Will our GP talk to me about my wife?

Will our GP talk to me about my wife?

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skeggysteve

Original Poster:

5,724 posts

216 months

Monday 14th April 2014
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I have never seen our GP but my wife has many times.

I am very worried that the GP doesn't really know how she is. He only see her for a few minutes each time but I live with her and have done so for nearly 30 years.

I know her better than he does but will he listen to me - is he allowed to listen to me?




996c2

470 posts

164 months

Monday 14th April 2014
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Your wife GP can listen to your concerns but he cannot give you any information about your wife.

Ray Luxury-Yacht

8,910 posts

215 months

Monday 14th April 2014
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I'm a student Paramedic at the moment.

One thing that has been drilled into me from day one, is 'patient confidentiality' and NHS 'information governance.'

We've been warned upon pain of death about how we treat patient notes and records, and about never discussing patients' health and medical information with anyone, including their families.

However, when we attend a patient in their house, there are usually family members there, and of course we discuss everything in front of them - there's no other way clearly! I have also managed to get important patient medical history from family members, crucial things that we need to know, when the patient is too ill to be able to coherently talk to us...

Same once in Hospital - we and the Hospital staff are chatting away about the patient, with them, and their family who are there too.

But if a patient is with us or in hospital, and someone bowls up at reception saying they're family, and asks about what's happening to the patient, we're not allowed to say...go figure.

So it's all a bit contradictory.

I would suggest that if you attend the surgery WITH your wife, then the GP has no option really other than to talk to both of you. I've been to the Doctors before with my girlfriend as the patient, and the Doc has usually just said to her 'is it ok to discuss this with your boyfriend here?' And as long as they say yes, then it's gonna be cool.


numtumfutunch

4,705 posts

137 months

Monday 14th April 2014
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What are you worried about that you need to tell the quack but not your missus?

mosc7pc2

111 posts

178 months

Monday 14th April 2014
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996c2 said:
Your wife GP can listen to your concerns but he cannot give you any information about your wife.
What he said.

How about a telephone consultation? Can't see much point of you physically "seeing" your wife's doctor.

jackh707

2,126 posts

155 months

Monday 14th April 2014
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If your wife gives permission for the GP to disclose information to you, it's fine.
T'other wise, no.

BlackVanDyke

9,932 posts

210 months

Tuesday 15th April 2014
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You can talk to the GP and s/he can listen, but not give you any information back (other than, maybe, the assurance that s/he will give due consideration to what you've said etc).

If there's a serious reason to think that your wife doesn't have capacity to make her own healthcare decisions (eg acute mental illness, dementia etc heaven forfend) then there are ways that the GP then would be able to talk to you.

skeggysteve

Original Poster:

5,724 posts

216 months

Tuesday 15th April 2014
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Thanks for the replies even if you have just confirmed what I thought!

I'd rather not go into the details on a public forum but I will PM a couple of you.