Effing cancer is an effing effer, frankly

[petemurphy]

My mother died last night of brain cancer

[johnxjsc1985]

petemurphy said:

My mother died last night of brain cancer

that's really awfully sad mate thoughts are with you and your family.

[petemurphy]

johnxjsc1985 said:

that's really awfully sad mate thoughts are with you and your family.

Thanks on a phone so will write more later but basically nhs are st - Marie curie and the hospice are amazing. Thoughts to all going through same thing it's just horrendous X

[Cerbhd]

johnxjsc1985 said:

petemurphy said:

My mother died last night of brain cancer

that's really awfully sad mate thoughts are with you and your family.

My thoughts too you friend, I've lost 2 parents and1 brother so far. You'll find your friends

[petemurphy]

thanks - was the most horrific thing i could imagine but at least it was relatively quick. still in shock.

the hospice ( rowcroft ) in devon were fantastic as was her care home and the marie curie nurses.

why the hospice doesnt get funding i dont know

although i must admit i didnt really know what a hospice was / what it did until this.

the nhs just doesnt work anymore imho. private ins was a waste of money too.

seems everyone i know is touched by cancer these days. fking cancer.

[HD Adam]

Sorry to hear your news Pete.

[Black Flag]

Things have got steadily worse for Dave over the last few weeks. He is now in the Myton Hospice at Warwick and they have told me he only has a few days left. They are wonderful there and are taking such good care of him. He has a syringe driver for the morphine and other drugs and is pain free at last. It is so hard knowing he will never come home again.
fking cancer why did you have to pick on him
Jenny

[bexVN]

Black Flag said:

Things have got steadily worse for Dave over the last few weeks. He is now in the Myton Hospice at Warwick and they have told me he only has a few days left. They are wonderful there and are taking such good care of him. He has a syringe driver for the morphine and other drugs and is pain free at last. It is so hard knowing he will never come home again.
fking cancer why did you have to pick on him
Jenny

I am just so sorry to read this, It is so sad that you can only hope for him to be pain free but I am glad they are achieving that for him.

My sisters friends husband has just been diagnosed with oesophageal cancer, he is 40 with a young child. Just devastating . My thoughts are with you, take care

[ali_kat]

Black Flag said:

Things have got steadily worse for Dave over the last few weeks. He is now in the Myton Hospice at Warwick and they have told me he only has a few days left. They are wonderful there and are taking such good care of him. He has a syringe driver for the morphine and other drugs and is pain free at last. It is so hard knowing he will never come home again.
fking cancer why did you have to pick on him
Jenny

thoughts are with you Jenny

Keeping you both in my prayers

[silent k]

Black Flag said:

Things have got steadily worse for Dave over the last few weeks. He is now in the Myton Hospice at Warwick and they have told me he only has a few days left. They are wonderful there and are taking such good care of him. He has a syringe driver for the morphine and other drugs and is pain free at last. It is so hard knowing he will never come home again.
fking cancer why did you have to pick on him
Jenny

I lost my wife to cancer over the summer, she was in Warwick Myton for a couple of weeks beforehand. It's the most amazing place, the staff are just fantastic. I have two young children and amazingly they only have happy memories of going to see mummy there. My wife did come home from Myton but she was only home for a week before the end. My only advice is to take any of the support they offer you, the counselling they offer is very good.

And yeah, fk cancer. fk it all

[tdm34]

silent k said:

Black Flag said:

Things have got steadily worse for Dave over the last few weeks. He is now in the Myton Hospice at Warwick and they have told me he only has a few days left. They are wonderful there and are taking such good care of him. He has a syringe driver for the morphine and other drugs and is pain free at last. It is so hard knowing he will never come home again.
fking cancer why did you have to pick on him
Jenny

I lost my wife to cancer over the summer, she was in Warwick Myton for a couple of weeks beforehand. It's the most amazing place, the staff are just fantastic. I have two young children and amazingly they only have happy memories of going to see mummy there. My wife did come home from Myton but she was only home for a week before the end. My only advice is to take any of the support they offer you, the counselling they offer is very good.

