Effing cancer is an effing effer, frankly
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ali_kat said:
I know we don't get on, but... thinking if you all.
I hope your Mum is better soon & that this is just a storm in a teacup
Ax
Thanks I hope your Mum is better soon & that this is just a storm in a teacup
Ax
Same gynaecologist who treated me all those years ago, he has agreed to defer, it's much higher this time and he is comfortable performing a Trachelectomy rather than a hysterectomy.
bexVN said:
Tumbler said:
bexVN said:
Bugger 
. I hope they have caught things early because you went for a routine check rather than becoming symptomatic before going to be checked.
Bit of a shock though I'm sure.
I have no other symptoms and 24 months ago I was clear, so I'm positive, I'll be honest and say it's not a cancer I associate with my age, when I went for my smear I was more concerned about when my daughters would be screened.. I hope they have caught things early because you went for a routine check rather than becoming symptomatic before going to be checked. Bit of a shock though I'm sure.
Tumbler, Hope all is well after treatment
Never thought I'd be contributing to this thread, but just lost my sister at 51 to aggressive primary CNS lymphoma.
Unfortunately, she reacted badly to the full-strength chemotherapy advised and caught mssa and spent some time in Aintree Hospital's new multi-million pound critical care unit.
She never really recovered and died in a nursing home on Friday - five months from her suddenly behaving strangely, and looking and sounding very unwell.
Still feel sadness that it wasn't recognised early enough. I took her to A&E twice over Christmas/New Year because I was so concerned at her total change of behaviour and knew it was something serious. They told her to give up smoking and exercise more. She actually walked miles each day, in preference to getting the bus into town. The second time they advised her GP to just keep an eye on her and to modify some lifestyle choices - fair enough about the smoking, although she was a light smoker.
Looking back, she displayed all the classic symptoms of lack of balance, slurred speech, eyesight problems, changed personality and severe confusion (she didn't know whether it was day or night).
It was only when she collapsed and fell over badly in town that she got ongoing medical care, but the police initially thought she was an alcoholic. Poor girl hadn't touched a drink in decades.
She was assessed in a local hospital for over three weeks before it became clear she had a brain tumour, and transferred to Walton.
When the chemo failed they revived her and said that that was probably the end of the road, due to the aggressive nature of her condition.
Coming back to her house to sort out the funeral, it was heartbreaking to see evidence of a vibrant life stopped in its tracks. Unopened CDs, bought in anticipation, phone messages unanswered, and then the mountain of get well soon cards.
Started to think of more positive things to do, so have been tending to her garden (she was single) and tidying and sorting.
Go to agree with the thread title though...
Unfortunately, she reacted badly to the full-strength chemotherapy advised and caught mssa and spent some time in Aintree Hospital's new multi-million pound critical care unit.
She never really recovered and died in a nursing home on Friday - five months from her suddenly behaving strangely, and looking and sounding very unwell.
Still feel sadness that it wasn't recognised early enough. I took her to A&E twice over Christmas/New Year because I was so concerned at her total change of behaviour and knew it was something serious. They told her to give up smoking and exercise more. She actually walked miles each day, in preference to getting the bus into town. The second time they advised her GP to just keep an eye on her and to modify some lifestyle choices - fair enough about the smoking, although she was a light smoker.
Looking back, she displayed all the classic symptoms of lack of balance, slurred speech, eyesight problems, changed personality and severe confusion (she didn't know whether it was day or night).
It was only when she collapsed and fell over badly in town that she got ongoing medical care, but the police initially thought she was an alcoholic. Poor girl hadn't touched a drink in decades.
She was assessed in a local hospital for over three weeks before it became clear she had a brain tumour, and transferred to Walton.
When the chemo failed they revived her and said that that was probably the end of the road, due to the aggressive nature of her condition.
Coming back to her house to sort out the funeral, it was heartbreaking to see evidence of a vibrant life stopped in its tracks. Unopened CDs, bought in anticipation, phone messages unanswered, and then the mountain of get well soon cards.
Started to think of more positive things to do, so have been tending to her garden (she was single) and tidying and sorting.
Go to agree with the thread title though...
As usual a timely reminder of how fragile life is and how disgusting Cancer is. . I have almost lost count of the family and friends I have lost these past ten years and the bravery of those who finally lose the battle is just incredible. Thoughts to those who have lost loved ones life can be really s
tty sometimes.
tty sometimes.After a few months of chemo, mum went for a scan to see how it was going.
Chemo isnt working, and radiotherapy isnt an option due to the cancers proximity to her heart. She has the choice between carrying on and being awfully ill for little/no improvement, or stopping treatment. They have offered 'maintenance' chemo, but by the sounds of it it will never reduce the cancer, just stop it growing, but she will still feel terrible. I am in bits, but trying to be supportive and act fine. I think this is, properly, the beginning of the end. Sorry, no questions or anything, just nowhere else to talk/write about it.
