, but only jeans. Which had torn open at the knee and grazed his leg quite badly.
Myself and another chap had used our vans to shield him from traffic and were attempting to control traffic on what was a very tight, blind bend on an NSL road. The instructor put out some mini cones, which several people ran over!
He was a bit more responsive by the time the paramedic had arrived, he was able to move his body enough to aid them in removing some of his clothes. I left just as the big Ambulance turned up.
Ever since I drove away from it, I've been feeling odd. Very similar feeling to "the fog", just with even less ability to concentrate. I just can't stop thinking about the poor guy.
Rickyy said:
Feel a little odd today.
I came across what I thought were some people assisting a broken down vehicle, as I got closer I could see a motorbike on it's side, with it's rider lying motionless on the road in front of it.
I stopped to offer the use of my first aid kit and ended up making the 999 call as only my phone had signal and I was the only one with local knowledge of the area.
The poor lad was slipping in and out of consciousness, barely making any movement or sound.
He was only 24 and was on a lesson with an intructor and another pupil. His helmet had scratches all over it, he was wearing gloves, boots and a proper jacket, but only jeans. Which had torn open at the knee and grazed his leg quite badly.
Myself and another chap had used our vans to shield him from traffic and were attempting to control traffic on what was a very tight, blind bend on an NSL road. The instructor put out some mini cones, which several people ran over!
He was a bit more responsive by the time the paramedic had arrived, he was able to move his body enough to aid them in removing some of his clothes. I left just as the big Ambulance turned up.
Ever since I drove away from it, I've been feeling odd. Very similar feeling to "the fog", just with even less ability to concentrate. I just can't stop thinking about the poor guy.
Please take this the way it's intended, that's not depression, it's perfectly normal. Which is probably a positive I came across what I thought were some people assisting a broken down vehicle, as I got closer I could see a motorbike on it's side, with it's rider lying motionless on the road in front of it.
I stopped to offer the use of my first aid kit and ended up making the 999 call as only my phone had signal and I was the only one with local knowledge of the area.
The poor lad was slipping in and out of consciousness, barely making any movement or sound.
He was only 24 and was on a lesson with an intructor and another pupil. His helmet had scratches all over it, he was wearing gloves, boots and a proper jacket, but only jeans. Which had torn open at the knee and grazed his leg quite badly.
Myself and another chap had used our vans to shield him from traffic and were attempting to control traffic on what was a very tight, blind bend on an NSL road. The instructor put out some mini cones, which several people ran over!
He was a bit more responsive by the time the paramedic had arrived, he was able to move his body enough to aid them in removing some of his clothes. I left just as the big Ambulance turned up.
Ever since I drove away from it, I've been feeling odd. Very similar feeling to "the fog", just with even less ability to concentrate. I just can't stop thinking about the poor guy.
WinstonWolf said:
Rickyy said:
Feel a little odd today.
I came across what I thought were some people assisting a broken down vehicle, as I got closer I could see a motorbike on it's side, with it's rider lying motionless on the road in front of it.
I stopped to offer the use of my first aid kit and ended up making the 999 call as only my phone had signal and I was the only one with local knowledge of the area.
The poor lad was slipping in and out of consciousness, barely making any movement or sound.
He was only 24 and was on a lesson with an intructor and another pupil. His helmet had scratches all over it, he was wearing gloves, boots and a proper jacket, but only jeans. Which had torn open at the knee and grazed his leg quite badly.
Myself and another chap had used our vans to shield him from traffic and were attempting to control traffic on what was a very tight, blind bend on an NSL road. The instructor put out some mini cones, which several people ran over!
He was a bit more responsive by the time the paramedic had arrived, he was able to move his body enough to aid them in removing some of his clothes. I left just as the big Ambulance turned up.
Ever since I drove away from it, I've been feeling odd. Very similar feeling to "the fog", just with even less ability to concentrate. I just can't stop thinking about the poor guy.
Please take this the way it's intended, that's not depression, it's perfectly normal. Which is probably a positive I came across what I thought were some people assisting a broken down vehicle, as I got closer I could see a motorbike on it's side, with it's rider lying motionless on the road in front of it.
I stopped to offer the use of my first aid kit and ended up making the 999 call as only my phone had signal and I was the only one with local knowledge of the area.
The poor lad was slipping in and out of consciousness, barely making any movement or sound.
He was only 24 and was on a lesson with an intructor and another pupil. His helmet had scratches all over it, he was wearing gloves, boots and a proper jacket, but only jeans. Which had torn open at the knee and grazed his leg quite badly.
Myself and another chap had used our vans to shield him from traffic and were attempting to control traffic on what was a very tight, blind bend on an NSL road. The instructor put out some mini cones, which several people ran over!
He was a bit more responsive by the time the paramedic had arrived, he was able to move his body enough to aid them in removing some of his clothes. I left just as the big Ambulance turned up.
Ever since I drove away from it, I've been feeling odd. Very similar feeling to "the fog", just with even less ability to concentrate. I just can't stop thinking about the poor guy.
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