And yeah, fk cancer. fk it all

Jenny, my thoughts are with you, i've gone through the same this year with my wife of 31 Years, the syringe driver is a godsend it, was for Gill.
There's nothing I can say that's going to make the next few days any easier, Cancer is such a vile illness, it's been five months for me now and things are beginning to get back to normal, but you'll have low spots I still do, but I just try to stay positive. Use the Macmillen people they were an inspiration for me.
Regards Rob.

[Morningside]

Sorry to everyone. Sorry to you all who have lost or losing someone to cancer. It really is a bd of a disease.
My late wife struggled for 7 weeks after diagnosis and I think the morphine drive was a real godsend.

Two of the hardest things were not being able to talk to her anymore. She was there but a shell. This damn strong woman always said that there was nothing on this earth that she was scared of and she would joke about these things.

She (sorry I don't think it's fair to give her name - maybe one day) even told me to leave and get out as I did not sign up for this as she put it. She was bloody angry when I stayed.

But the real hardest was she lost all sense of time and reality. I asked her once 'do you know what day it is'? expecting Sunday and she said 'is it our wedding anniversary'? What a kick in the guts that was. I had to leave the room.

How the hell do you keep someone happy and cheerful knowing that they are dying before your eyes? But you do.

She died at home with me holding her hand.


Time heals? Yes I suppose it does. I am now in another relationship and love her dearly. My love for my partner now is very deep and we 'found' each other as we had both lost our partners and understood how each other feels. Events also tells you that your time together is precious and should never be taken for granted.

Yes, I have days and times where I cry. Cry for sadness of the loss that I have suffered but also cry in happiness of knowing a wonderful woman.

Edited by Morningside on Wednesday 23 November 15:34

[tdm34]

Morningside said:

Sorry to everyone. Sorry to you all who have lost or losing someone to cancer. It really is a bd of a disease.
My late wife struggled for 7 weeks after diagnosis and I think the morphine drive was a real godsend.

Two of the hardest things were not being able to talk to her anymore. She was there but a shell. This damn strong woman always said that there was nothing on this earth that she was scared of and she would joke about these things.

She (sorry I don't think it's fair to give her name - maybe one day) even told me to leave and get out as I did not sign up for this as she put it. She was bloody angry when I stayed.

But the real hardest was she lost all sense of time and reality. I asked her once 'do you know what day it is'? expecting Sunday and she said 'is it our wedding anniversary'? What a kick in the guts that was. I had to leave the room.

How the hell do you keep someone happy and cheerful knowing that they are dying before your eyes? But you do.

She died at home with me holding her hand.


Time heals? Yes I suppose it does. I am now in another relationship and love her dearly. My love for my partner now is very deep and we 'found' each other as we had both lost our partners and understood how each other feels.

Yes, I have days and times where I cry. Cry for sadness of the loss that I have suffered but also cry in happiness of knowing a wonderful woman.

Morningside, that's a mirror of what happened with myself and Gill, and subsequent to her passing as well.

[Dan_1981]

My friend who I posted about a couple of times - with lymphoma & leukaemia.... who they'd found the stem cell match for etc.

Completed his chemo recently, few scares with septicaemia etc but was doing OK and waiting to be well enough for the stem cell transplant.

Regular check up last week to find it has now spread to his brain. They are now classing his treatment as palliative.

He's 34 with a wife & a three year old.

Words can't express.

[Morningside]

tdm34 said:

Morningside said:

Sorry to everyone. Sorry to you all who have lost or losing someone to cancer. It really is a bd of a disease.
My late wife struggled for 7 weeks after diagnosis and I think the morphine drive was a real godsend.

Two of the hardest things were not being able to talk to her anymore. She was there but a shell. This damn strong woman always said that there was nothing on this earth that she was scared of and she would joke about these things.

She (sorry I don't think it's fair to give her name - maybe one day) even told me to leave and get out as I did not sign up for this as she put it. She was bloody angry when I stayed.

