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rock bottom

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120 posts

142 months

Sunday 10th February 2013
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that's me six months sober pretty much

it's been a very odd experience - lots of good and a bit of bad

no going back though - i can't

i'll try to write a bit more through the week

thanks again to everyone who supported me in the early days - you really did make it easier

Pferdestarke

7,180 posts

188 months

Sunday 10th February 2013
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clap

Seriously. That's good to hear.

I've cut down from a little too much to almost zero. It feels a lot better.

ALawson

7,815 posts

252 months

Sunday 10th February 2013
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Saw Gazza in the press today made me think of this thread and low and behold it gets updated! Good work.


happychap

530 posts

149 months

Sunday 10th February 2013
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Hi RB, good to hear your progress. One thing to remember, you said you can't go back, the fact is you can if you made a choicr to, however you make a choice not to, that's the impotent bit. Well done for making that choice. HC

DuncanM

6,210 posts

280 months

Monday 11th February 2013
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An inspirational thread this, well done RB smile


Smitters

4,004 posts

158 months

Monday 11th February 2013
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Superb work. Massive milestone right there and through the tougher half of the year too, when everyone's indoors, down the pub, stuffing full at Christmas. Very, very well done.

muon

814 posts

141 months

Monday 11th February 2013
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rock bottom said:
that's me six months sober pretty much

it's been a very odd experience - lots of good and a bit of bad

no going back though - i can't

i'll try to write a bit more through the week

thanks again to everyone who supported me in the early days - you really did make it easier
I haven't read the entirety of this thread but that's awesome work.

anonymous-user

55 months

Monday 11th February 2013
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Great work RockBottom!!!

Congratulations, and long may they continue!

K50 DEL

9,237 posts

229 months

Tuesday 12th February 2013
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RB

I've followed this thread from the very beginning... spending many years working in the licensed trade I saw a huge number of people in your "before" state come and go, sadly for most of them the "go" part meant to the mortuary so a heartfelt well done to you for the sucess you've achieved thus far.

I was wondering 2 things, firstly have you calculated how much money you've saved so far and secondly, assuming your wife was fully aware of your drink problem I wonder whether she would consider writing something here about how you've changed, I suspect it would be very interesting to read an honest before and after assesment and might even help some people still in the situation you were.


rock bottom

Original Poster:

120 posts

142 months

Saturday 27th July 2013
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one year since i posted first

no slips

different life

not easy though

some tricky family issues just now - i do wonder about making it all go away for a while by drinking

i know now that it would all be worse when sober

smart choice is to just deal with stuff

generally managing to be a good person most of the time

aa has been a huge help and i am now able to help others in my own way

i don't think this would have happened without my wife - i am a lucky man

she is delighted - her life has changed for the better too as a result of all of this

those who posted on this thread early on helped me on my way

i have been given the opportunity to live and enjoy my life and i've embraced it

if anyone reads this and is worried about themself - i have proved that is can be ok

it will be ok - one day at a time

i have forgotten the email i used to register so can't respond to pms

thanks again people

Pferdestarke

7,180 posts

188 months

Saturday 27th July 2013
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Excellent. keep strong and carry on.

TheExcession

11,669 posts

251 months

Saturday 27th July 2013
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A1

B17NNS

18,506 posts

248 months

Saturday 27th July 2013
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clap superb!

anonymous-user

55 months

Sunday 28th July 2013
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One step at a time smile. Like most things, I don't think it ever "Leaves" you, but you certainly get stronger at dealing with it. Keep on trucking.

Markhoskins

109 posts

130 months

Monday 29th July 2013
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Well done

If you click my profile at the top you will see the email address you used.

ED209

5,746 posts

245 months

Wednesday 31st July 2013
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I had wondered what happend to this thread a few times, Glad you are doing well!

Lobster Drill

71 posts

134 months

Wednesday 31st July 2013
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Wow, a year is a long time. What prompted you to start drinking too much? Did you have any health scares?

Sounds like you have a lovely wife, best wishes to continuing success smile

Inspire

199 posts

180 months

Thursday 1st August 2013
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This has been a difficult string of posts to read.

I've not posted on pistonheads before despite registering a little while ago.

I originally read this thread in July last year and it made me cry. My best friend (and best man) is an alcoholic. I've watched him loss him loss his girlfriend, flat and job. I struggled to understand what to do to help him and made the mistake of thinking that I could help him by meeting him in the pub and taking drinks off him (when he was drunk) or thinking we could replace a pub crawl with a coffee crawl (going from Starbucks to costa instead of beers).

He was done two trips to the priory and one to stepping stones in south africa. Luckily he is better now having moved back on with his parents ( he is 37) and going to AA every night.. He had a very stressful job a and so realised that this was part of the problem. his parents and a new job have supplied the stability he needed.

I was worried when this thread when quiet that Rock Bottom was having problems. I cannot express how pleased I am that you seem seem to be doing okay. Whilst your friends may not have made comments, I can only say that they will have suffered (on a very very small scale in comparison) worrying about you.

I Wish you all the best.

Rob


B17NNS

18,506 posts

248 months

Friday 2nd August 2013
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Inspire said:
Whilst your friends may not have made comments, I can only say that they will have suffered (on a very very small scale in comparison) worrying about you.
So true. Like any illness the effect is widespread. As damaging to those picking up the pieces as to the dirty boozehound him or her self.

All the best to you and your friend Rob.

King Herald

23,501 posts

217 months

Friday 2nd August 2013
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rock bottom said:
one year since i posted first

no slips

different life

not easy though

some tricky family issues just now - i do wonder about making it all go away for a while by drinking....
Excellent work mate. I'm surprised I haven't seen this thread before, as I was once in the position you were. However, I managed to kick it one day at a time, like you, and eventually stayed dry for sixteen years. It was a great feeling, waking up feeling fresh every morning, no looming worries about exactly what I had done the night before etc, no waking up in some ditch, or asleep outside some closed down night club.

The idea of drowning your sorrows in drink is not new, and I can guarantee when you wake up the next day, with an epic, stinking, miserable, guilty hangover, things will be worse, and you'll feel like hell as well. Don't take that chance.

Edited by King Herald on Friday 2nd August 00:46