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We have joined the club my misses is 8 weeks gone , following two miscarriages (neither planned) a few years back which where horrible. This time we planned it slightly better and are more hopeful
The only thing I sometimes struggle with is how it totally engulfs her 24-7, don't get me wrong i'm keen, excited and supportive, but I cant talk about the pregnancy every moment I'm with her! I worry that our existing teenagers our going to get left out. We often argue because I'm focusing on the day to day running of the house (2 x dogs, bills to pay , housework etc) where as she wants to talk non stop about the baby. My point being, I can't wait for it, but in the meantime life has to go on.
Anyone else having similar issues?
The only thing I sometimes struggle with is how it totally engulfs her 24-7, don't get me wrong i'm keen, excited and supportive, but I cant talk about the pregnancy every moment I'm with her! I worry that our existing teenagers our going to get left out. We often argue because I'm focusing on the day to day running of the house (2 x dogs, bills to pay , housework etc) where as she wants to talk non stop about the baby. My point being, I can't wait for it, but in the meantime life has to go on.
Anyone else having similar issues?
Slightly belated congratulations, Chicken Chaser!
I met the prospective BlackVanBaby on Monday - not something that's usually allowed in adoption but her, and my, circumstances made it seem a good idea. Given how I've felt since having to give her back to the foster carers and come home, I'm now not so sure it was a good idea at all. Feel like I've physically left a piece of myself behind, at the other end of the country.
BUT... if all's well, she'll be coming home for good in just over 6 weeks time. Finished the paperwork for the matching panel yesterday, they are the ones who make the decision on which child goes where, and if their decision is positive then mid March is D day.
I met the prospective BlackVanBaby on Monday - not something that's usually allowed in adoption but her, and my, circumstances made it seem a good idea. Given how I've felt since having to give her back to the foster carers and come home, I'm now not so sure it was a good idea at all. Feel like I've physically left a piece of myself behind, at the other end of the country.
BUT... if all's well, she'll be coming home for good in just over 6 weeks time. Finished the paperwork for the matching panel yesterday, they are the ones who make the decision on which child goes where, and if their decision is positive then mid March is D day.
Didn't know this thread existed.
We have a daughter due on the 4th of June, what the hell am I going to do with a Girl!!!!
We had a bit of a drama over Xmas as we had a blood test which gave a very high chance of Downs so we decided on a Ambio, I almost wish we hadn't but I know it was the right thing to do for us really, anyway it cam back fine and we've now passed the danger period, it had the bonus of giving us a 100% accurate result for sex.
I think one of the worst parts about it was every Man, Women, Child and their dog had an opinion on having blood tests and Ambios etc, in fact they all seem to have very concrete opinions on every facet of our little girl's life from what tests to do, what type of birth, names, bloody feeding and early development regimes to schools and everything in between - We've decided to keep our plans to our selves largely, there's only so many times you can be told you're wrong about something you've put a huge amount of time, energy and indeed emotion into before it starts to grate a bit. I'm sure no one wants to be offensive, but in regards to tests etc it's very easy to be all high and mighty about even allowing the tiniest of risks and accepting what happens, but it very different when you're actually in the real world, not the hypothetical.
Anyway, can't wait, what the people in most of our local shops think about a big lump like me getting all dewey-eyed about little pink baby outfits I don't know, but they can't be complaining, it feels like I'm single handily lifted the GDP by buying them all.
We have a daughter due on the 4th of June, what the hell am I going to do with a Girl!!!!
We had a bit of a drama over Xmas as we had a blood test which gave a very high chance of Downs so we decided on a Ambio, I almost wish we hadn't but I know it was the right thing to do for us really, anyway it cam back fine and we've now passed the danger period, it had the bonus of giving us a 100% accurate result for sex.
I think one of the worst parts about it was every Man, Women, Child and their dog had an opinion on having blood tests and Ambios etc, in fact they all seem to have very concrete opinions on every facet of our little girl's life from what tests to do, what type of birth, names, bloody feeding and early development regimes to schools and everything in between - We've decided to keep our plans to our selves largely, there's only so many times you can be told you're wrong about something you've put a huge amount of time, energy and indeed emotion into before it starts to grate a bit. I'm sure no one wants to be offensive, but in regards to tests etc it's very easy to be all high and mighty about even allowing the tiniest of risks and accepting what happens, but it very different when you're actually in the real world, not the hypothetical.
Anyway, can't wait, what the people in most of our local shops think about a big lump like me getting all dewey-eyed about little pink baby outfits I don't know, but they can't be complaining, it feels like I'm single handily lifted the GDP by buying them all.