But the real hardest was she lost all sense of time and reality. I asked her once 'do you know what day it is'? expecting Sunday and she said 'is it our wedding anniversary'? What a kick in the guts that was. I had to leave the room.

How the hell do you keep someone happy and cheerful knowing that they are dying before your eyes? But you do.

She died at home with me holding her hand.


Time heals? Yes I suppose it does. I am now in another relationship and love her dearly. My love for my partner now is very deep and we 'found' each other as we had both lost our partners and understood how each other feels.

Yes, I have days and times where I cry. Cry for sadness of the loss that I have suffered but also cry in happiness of knowing a wonderful woman.

Morningside, that's a mirror of what happened with myself and Gill, and subsequent to her passing as well.

YHM.

[anonymous-user]

Dan_1981 said:

My friend who I posted about a couple of times - with lymphoma & leukaemia.... who they'd found the stem cell match for etc.

Completed his chemo recently, few scares with septicaemia etc but was doing OK and waiting to be well enough for the stem cell transplant.

Regular check up last week to find it has now spread to his brain. They are now classing his treatment as palliative.

He's 34 with a wife & a three year old.

Words can't express.

So sorry to hear this.

[PomBstard]

The last two pages have been heartbreaking and sobering. Thoughts with all - the speed of change never ceases to amaze.

Without detracting from the harsh reality, I thought I'd provide a short update on my Mum. She finished her first three bouts of chemo back in Oct, and the following scan showed it had done its job. She has now just come out of hospital and recovering from a full hysterectomy. The op was a success, and no further signs were found - all other organs are as they should be. The relief can be felt on the other side of the planet.

Already booked in for the next three chemo sessions, and should be at the end of treatment around late-Jan.

We know that the good news is to be taken as it comes, and to crack on as best we can at the time. If Mum's given the all-clear in Jan/Feb then the first thing she's doing is booking a ticket to Aus to see her grandkids over here.

No-one is thinking beyond that, but its a good place to pause for now.

[Patch1875]

PomBstard said:

The last two pages have been heartbreaking and sobering. Thoughts with all - the speed of change never ceases to amaze.

Without detracting from the harsh reality, I thought I'd provide a short update on my Mum. She finished her first three bouts of chemo back in Oct, and the following scan showed it had done its job. She has now just come out of hospital and recovering from a full hysterectomy. The op was a success, and no further signs were found - all other organs are as they should be. The relief can be felt on the other side of the planet.

Already booked in for the next three chemo sessions, and should be at the end of treatment around late-Jan.

We know that the good news is to be taken as it comes, and to crack on as best we can at the time. If Mum's given the all-clear in Jan/Feb then the first thing she's doing is booking a ticket to Aus to see her grandkids over here.

No-one is thinking beyond that, but its a good place to pause for now.

Good news...it's good to hear when people are kicking its ass.

[Mrs Muttleysnoop]

PomBstard said:

The last two pages have been heartbreaking and sobering. Thoughts with all - the speed of change never ceases to amaze.

Without detracting from the harsh reality, I thought I'd provide a short update on my Mum. She finished her first three bouts of chemo back in Oct, and the following scan showed it had done its job. She has now just come out of hospital and recovering from a full hysterectomy. The op was a success, and no further signs were found - all other organs are as they should be. The relief can be felt on the other side of the planet.

Already booked in for the next three chemo sessions, and should be at the end of treatment around late-Jan.

We know that the good news is to be taken as it comes, and to crack on as best we can at the time. If Mum's given the all-clear in Jan/Feb then the first thing she's doing is booking a ticket to Aus to see her grandkids over here.

No-one is thinking beyond that, but its a good place to pause for now.

Well done to your Mother. She needs to keep an eye on her health as Ovarian Cancer has a nasty habit of coming back as I know only too well.

Wishing her a fab time in Aus seeing her grand children.

[anonymous-user]

I'm finishing work early this week, and probably will not be online again until next week, so I will wish everyone on this thread a happy and healthy weekend.