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AndyNetwork
1,361 posts
63 months
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This happened to me when my marriage broke down - I didn't eat for 3 weeks, and in the end my boss took me to the canteen, and sat with me while I ate!!! (He also made me go home after working 18 hour days for 5 weeks in a printing factory, telling me not only was I building up too much time, but I was a danger due to being tired, even though I wasn't sleeping when I was at home either!) Much of this was down to stress, and "forgetting" or "can't be arsed" to make anything, and I didn't notice as I was too pre-occupied by everything else that was going on. You have probably made the first step, in that you recognise you are not eating, I didn't realise. Second set an alarm and eat a little at the same time every day, gets you back into the routine of eating. Once you start eating, as long as you are not being sick or s  tting through the eye of a needle, then you will soon be in a position to sort out the stresses of your job, and so on. Once that is done, your appitite will return. Hope everything works out for you soon.
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Piersman2
3,136 posts
68 months
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hora said: I do not want to alarm but I can kinda see how someone can get to that point. The fact that I can publically/say that out loud means I've still got my head above the water. Indeed, and that's why I'm saying to not be frightened about talking to your missus. Let someone else close to you know what's in your head, they will be able to give you the correct sense of perspective far better than us bunch of t ts on PH! 
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hora
Original Poster
16,579 posts
80 months
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I love you Jasandjules. If I ever meet you I'm going to give you a hug  
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Mobile Chicane
14,028 posts
81 months
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Sounds to me like viral pneumonia (google it) which believe it or not is very common in young guys. A bloke I know had 3 weeks off work including a stint in Intensive Care.
You need time off and start looking after your health. Sliced root ginger in hot water will help with nausea.
Should your temperature escalate and/or you feel short of breath, it's straight to A&E.
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Oversteer
247 posts
127 months
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I recently had a marriage breakup and 5 months later on am still struggling to eat.
At one point the only food I'd had was two bowls of cornflakes over 9 days. I lost
two stone in weight (approx. 16% of body weight) over a few months. My clothes don't
fit very well but I can't afford to buy new ones.
I think the key to getting it all back together again is to eat small meals very
regularly. If you can afford it eat things you like, a take away curry doesn't have
to cost the earth if you cut out "all the trimmings". A regular breakfast is a solid
base, it's probably not very healthy over the long term but a McDonalds "muffin meal"
sets me up for the day and seems to improve my appetite throughout the rest of the
day.
I can't afford to eat the things I like, and therein lies the problem. On the job
front it's a scary thing facing unemployment but less so when you're there.
One other thing, get out an get some exercise there's nothing like it to improve the
appetite even if it's the last thing you really feel like doing.
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Hoofy
47,972 posts
151 months
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Complan! sc0tt said: hora said: The only bonus. Yes I can see I'm starting to trim up (overweight at the moment). Stop your whining then. 
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don4l
3,315 posts
45 months
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hora said: My boss is very good - shes stuck by me (and I don't think I've ever had a bad boss) however the business can't 'carry' someone.
Has you boss said anything to suggest that your job could be in danger? I ask the question because we recently lost one of our best staff. He was a worrier and had convinced himself that his job was at risk. The first time that he resigned, I managed to talk him out of it. Six months later he handed in his notice again. This time I realised that he was never going to settle, so I had to let him go. It was a real pity because he had a fantastic future ahead. His worries were totally unfounded. Maybe a chat with your boss might help. Don --
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theshrew
1,509 posts
53 months
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Try and get a new job - Feck getting stressed about work, life is for living not for work to rule your life.
Just try and eat something - I was in a similar position about 8-10 years ago didnt hardly eat anything for months lost a shed load of weight bacically was a mess. It still affects me a tiny bit now as i dont eat a great deal never feel hungry.
I doubt you will do any harm short term but you will if you carry on. I certainly did for eg my teeth went from being great not 1 filling or anything, now i have nothing but trouble with them.
You need the food to keep your body healthy. Get something down your mush mate.
