Effing cancer is an effing effer, frankly

Effing cancer is an effing effer, frankly

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Hackney

6,810 posts

207 months

Tuesday 22nd December 2015
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It's funny isn't it my dad died 14 years ago next July, aged 58. First fell ill in Jan of that year. He was well enough to drive to seem me do a Ferrari experience in the spring of that year but deteriorated after.

When ever I think of him I don't think of my loss or my mum's but of how much he'd have loved to meet my wife and how doting he'd be over his grandson. It's him missing out that upsets me more than any loss I feel.

lost in espace

6,135 posts

206 months

Tuesday 22nd December 2015
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Mum died 12 years ago of bowel cancer. My brother has just been diagnosed with bladder cancer, caught it early though. Takes a bit of writing that. The consultant was optimistic, surgery after Xmas and then a bit of chemo.

It just a surface tumour, or so he says and the consultant says that in 80% of cases just comes away easily.

T5SOR

1,991 posts

224 months

Tuesday 22nd December 2015
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lost in espace said:
Mum died 12 years ago of bowel cancer. My brother has just been diagnosed with bladder cancer, caught it early though. Takes a bit of writing that. The consultant was optimistic, surgery after Xmas and then a bit of chemo.

It just a surface tumour, or so he says and the consultant says that in 80% of cases just comes away easily.
I was diagnosed with bladder cancer in Feb 2014 (at 27). Mine was very small and not aggressive. I have 6 monthly check ups (not pleasant....), but am now nearly 2 years free of it.

The downside is I am now very very obsessed with any pain or lump I come across!

trixical

1,054 posts

174 months

Thursday 24th December 2015
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Can I add a Screw You!
Currently helping to care for my cousins husband & support her & their 9 year old daughter. He is 18 months on from a diagnosis of renal cancer which it transpired was a stubborn & rare beast so he is now on the all too quick downward slope. We keep trying to remind ourselves that it is not him anymore except for brief saddening moments of clarity

IainT

10,040 posts

237 months

Thursday 24th December 2015
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My dad was taken in to hospital last Friday after sever headaches over about 5 weeks, he'd just had a lens replacement op so thought it was linked to that. Turns out to be a brain tumour. Had the first bit of 'good' news yesterday after a full body scan - looks like it's one its own, primary. Sent home last night for Christmas with a plan to remove a week today or possibly on the 5th Jan - depending on any emergencies coming in between now and then. Then the long 7-10 day wait to find out if it's benign or not - about 50-50 from the stats.

Good luck to anyone facing and fighting this - I hope your outcomes are the best they can be.

Mrs Muttleysnoop

1,412 posts

183 months

Tuesday 29th December 2015
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trixical said:
Can I add a Screw You!
Currently helping to care for my cousins husband & support her & their 9 year old daughter. He is 18 months on from a diagnosis of renal cancer which it transpired was a stubborn & rare beast so he is now on the all too quick downward slope. We keep trying to remind ourselves that it is not him anymore except for brief saddening moments of clarity
Sorry just seen your post. Big hug from us both x x




rigga

8,727 posts

200 months

Wednesday 30th December 2015
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Well here again 18 months after my brothers hard fight against this fking horrible disease, I'm again sitting next to a hospital bed watching my twin sister in her final hours.
Only good thing is the wonderful care she is receiving from the Marie curie cancer care center where she is, so thankful to them right now.

NordicCrankShaft

1,718 posts

114 months

Wednesday 30th December 2015
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fking hell man that's awful frown


My best friends wife was recently diagnosed with breast cancer at 32 years old just before Christmas, two young children too frown

trixical

1,054 posts

174 months

Thursday 31st December 2015
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Mrs Muttleysnoop said:
trixical said:
Can I add a Screw You!
Currently helping to care for my cousins husband & support her & their 9 year old daughter. He is 18 months on from a diagnosis of renal cancer which it transpired was a stubborn & rare beast so he is now on the all too quick downward slope. We keep trying to remind ourselves that it is not him anymore except for brief saddening moments of clarity
Sorry just seen your post. Big hug from us both x x
thank you
hes more with it after a drug review but is still majorly fighting the inevitable which although good only prolongs the suffering and we can not all continue as we have been in terms of support by the family due to exhaustion. It seems because he is too active for hospital and we have had the initial stint of emergency night care we fall into a void between a rock & a hard place where we have to manage until the brink of us falling apart then we might get another bout but we have no idea how long we are going to be at this.

aspirated

2,539 posts

145 months

Sunday 24th January 2016
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Tomorrow marks the first day as inpatient for me exactly one year ago, I feel so fortunate to be able to type this.

