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Lotus Notes said:
It's good to hear that there is some enjoyment in the household.
As suggested, look after your Mum...a transition (if only temporary) from wife to carer is not easy and she'll try and do everything! Hopefuly you've had the community care team assess the house and provide equipment if necessary - They can come across as interfering though.
My father cried a lot as well - Over simple things, but get him to help himself as much as possible (I can say that as a family, we could have done better).
It'll get easier as the routines set in and your father progresses. I promised to send them on holiday when things were better (A cruise can be a bit like respite care with each of them at separate ends of the ship
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Indeed there has been a lot of support from carers, physio, rehab team etc. Amazing really. But my folks are glad that it's phasing out now so that they can get on with their own routine.As suggested, look after your Mum...a transition (if only temporary) from wife to carer is not easy and she'll try and do everything! Hopefuly you've had the community care team assess the house and provide equipment if necessary - They can come across as interfering though.
My father cried a lot as well - Over simple things, but get him to help himself as much as possible (I can say that as a family, we could have done better).
It'll get easier as the routines set in and your father progresses. I promised to send them on holiday when things were better (A cruise can be a bit like respite care with each of them at separate ends of the ship
)My parent's house (my childhood home) is a lovely house that my dad built in the 80s. But unfortunately my dad's affinity for single steps between rooms is now become a bit of a pain as they are using portable ramps which continually have to be moved about
They are taking their time about altering the house but mum had the downstairs utility turned into a wetroom so that dad can live downstairs for the time being. They're currently having the front entrance of the house decked so that there's a continuous ramp from the drive to the front door (currently two separate steps). Fortunately they have the means to get these things done.
All the best to you.
Thought Id update this.
Dad been home from hospital since August and making reasonable progress with the care package put in place for him, physio help each day, speech help and morning and evening carers. Getting some walking ability back via quad-ped and some movement back into right arm.
Until Friday just gone. In and out of hospital since then with throwing up, tubes down throat, bowel issues.
Long story short...goes under the knife tomorrow for a "look" as they don't know exactly whats wrong. Not sure how severe stoke victim will react under the anaesthetic and had to have the DNR conversation with mum and family. That rather concentrates your mind.
About the only good news is that Im not in Italy having told my bosses at the start of the week that I could really with staying in the UK due to this. I was due to fly out again next week, but will cancel that aswell. Im down in Pompey currently, so at lunchtime tomorrow Im deploying all 400+ HP of Affalterbach's finest and getting north as fast as I can.
It was this time last year that dad first went into hospital for a month with his brain scrambled.
December f
king sucks.
Oh yeah and gran had a heart attack last week.
I hope the secularist types are wrong currently and that there is a God. So I can find the bd and give him a right proper shoeing.
Dad been home from hospital since August and making reasonable progress with the care package put in place for him, physio help each day, speech help and morning and evening carers. Getting some walking ability back via quad-ped and some movement back into right arm.
Until Friday just gone. In and out of hospital since then with throwing up, tubes down throat, bowel issues.
Long story short...goes under the knife tomorrow for a "look" as they don't know exactly whats wrong. Not sure how severe stoke victim will react under the anaesthetic and had to have the DNR conversation with mum and family. That rather concentrates your mind.
About the only good news is that Im not in Italy having told my bosses at the start of the week that I could really with staying in the UK due to this. I was due to fly out again next week, but will cancel that aswell. Im down in Pompey currently, so at lunchtime tomorrow Im deploying all 400+ HP of Affalterbach's finest and getting north as fast as I can.
It was this time last year that dad first went into hospital for a month with his brain scrambled.
December f
king sucks.Oh yeah and gran had a heart attack last week.
I hope the secularist types are wrong currently and that there is a God. So I can find the b
d and give him a right proper shoeing.Gassing Station | Health Matters | Top of Page | What's New | My Stuff