Chemo isnt working, and radiotherapy isnt an option due to the cancers proximity to her heart. She has the choice between carrying on and being awfully ill for little/no improvement, or stopping treatment. They have offered 'maintenance' chemo, but by the sounds of it it will never reduce the cancer, just stop it growing, but she will still feel terrible. I am in bits, but trying to be supportive and act fine. I think this is, properly, the beginning of the end. Sorry, no questions or anything, just nowhere else to talk/write about it.
Dgr90 said:
After a few months of chemo, mum went for a scan to see how it was going.
Chemo isnt working, and radiotherapy isnt an option due to the cancers proximity to her heart. She has the choice between carrying on and being awfully ill for little/no improvement, or stopping treatment. They have offered 'maintenance' chemo, but by the sounds of it it will never reduce the cancer, just stop it growing, but she will still feel terrible. I am in bits, but trying to be supportive and act fine. I think this is, properly, the beginning of the end. Sorry, no questions or anything, just nowhere else to talk/write about it.
I have been in that position with my Mum, sister-in-law, brother -in-law, father-in-law and I have only the deepest sympathy for you and anyone else in similar positions. I am only grateful that my Dad died of a triple A (aneurysm of the abdominal aorta) which was quick and painless. Cancer is the most pernicious disease. Chemo isnt working, and radiotherapy isnt an option due to the cancers proximity to her heart. She has the choice between carrying on and being awfully ill for little/no improvement, or stopping treatment. They have offered 'maintenance' chemo, but by the sounds of it it will never reduce the cancer, just stop it growing, but she will still feel terrible. I am in bits, but trying to be supportive and act fine. I think this is, properly, the beginning of the end. Sorry, no questions or anything, just nowhere else to talk/write about it.
Dgr90 said:
After a few months of chemo, mum went for a scan to see how it was going.
Chemo isnt working, and radiotherapy isnt an option due to the cancers proximity to her heart. She has the choice between carrying on and being awfully ill for little/no improvement, or stopping treatment. They have offered 'maintenance' chemo, but by the sounds of it it will never reduce the cancer, just stop it growing, but she will still feel terrible. I am in bits, but trying to be supportive and act fine. I think this is, properly, the beginning of the end. Sorry, no questions or anything, just nowhere else to talk/write about it.
Chemo isnt working, and radiotherapy isnt an option due to the cancers proximity to her heart. She has the choice between carrying on and being awfully ill for little/no improvement, or stopping treatment. They have offered 'maintenance' chemo, but by the sounds of it it will never reduce the cancer, just stop it growing, but she will still feel terrible. I am in bits, but trying to be supportive and act fine. I think this is, properly, the beginning of the end. Sorry, no questions or anything, just nowhere else to talk/write about it.
gutted for you mate thats awful. Its 100% ok to not act fine.Dgr90 said:
I am in bits, but trying to be supportive and act fine. I think this is, properly, the beginning of the end. Sorry, no questions or anything, just nowhere else to talk/write about it.
Sorry to hear that. Only your mother can decide what she wants to do, but best of luck with the awful choice.As for you, write away here if it helps. Don't feel you have to act any particular way, there's no right or wrong at times like this, but make sure you look after yourself and that she knows you love her.
Another (recent) member of the cancer club here. I was diagnosed with a lymphoma in my stomach node about 2 weeks ago, and after an ultrasound on my testicles today, found I had a lump on my left testicle. I'm having surgery to remove the offending testicle next Thursday, then a PET scan to confirm it's not anywhere else in my body (e.g. bone marrow) and then onto the chemotherapy treatment. All in all I'm likely to never be able to have children naturally (loss of one of my testicles and the chemo), which is gutting when you consider I'm only 24.
I left the University of Liverpool with a 2:1 in Business Management last year. Got myself a customer service job to pay the bills whilst I applied for graduate schemes and internships. I planned to take my CFA level 1 in December of this year but it looks like I won't be fit enough to even entertain the idea. Funny how life finds a way to mess up your plans and aspirations.
It's all rather depressing at the moment, especially as I'm going to have to explain to future employers a potential gaping hole in my CV. To be quite frank I'm not so sure employers don't discriminate on those grounds, especially as it's very hard to prove they have discounted an applicant based on their potential future health.
Sorry if this has come off as a little negative, defeatist and selfish. I count myself lucky that it appears to be a very treatable cancer, and understand others have had it a lot worse than me. I suppose I don't really want to say all this to my mum as I'm sure she's got enough worry for herself and me. I wish everyone who has-or knows a loved one with- cancer the best.
I left the University of Liverpool with a 2:1 in Business Management last year. Got myself a customer service job to pay the bills whilst I applied for graduate schemes and internships. I planned to take my CFA level 1 in December of this year but it looks like I won't be fit enough to even entertain the idea. Funny how life finds a way to mess up your plans and aspirations.
It's all rather depressing at the moment, especially as I'm going to have to explain to future employers a potential gaping hole in my CV. To be quite frank I'm not so sure employers don't discriminate on those grounds, especially as it's very hard to prove they have discounted an applicant based on their potential future health.