It's easy to forget all the pain and bad memories, I try not to but even my stomach tube scar has began to fade.

For anyone here whose life has been in any way affected by this bd disease, I hope everything gets better for you

fridaypassion

8,503 posts

227 months

Sunday 24th January 2016
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Just watched my Grandad pass from stomach cancer. He had a great life and 91 years of it so in his words not as bad as a lot of people have to cope with. The speed of decline from diagnosis in September to death in January was shocking. He was a giant of a man weighing easily 20 stone last year so to witness this dwindling to a little 8 stone vulnerable chap in a bed was awful. He held on at the end defying the doctors to actually return home from the hospice for Christmas about 5 days after my folks getting "the call". He returned to the hospice in a bad way just after Christmas and clung on for another 2 weeks. He was my best friend and I %(%ing hate cancer.

ruggedscotty

5,606 posts

208 months

Sunday 24th January 2016
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It is such a terrible disease this and it seems that it is so common now. so many people around with it.

superlightr

12,842 posts

262 months

Monday 25th January 2016
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just catching up on this thread as you do since my Father died of the feker a few years ago now. All difficult tales to read. Thoughts and best wishes are beamed out there to those suffering and those tying to help.

Compassion and understanding of others situation, plus seeing the same compassion and care that is out there is the only positive to this awful illness.


N7GTX

7,822 posts

142 months

Tuesday 26th January 2016
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Just caught up with this amazing thread. Old man died of prostate cancer aged 69, mother had breast cancer but survived for almost 30 years unbelievably as she continued to smoke 30 a day. Her brother lasted around 10 years with prostate cancer. Think there's a family history here....
So, at 60 was offered a check up by the GP and told them of the history - 'no we don't do prostate cancer checks' and they never bothered to add the details to my notes.
Fast forward to July last year and diagnosed with locally advanced prostate cancer. Consultant issued these immortal words, 'you should have been here 3 years ago'.
Had the biopsy, then 28 days of pills to stop tumour flare followed by Prostap 3 monthly injections. Dizziness, hot flushes (lots of them), sore nipples to name some side effects. Started the radiotherapy in December with 37 planned sessions. As I write, just 8 to go and the side effects get worse. Got up 6 times in the night for a pee on Saturday and it stings like hell and takes forever to dribble out. Permanent indigestion, wind and rectal damage so not having a right lot of laughs just now. The radio effects last for 2-3 weeks after completion so I'll be well glad when March gets here. Except that I remain on the Prostap for 3 years and if not rejected, for 10. Hey ho.

Thoughts are with all you out there fighting this absolute bd of a disease. clap

superlightr

12,842 posts

262 months

Wednesday 27th January 2016
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N7GTX said:
Just caught up with this amazing thread. Old man died of prostate cancer aged 69, mother had breast cancer but survived for almost 30 years unbelievably as she continued to smoke 30 a day. Her brother lasted around 10 years with prostate cancer. Think there's a family history here....
So, at 60 was offered a check up by the GP and told them of the history - 'no we don't do prostate cancer checks' and they never bothered to add the details to my notes.
Fast forward to July last year and diagnosed with locally advanced prostate cancer. Consultant issued these immortal words, 'you should have been here 3 years ago'.
Had the biopsy, then 28 days of pills to stop tumour flare followed by Prostap 3 monthly injections. Dizziness, hot flushes (lots of them), sore nipples to name some side effects. Started the radiotherapy in December with 37 planned sessions. As I write, just 8 to go and the side effects get worse. Got up 6 times in the night for a pee on Saturday and it stings like hell and takes forever to dribble out. Permanent indigestion, wind and rectal damage so not having a right lot of laughs just now. The radio effects last for 2-3 weeks after completion so I'll be well glad when March gets here. Except that I remain on the Prostap for 3 years and if not rejected, for 10. Hey ho.