Edited by P-Jay on Monday 3rd February 13:10
Yes everyone has different opinions on everything connected to pregnancy and child birth.
We decided to keep a lot of the info to ourselves as it's just not worth the hassle.
All still going well with us although the wife is getting very uncomfortable and we still have 8 weeks to go.
The baby is moving around a lot now and had hiccups on the weekend which was quite weird to watch and feel.
Still no idea what sex it will be but will be a nice surprise.
We have the 3rd NCT class tonight. 2.5 hours each week for 6 weeks but they are enjoyable and the other couples there are all nice and good fun.
Nursery is virtually done other than putting up a few more pictures. Need to have a play with fitting the baby seat into the car now.
We decided to keep a lot of the info to ourselves as it's just not worth the hassle.
All still going well with us although the wife is getting very uncomfortable and we still have 8 weeks to go.
The baby is moving around a lot now and had hiccups on the weekend which was quite weird to watch and feel.
Still no idea what sex it will be but will be a nice surprise.
We have the 3rd NCT class tonight. 2.5 hours each week for 6 weeks but they are enjoyable and the other couples there are all nice and good fun.
Nursery is virtually done other than putting up a few more pictures. Need to have a play with fitting the baby seat into the car now.
Congratulations both!
The prospective BlackVanBaby is disabled, she's not even due home for 6 weeks (that's if everything goes to plan between now and then, no guarantees at all) and already the stream of totally unasked-for advice is unending. It's driving me faintly mad - every bit is given in the best possible spirit but the poor kid hasn't even got here yet and half my contacts seem to want me to have decided her future already.
The prospective BlackVanBaby is disabled, she's not even due home for 6 weeks (that's if everything goes to plan between now and then, no guarantees at all) and already the stream of totally unasked-for advice is unending. It's driving me faintly mad - every bit is given in the best possible spirit but the poor kid hasn't even got here yet and half my contacts seem to want me to have decided her future already.
williamp said:
Just smile and nod. Its all you can do (it lasts years with some people. "You choose THAT name??" Or "Ah. Named after my neighbours uncle..." Or some such nonsense
Names, oh my word - we're both of the opinion the person makes the name and not the other way around, but can't shake the fear that if you call your kid the same name as one of the reality stars or start cocking about, putting 'X' when there should be 'CK' or the like, then even with the best will in the world you're going to set the tone for some people.We're trying to find a name that's got a cutesy nickname for when they're a baby / kid, but it's not the sort of name that Oxbridge would bulk at should that miracle ever happen.
Anyway, sister in law, who has a lovely little lad with a misspelled name, hates every suggestion so far, which leads me to think we're on the right track ha ha.
about 7 weeks to go for us, luckily all test have come back fine, the Mrs is really feeling it now though. All hospital bags were packed over the weekend, only as a pre-caution as a lot of early births run on her side of the family, only thing i think we haven't got yet is the push chair.....don't even get me started on pushchairs, i thought choosing a new car was difficult.
Anybody got any suggestions/recommendations?
Anybody got any suggestions/recommendations?
khevolution said:
about 7 weeks to go for us, luckily all test have come back fine, the Mrs is really feeling it now though. All hospital bags were packed over the weekend, only as a pre-caution as a lot of early births run on her side of the family, only thing i think we haven't got yet is the push chair.....don't even get me started on pushchairs, i thought choosing a new car was difficult.
Anybody got any suggestions/recommendations?
Yes - get a second hand one, and make it as small as possible. Unless you both *already* highly value cross-country jogging or something, it doesn't need gigantic wheels or any of that guff. Anybody got any suggestions/recommendations?
The nicest ones I've seen, with all the gadgets, cost very nearly a grand. Using one that someone else has had first will not make it less safe, convenient or comfortable than a brand new one, but it'll cost you around a fifth of the price. Or a hell of a lot less if a friend or relative has one to give you instead.
khevolution said:
.don't even get me started on pushchairs, i thought choosing a new car was difficult.
Anybody got any suggestions/recommendations?
We went for the Uppababy Vista which has been the Which Best Buy a few times.Anybody got any suggestions/recommendations?
Obvioulsy I've given it a comprehensive test around the house to check it's cornering capabilities!
Very well screwed together piece of kit.
Also liked the iCandy Peach but they have just discontinued the MK2 and the MK 3 isnt out for a few months which was no good for us.
Ours was new as we were lucky enough to have it as a present from my parents but as BVD says there are lots of good 2nd hand ones around.
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