Safe sex etiquette - new partner

Safe sex etiquette - new partner

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Tiggsy

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10,261 posts

251 months

Thursday 28th August 2014
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Double post

Edited by Tiggsy on Thursday 28th August 00:09

nagsheadwarrior

2,779 posts

178 months

Thursday 28th August 2014
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I've been foolishly following the old school philosophy of if they let you do it it must be ok, sadly my lady friend has been following the same philosophy! !!! Doh!

mybrainhurts

90,809 posts

254 months

Thursday 28th August 2014
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Stick to sheep, it's safer...

tenpenceshort

32,880 posts

216 months

Thursday 28th August 2014
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mybrainhurts said:
Stick to sheep, it's safer...
Nah, that's shear stupidity.

It's like use by dates; they're just a guideline. You really need to give it a good sniff. If it smells 'ok' and looks fine, it's probably safe.

IANAD and the above does not constitute medical or good advice

mybrainhurts

90,809 posts

254 months

Thursday 28th August 2014
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tenpenceshort said:
mybrainhurts said:
Stick to sheep, it's safer...
Nah, that's shear stupidity.

It's like use by dates; they're just a guideline. You really need to give it a good sniff. If it smells 'ok' and looks fine, it's probably safe.

IANAD and the above does not constitute medical or good advice
Ignore him, he's baaarking mad...

THX

2,348 posts

121 months

Thursday 28th August 2014
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One time, she asked if I had any protection, to which I said 'no'.

She didn't either but we cracked on regardless... AND THEN SHE fkING BIT ME!!!

I'll never understand women.

Butter Face

30,192 posts

159 months

Thursday 28th August 2014
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Always wrap it up before you slap it up.

5potTurbo

12,482 posts

167 months

Thursday 28th August 2014
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mybrainhurts said:
tenpenceshort said:
mybrainhurts said:
Stick to sheep, it's safer...
Nah, that's shear stupidity.

It's like use by dates; they're just a guideline. You really need to give it a good sniff. If it smells 'ok' and looks fine, it's probably safe.

IANAD and the above does not constitute medical or good advice
Ignore him, he's baaarking mad...
I do wish he'd stop bleating on....


Anywhooo, OP, I think that until you're absolutely sure both of you are free of unwanted nasties, the best bet is to bag up.
You're not simply dealing with her former partners, but the partners of the partners. You don't know all of them, I presume?!

(I've been married 15 years, and before that only had unprotected sex a few times. I don't profess to be a strongly built, red bull can throwing, co. director with supermodels hanging off my arms, legs or penis.)

plasticpig

12,932 posts

224 months

Thursday 28th August 2014
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Best be on the safe side..


Miguel Alvarez

4,944 posts

169 months

Thursday 28th August 2014
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I don't see any issue in asking for tests to be done. In fact I have a rule to stay away from the women who's first words during foreplay is "don't worry if you don't have protection"

Tyre Tread

10,525 posts

215 months

Thursday 28th August 2014
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I always wondered what these lyrics meant: and through it all she offers me protection a lot of love and affection whether I'm right or wrong

Now I know.

Hoofy

76,253 posts

281 months

Thursday 28th August 2014
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I recall the adverts advising us to wear fluorescent clothing. Be safe, be seen.

HD Adam

5,144 posts

183 months

Thursday 28th August 2014
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Tiggsy said:
a few months ago and she recently mentioned that she had never done that before for a guy and nor had her friends (they were amazed she did...... They thought it insulting I asked! She just told them I was from outside the city so didn't understand modern urban dating!).
apparently.....normal behaviour is you wait a few weeks and if your new
Just to clarify, we're talking about the tests, right? scratchchin

HTP99

22,443 posts

139 months

Thursday 28th August 2014
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I was shocked to find out a few years ago they my daughter; now 21, didn't bother with protection with blokes, and there were a fair few of them, it seemed that they were all like that, she was on the pill and regularly forgot to take it too.

I thought education in that area was far better, however in my experience; being a father of a 15 yo and a 21 yo, education and the schools hammering it home; whether sex, drinking, drugs etc, doesn't seem to have any impact on whether a teenager participates or not, if you are of that personality then no matter how many scare stories about what might happen them you will just go ahead and do it anyway.

Just for the record my 15 yo is fine and doesn't do anything she doesn't want to and doesn't bow to peer pressure, some of her friends are shocking though; my 21 yo though did go through a bad patch; in all respects mentioned above, 3 or so years ago and she was always a bit of a girl in her early teens too, she has fortunately come through it now and is a model daughter, given the differing personalities I'm confident that the youngest will remain reasonably sensible; to a degree!

Edited by HTP99 on Thursday 28th August 10:34

boobles

15,241 posts

214 months

Thursday 28th August 2014
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Up the bum would certainly prevent her getting pregnant.

BoRED S2upid

19,643 posts

239 months

Thursday 28th August 2014
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mybrainhurts said:
Stick to sheep, it's safer...
Oi! Don't be so welshist we have the internet as well now you know! Well in the towns and cities (both). There was even talk of 4g making it's way across the boarder whatever that is.

Back on topic it's not the bad aids I worried about in the past but the possible offspring!

Op how do you know she's taking the pills? She could be after your seed for baby making don't take the risk.

Mobile Chicane

20,740 posts

211 months

Thursday 28th August 2014
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I think it's a good idea. STDs are apparently on the rise in the 40+ age group, precisely due to internet dating.

I wouldn't be embarrassed about asking, or being asked to attend for screening. It isn't just HIV you should be worried about: Hepatitis B can be contracted via unprotected sex and there's no cure for that.

theshrew

6,008 posts

183 months

Thursday 28th August 2014
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Tiggsy said:
Mobile Chicane said:
I think it's a good idea. STDs are apparently on the rise in the 40+ age group, precisely due to internet dating.

I wouldn't be embarrassed about asking, or being asked to attend for screening. It isn't just HIV you should be worried about: Hepatitis B can be contracted via unprotected sex and there's no cure for that.
That was my attitude.....I thought "tinder culture" would have made people 25-45 more sensible knowing that their current partner has been blowing through hundreds of "matches" !!! Seems most of them just don't give a st.
A ex asked me to do the same thing OP years ago. TBH its probably a good thing to do. Would i do it again - Not if i had the choice.

Dont have the problem these days but when i did i always bagged up never wanted my stump to fall off.

Jazzer

1,665 posts

203 months

Thursday 28th August 2014
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It's most definitely the correct thing to do.

Even with clear test results, it's not always plain sailing, as results would show the absence of infection only at the time of testing.....incubation periods or errant behaviour in the meantime could change all that.

Most people have something, with no symptoms in many cases....so testing can open a real can of worms.....or worts as the case may be.

Some things like HPV and herpes are easily transmitted by contact, with condoms not really offering protection.

Oral sex is also a transmission route, a fact many seem ignorant of.

At the end of the day, like driving your car, it's about risk and reward.

The trick is to be aware of the risks and to take steps to reduce those risks to acceptable levels.

Have you heard of the blue waffle?!

Willy Nilly

12,511 posts

166 months

Thursday 28th August 2014
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Tiggsy said:
Don't feel so daft now then! We waited 3 months, had the tests, got the all clear and all good from
Then.

Better safe than sorry!
Less typing, more shagging wink