Thoughts are with all you out there fighting this absolute bd of a disease. clap
Good luck with your treatment. I hope the effects lesson for you. Prostate is still not pushed hard enough for checkups. Ive started checkups at 40 and now late 40s with a check every 2 years psi and a poke in the bum because of high risk due to my Dad. One of the doctors did not want to give me the psi reading when asking me why I wanted to know the reading? I was quite annoyed as he was treating me like an idiot. It was so I could keep a record and understand as much as I could about it and compare it to my other readings. Yes I understand the limitations of psi tests.

N7GTX

7,822 posts

142 months

Wednesday 27th January 2016
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Thanks. Funny old thing this prostate. Even the finger test can upset the PSA level. Mine was 38 back in July but is now down at 4.9 (less than 6 is good).
The more worrying score was the Gleason one where mine was on max at 10 = aggressive form of the disease.
Still plenty of time to play with my TVR though....smokin

audikentman

632 posts

241 months

Wednesday 27th January 2016
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N7GTX said:
Just caught up with this amazing thread. Old man died of prostate cancer aged 69, mother had breast cancer but survived for almost 30 years unbelievably as she continued to smoke 30 a day. Her brother lasted around 10 years with prostate cancer. Think there's a family history here....
So, at 60 was offered a check up by the GP and told them of the history - 'no we don't do prostate cancer checks' and they never bothered to add the details to my notes.
Fast forward to July last year and diagnosed with locally advanced prostate cancer. Consultant issued these immortal words, 'you should have been here 3 years ago'.
Had the biopsy, then 28 days of pills to stop tumour flare followed by Prostap 3 monthly injections. Dizziness, hot flushes (lots of them), sore nipples to name some side effects. Started the radiotherapy in December with 37 planned sessions. As I write, just 8 to go and the side effects get worse. Got up 6 times in the night for a pee on Saturday and it stings like hell and takes forever to dribble out. Permanent indigestion, wind and rectal damage so not having a right lot of laughs just now. The radio effects last for 2-3 weeks after completion so I'll be well glad when March gets here. Except that I remain on the Prostap for 3 years and if not rejected, for 10. Hey ho.

Thoughts are with all you out there fighting this absolute bd of a disease. clap
Yeap cancer is sh!t
I only had 17 20minutes sessions for my HL, finished 5th November, still have the hair loss on my face and chest, and fatigued, but I can guess what you are going through. Mention to your radiologist about the indigestion they maybe able to prescrbe something. I had terrible heartburn and was given Omeprazole and it cleared up within 24 hours. Good luck and fkcancer.

ruggedscotty

5,606 posts

208 months

Monday 8th February 2016
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It touches people and it comes back and does it again and again.

I knew a guy who was for all intensive purposes never ill or sick. wasnt feeling to good went to doctor did some tests discovered cancer.
Less than four weeks he had passed away. just like that.

to try and take that in and get your head round it beggars belief.

Teppic

7,315 posts

256 months

Wednesday 24th February 2016
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Teppic said:
Can I join in? Six weeks ago, after undergoing medical tests to find out why my dad had chronic pain in his right leg, he was told that while they didnt know what was causing the pain the doctor had discovered that he had prostate cancer. Today he got the results of a biopsy on his leg and was told he has secondary bone cancer.
I posted this on 25th February 2013.

He died from this utter of a disease just over two weeks ago, on 8th February. The cancer had spread to his liver and lungs. He was admitted to hospital at the end of November 2015 and never came home.

fk YOU, CANCER. fk YOU RIGHT IN THE fkING ARSE!

loafer123

15,404 posts

214 months

Wednesday 24th February 2016
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Teppic said:
Teppic said:
Can I join in? Six weeks ago, after undergoing medical tests to find out why my dad had chronic pain in his right leg, he was told that while they didnt know what was causing the pain the doctor had discovered that he had prostate cancer. Today he got the results of a biopsy on his leg and was told he has secondary bone cancer.
I posted this on 25th February 2013.

He died from this utter of a disease just over two weeks ago, on 8th February. The cancer had spread to his liver and lungs. He was admitted to hospital at the end of November 2015 and never came home.

fk YOU, CANCER. fk YOU RIGHT IN THE fkING ARSE!
I'm very sorry, Teppic. My father died of the same things.

Remember the good times - cancer isn't worth wasting memories on.