Effing cancer is an effing effer, frankly
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What the hell do you even say to someone in this situation?
An old school friend just told me he has pretty advanced kidney cancer that's spread to his lymph nodes. I'm struggling to even work out what to say to him let alone know how he must feel. Early 40's, 2 young kids, and by the sound of it a situation where treatment is about life extension rather than cure.
An old school friend just told me he has pretty advanced kidney cancer that's spread to his lymph nodes. I'm struggling to even work out what to say to him let alone know how he must feel. Early 40's, 2 young kids, and by the sound of it a situation where treatment is about life extension rather than cure.
RizzoTheRat said:
What the hell do you even say to someone in this situation?
An old school friend just told me he has pretty advanced kidney cancer that's spread to his lymph nodes. I'm struggling to even work out what to say to him let alone know how he must feel. Early 40's, 2 young kids, and by the sound of it a situation where treatment is about life extension rather than cure.
When my friend told me over the phone I blubbed then apologised for blubbing (pancreatic cancer with spread so grim prognosis) when it should have been her in tears not me. She started laughing and said it had been a common response. I think I then said 'what the hell!!' and 'when did she find out?' and went from there. She was a no nonsense type so that's kind of how we chatted about it.An old school friend just told me he has pretty advanced kidney cancer that's spread to his lymph nodes. I'm struggling to even work out what to say to him let alone know how he must feel. Early 40's, 2 young kids, and by the sound of it a situation where treatment is about life extension rather than cure.
I guess it comes down to the sort of person your friend is (my friend was only 44)
Today I said goodbye to Dave, my husband and my best friend. His year long battle with cancer is finally over. He passed away peacefully this afternoon at Myton Hospice. I can't thank them enough for making his last few days pain free and peaceful.
This is how I want to remember him, enjoying life while he could.
This is how I want to remember him, enjoying life while he could.
Black Flag said:
Today I said goodbye to Dave, my husband and my best friend. His year long battle with cancer is finally over. He passed away peacefully this afternoon at Myton Hospice. I can't thank them enough for making his last few days pain free and peaceful.
This is how I want to remember him, enjoying life while he could.
I knew this post was coming but it is still a shock,thoughts are with you.This is how I want to remember him, enjoying life while he could.
Take care.
General Price said:
Black Flag said:
Today I said goodbye to Dave, my husband and my best friend. His year long battle with cancer is finally over. He passed away peacefully this afternoon at Myton Hospice. I can't thank them enough for making his last few days pain free and peaceful.
This is how I want to remember him, enjoying life while he could.
I knew this post was coming but it is still a shock,thoughts are with you.This is how I want to remember him, enjoying life while he could.
Take care.
I've been following this thread for a while and it is still so upsetting to hear the bad news. What a cruel, uncompromising disease this really is.
Black Flag said:
Today I said goodbye to Dave, my husband and my best friend. His year long battle with cancer is finally over. He passed away peacefully this afternoon at Myton Hospice. I can't thank them enough for making his last few days pain free and peaceful.
This is how I want to remember him, enjoying life while he could.
I think its great that you have put this photo of Dave on here. I didn't know him but that picture is just wonderful and a celebration of his life. We are at our best when we do something we have a real passion for.This is how I want to remember him, enjoying life while he could.
So sorry for your loss.
Black Flag said:
Today I said goodbye to Dave, my husband and my best friend. His year long battle with cancer is finally over. He passed away peacefully this afternoon at Myton Hospice. I can't thank them enough for making his last few days pain free and peaceful.
This is how I want to remember him, enjoying life while he could.
I love this photo, I am so sorry to read this news, my thoughts are with you at this time, take care.This is how I want to remember him, enjoying life while he could.
Black Flag said:
Today I said goodbye to Dave, my husband and my best friend. His year long battle with cancer is finally over. He passed away peacefully this afternoon at Myton Hospice. I can't thank them enough for making his last few days pain free and peaceful.
This is how I want to remember him, enjoying life while he could.
Oh This is how I want to remember him, enjoying life while he could.
I'm so sorry :crying:
Black Flag said:
Today I said goodbye to Dave, my husband and my best friend. His year long battle with cancer is finally over. He passed away peacefully this afternoon at Myton Hospice. I can't thank them enough for making his last few days pain free and peaceful.
This is how I want to remember him, enjoying life while he could.
I'm so sorry to hear this news, great to remember him at his best, that's what I did with Gill, I found it made things a little easier.This is how I want to remember him, enjoying life while he could.
Stay strong, i'm thinking of you...
k you Cancer. Dan_1981 said:
My friend who I posted about a couple of times - with lymphoma & leukaemia.... who they'd found the stem cell match for etc.
Completed his chemo recently, few scares with septicaemia etc but was doing OK and waiting to be well enough for the stem cell transplant.
Regular check up last week to find it has now spread to his brain. They are now classing his treatment as palliative.
He's 34 with a wife & a three year old.
Words can't express.
My friend died last Friday, peacefully at home with his wife by his side. Completed his chemo recently, few scares with septicaemia etc but was doing OK and waiting to be well enough for the stem cell transplant.
Regular check up last week to find it has now spread to his brain. They are now classing his treatment as palliative.
He's 34 with a wife & a three year old.
Words can't express.
His son was christened the weekend before in a lovely, very sad ceremony.
A 3 year old without a father & wonderful wonderful girl without her husband.
Not really much more that can be said. A funeral between Christmas & New Year
If you haven't already could I ask all of you reading this to sign up to the Blood Cancer charity and submit a swab. You really could go on to save someones life. Many many thanks to those who have already done so from my previous posts.
https://www.dkms.org.uk/en
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