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McHaggis
7,762 posts
24 months
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Change your doctor. Talk to your partner. Problem shared, etc. Take at least a long weekend off. Keep drinking at least sugary drinks and light soups of you can. Buy some trail mix and try grazing on a few bits every hour, dont force a big meal. End of advice, and you have the ph support.
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Matt UK
7,526 posts
69 months
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Hora, from what I have read, you are exhibiting some symptons around stress / depression.
I am no expert, but don't for a minute think you are the first one (espcially amongst men) to find yourself heading down the road you are currently looking at.
Good that you have shared your thoughts online. Suggest you share them with your partner, boss and doctor. You may then get the opportunity to talk openly with someone you don't know but who is trainied to help you get to the core of things.
For some of us, the hardest part is being 100% honest with yourslf first. The "I'm fine, I can cope with anything, no need to worry others, I'll sort it, don't want to look a tw*t" gene runs strong in a lot of us, often so deep we need help to think past it. It's often part of some fairly deep programming.
Soon as one gets past any of that bullsh*t, the world looks very different and people can come out the other side feeling like a different person and able to handle anything life throws at them.
I don't want to come across as some sort of online head-doctor because I am not. But I will share with you that if it is depression, you are not the first. It's only looking back that I can appreciate how long I'd been slowly and gently heading in that direction and ignoring all the signs as I didn't recognise them and knew nothing about this topic.
Anyway, I could be well off track and making heavy weather of something which doesn't require it, so apologies if I am. If my post rings a bell though, call your doctor right now and arrange a time to talk.
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gonzales
566 posts
80 months
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I went through a 3 week period of not eating a thing - surviving on fresh orange juice and water. I had a lot of job worries at the time and just ocmpletely lost my appitite (sp?). Took weeks to start eating regularly. Things got much better when I quit my job and went looking for something else.
I bottled it all up, didn't speak to anyone about it and looking back was one hell of a mess. I recommend talking to someone about it, your partner or a good friend and speak to a doctor about stress/anxiety.
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PoleDriver
20,230 posts
63 months
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If you're having trouble keeping food down (or in) try some of the diarrhoea cures or hangover cures. They will rehydrate you and make sure that you have essential electrolytes in your system.
Vitamins are also a good idea!
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King Herald
18,359 posts
85 months
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fulham911club said: hora said: The Docs prescribed antibiotics as she said I have a viral infection.I'm dubious and think its stress. Pure stress? Change your doctor as antibiotics don't work on viral infections.... "You have a virus, I'll give you some antibiotics" How many times have I heard that over the years?? WTF is going on with the medical world?
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Simonium
214 posts
21 months
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I was made redundant in March and if I'm honest my appetite isn't what it used to be. But as I was a greedy b d, that's not horrifying. In all seriousness though I've been struggling with stress of late and one of the ways it manifests itself for me is lack of appetite.
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GC8
9,563 posts
59 months
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Jasandjules said: FFS book some time off work. You NEED to work out whether now is the time to find another job (easier said than done I know) or what you can do to stop this going too far. I have to agree with this. I had a big work issue a few years ago and I persevered until I approached breaking point. I ended up physically confronting the person who was the cause of the problem in a lift and Im lucky that I managed to restrain myself to some degree, although its all a little vague in my recollection. I handed my notice in immediately afterwards and felt that a massive weight had been taken off my shoulders. I was good at what I did and I was easily able to go and do it elsewhere, away from inter-departmental point scoring and petty empire building: perhaps you should do the same?
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hora
Original Poster
16,579 posts
80 months
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Some of man v foods establishments are a must. Awesome. Watching now.
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NotDave
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26 months
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hora
Original Poster
16,579 posts
80 months
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Jacket Fri night.
Fried eggs.
Homemade curry last night and tonight.
Ass is like a rusty old garden tap..
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McHaggis
7,762 posts
24 months
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Excellent. Now the next step... have you got some time booked off? Even a long weekend? Two long weekends after each other would be even better if you can't get a full week off. The restorative powers of a 4 day week should not be underestimated.
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hora
Original Poster
16,579 posts
80 months
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Fri wedding in Edinburgh this week 
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