Sorry if this has come off as a little negative, defeatist and selfish. I count myself lucky that it appears to be a very treatable cancer, and understand others have had it a lot worse than me. I suppose I don't really want to say all this to my mum as I'm sure she's got enough worry for herself and me. I wish everyone who has-or knows a loved one with- cancer the best.
rb26 said:
Another (recent) member of the cancer club here. I was diagnosed with a lymphoma in my stomach node about 2 weeks ago, and after an ultrasound on my testicles today, found I had a lump on my left testicle. I'm having surgery to remove the offending testicle next Thursday, then a PET scan to confirm it's not anywhere else in my body (e.g. bone marrow) and then onto the chemotherapy treatment. All in all I'm likely to never be able to have children naturally (loss of one of my testicles and the chemo), which is gutting when you consider I'm only 24.
I left the University of Liverpool with a 2:1 in Business Management last year. Got myself a customer service job to pay the bills whilst I applied for graduate schemes and internships. I planned to take my CFA level 1 in December of this year but it looks like I won't be fit enough to even entertain the idea. Funny how life finds a way to mess up your plans and aspirations.
It's all rather depressing at the moment, especially as I'm going to have to explain to future employers a potential gaping hole in my CV. To be quite frank I'm not so sure employers don't discriminate on those grounds, especially as it's very hard to prove they have discounted an applicant based on their potential future health.
Sorry if this has come off as a little negative, defeatist and selfish. I count myself lucky that it appears to be a very treatable cancer, and understand others have had it a lot worse than me. I suppose I don't really want to say all this to my mum as I'm sure she's got enough worry for herself and me. I wish everyone who has-or knows a loved one with- cancer the best.
rb - gutted to hear for you. let us know how you progress? I'm thinking Masters for you and then onto PhD? I left the University of Liverpool with a 2:1 in Business Management last year. Got myself a customer service job to pay the bills whilst I applied for graduate schemes and internships. I planned to take my CFA level 1 in December of this year but it looks like I won't be fit enough to even entertain the idea. Funny how life finds a way to mess up your plans and aspirations.
It's all rather depressing at the moment, especially as I'm going to have to explain to future employers a potential gaping hole in my CV. To be quite frank I'm not so sure employers don't discriminate on those grounds, especially as it's very hard to prove they have discounted an applicant based on their potential future health.
Sorry if this has come off as a little negative, defeatist and selfish. I count myself lucky that it appears to be a very treatable cancer, and understand others have had it a lot worse than me. I suppose I don't really want to say all this to my mum as I'm sure she's got enough worry for herself and me. I wish everyone who has-or knows a loved one with- cancer the best.
rb26 said:
Another (recent) member of the cancer club here. I was diagnosed with a lymphoma in my stomach node about 2 weeks ago, and after an ultrasound on my testicles today, found I had a lump on my left testicle. I'm having surgery to remove the offending testicle next Thursday, then a PET scan to confirm it's not anywhere else in my body (e.g. bone marrow) and then onto the chemotherapy treatment. All in all I'm likely to never be able to have children naturally (loss of one of my testicles and the chemo), which is gutting when you consider I'm only 24.
I left the University of Liverpool with a 2:1 in Business Management last year. Got myself a customer service job to pay the bills whilst I applied for graduate schemes and internships. I planned to take my CFA level 1 in December of this year but it looks like I won't be fit enough to even entertain the idea. Funny how life finds a way to mess up your plans and aspirations.
It's all rather depressing at the moment, especially as I'm going to have to explain to future employers a potential gaping hole in my CV. To be quite frank I'm not so sure employers don't discriminate on those grounds, especially as it's very hard to prove they have discounted an applicant based on their potential future health.
Sorry if this has come off as a little negative, defeatist and selfish. I count myself lucky that it appears to be a very treatable cancer, and understand others have had it a lot worse than me. I suppose I don't really want to say all this to my mum as I'm sure she's got enough worry for herself and me. I wish everyone who has-or knows a loved one with- cancer the best.
I was in a similar situation, life going well then the whammy of cancer. It is so random, and after all we are told about living a good lifestyle we think it won't happen to us. After the initial unreality of the situation I was able to put my head down and get on with dealing with it. Not easy but you do get through it.I left the University of Liverpool with a 2:1 in Business Management last year. Got myself a customer service job to pay the bills whilst I applied for graduate schemes and internships. I planned to take my CFA level 1 in December of this year but it looks like I won't be fit enough to even entertain the idea. Funny how life finds a way to mess up your plans and aspirations.
It's all rather depressing at the moment, especially as I'm going to have to explain to future employers a potential gaping hole in my CV. To be quite frank I'm not so sure employers don't discriminate on those grounds, especially as it's very hard to prove they have discounted an applicant based on their potential future health.
Sorry if this has come off as a little negative, defeatist and selfish. I count myself lucky that it appears to be a very treatable cancer, and understand others have had it a lot worse than me. I suppose I don't really want to say all this to my mum as I'm sure she's got enough worry for herself and me. I wish everyone who has-or knows a loved one with- cancer the best.
I found that having been through it my priorities changed. I was worried about what to say at interview after 2 years off fighting cancer, I prepared well, got good advice from Macmillan and nailed the job I wanted. Don't overthink things, get any help you need, and talk to other patients if you can, they helped me get through it and to move on afterwards. Good luck!
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