I'm mentally broken
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Just a quick update for anyone interested.
I have decided to resign from my current role in an amicable fashion. I don't have anything else to go to yet, but I can't stay where I am. I'll use the time off to rest, get my fitness sorted out and look for something better.
Thanks for the help all.
I have decided to resign from my current role in an amicable fashion. I don't have anything else to go to yet, but I can't stay where I am. I'll use the time off to rest, get my fitness sorted out and look for something better.
Thanks for the help all.
Thanks all.
Been to HR and informed them of my decision. Have asked me to think about it as they do not want me to leave. Apparently, she is quite shocked by what I want to do. She said she knew I couldn't tell the truth during my return to work interview, and was only a bit surprised about the other shenanigans that have happened. She asked if she could try to fix the situation for me. However, I personally don't think she can.
I said I'll work my month's notice, and I want to leave everything amicably.
Have arranged a meeting with the MD of the company tomorrow to give him a low down on the main project progress. This is nothing to do with my resignation as I wanted to do this anyway. My manager is not happy with me for doing this, and has now told me we need to have an emergency meeting this afternoon to discuss things.
I think he is unhappy because I started leaning on him over the last few weeks. I hit a brick wall ages ago in terms of my main project due to people not doing their allocated work, not listening to me, not turning up to planned training sessions etc. (had a consultant here last week who left after an hour or so because nobody bothered turning up). The system seller has also gone to ground, is offering little help and we have now been told we need to update our whole wireless infrastructure (at a cost of £36k) to make the new system work. This is something we were assured wouldn't need to happen. This is all stuff that he is supposed to sort once I escalate, and he hasn't. Therefore, because I want to raise issues with the MD, he is kicking off.
In the meantime though, the sneaky git had been to see the MD on his own. The result of this was deadlines for work this week (sent over on Sunday evening) that I can't achieve. This is because nobody is doing anything, hence why I wanted a meeting with the MD anyway.
Anyhow, my decision is made so anything he does doesn't bother me anymore. I have a month of this hell to go and am looking for something else in anger.
Been to HR and informed them of my decision. Have asked me to think about it as they do not want me to leave. Apparently, she is quite shocked by what I want to do. She said she knew I couldn't tell the truth during my return to work interview, and was only a bit surprised about the other shenanigans that have happened. She asked if she could try to fix the situation for me. However, I personally don't think she can.
I said I'll work my month's notice, and I want to leave everything amicably.
Have arranged a meeting with the MD of the company tomorrow to give him a low down on the main project progress. This is nothing to do with my resignation as I wanted to do this anyway. My manager is not happy with me for doing this, and has now told me we need to have an emergency meeting this afternoon to discuss things.
I think he is unhappy because I started leaning on him over the last few weeks. I hit a brick wall ages ago in terms of my main project due to people not doing their allocated work, not listening to me, not turning up to planned training sessions etc. (had a consultant here last week who left after an hour or so because nobody bothered turning up). The system seller has also gone to ground, is offering little help and we have now been told we need to update our whole wireless infrastructure (at a cost of £36k) to make the new system work. This is something we were assured wouldn't need to happen. This is all stuff that he is supposed to sort once I escalate, and he hasn't. Therefore, because I want to raise issues with the MD, he is kicking off.
In the meantime though, the sneaky git had been to see the MD on his own. The result of this was deadlines for work this week (sent over on Sunday evening) that I can't achieve. This is because nobody is doing anything, hence why I wanted a meeting with the MD anyway.
Anyhow, my decision is made so anything he does doesn't bother me anymore. I have a month of this hell to go and am looking for something else in anger.
Edited by funkyrobot on Tuesday 29th March 12:35
I dont think getting any more involved does anyone any favours. It's nice to vent, call them 
s if you have to, but ultimately if you're leaving, do it with dignity and respect, whatever's gone before doesnt matter now or in the future
I also agree with the other poster, but would word it differently - better to do something, even if it's wrong than do nothing
s if you have to, but ultimately if you're leaving, do it with dignity and respect, whatever's gone before doesnt matter now or in the future I also agree with the other poster, but would word it differently - better to do something, even if it's wrong than do nothing
andy-xr said:
I dont think getting any more involved does anyone any favours. It's nice to vent, call them s if you have to, but ultimately if you're leaving, do it with dignity and respect, whatever's gone before doesnt matter now or in the future
That's the plan. No more concerns for me, I'm off. Anything else is a waste of time. s if you have to, but ultimately if you're leaving, do it with dignity and respect, whatever's gone before doesnt matter now or in the future funkyrobot said:
That's the plan. No more concerns for me, I'm off. Anything else is a waste of time.
I wish you all the best. Something similar worked for me. I understood the saying, which Google can't find easily, that most of us spend our time bailing when fixing the hole would be easier. I hope you understand it, if not now, then soon.
Derek Smith said:
I wish you all the best.
Something similar worked for me. I understood the saying, which Google can't find easily, that most of us spend our time bailing when fixing the hole would be easier. I hope you understand it, if not now, then soon.
Thanks. I know what you mean. Something similar worked for me. I understood the saying, which Google can't find easily, that most of us spend our time bailing when fixing the hole would be easier. I hope you understand it, if not now, then soon.
funkyrobot said:
Have arranged a meeting with the MD of the company tomorrow to give him a low down on the main project progress. This is nothing to do with my resignation as I wanted to do this anyway. My manager is not happy with me for doing this, and has now told me we need to have an emergency meeting this afternoon to discuss things.
I think he is unhappy because I started leaning on him over the last few weeks. I hit a brick wall ages ago in terms of my main project due to people not doing their allocated work, not listening to me, not turning up to planned training sessions etc. (had a consultant here last week who left after an hour or so because nobody bothered turning up). The system seller has also gone to ground, is offering little help and we have now been told we need to update our whole wireless infrastructure (at a cost of £36k) to make the new system work. This is something we were assured wouldn't need to happen. This is all stuff that he is supposed to sort once I escalate, and he hasn't. Therefore, because I want to raise issues with the MD, he is kicking off.
In the meantime though, the sneaky git had been to see the MD on his own. The result of this was deadlines for work this week (sent over on Sunday evening) that I can't achieve. This is because nobody is doing anything, hence why I wanted a meeting with the MD
Sounds like you have done the right thing both in resigning but also how you have handled things at work. You have identified issues impeding progress with this guy and he needs to sort them but he won't then panics when you are about to shine a massive light on it with the powers that be. You will look back on this in a few months and wonder why you didn't do it sooner I think he is unhappy because I started leaning on him over the last few weeks. I hit a brick wall ages ago in terms of my main project due to people not doing their allocated work, not listening to me, not turning up to planned training sessions etc. (had a consultant here last week who left after an hour or so because nobody bothered turning up). The system seller has also gone to ground, is offering little help and we have now been told we need to update our whole wireless infrastructure (at a cost of £36k) to make the new system work. This is something we were assured wouldn't need to happen. This is all stuff that he is supposed to sort once I escalate, and he hasn't. Therefore, because I want to raise issues with the MD, he is kicking off.
In the meantime though, the sneaky git had been to see the MD on his own. The result of this was deadlines for work this week (sent over on Sunday evening) that I can't achieve. This is because nobody is doing anything, hence why I wanted a meeting with the MD
Edited by funkyrobot on Tuesday 29th March 12:35
Well done OP . . . seems like the right decision, and a bold one.
I'm partially posting purely to be nosey and enquire how this afternoons meeting went with your utterly charming-sounding superior. Has he mellowed. . . or gone the other way?
No worries if you don't want to answer that one.
I'm partially posting purely to be nosey and enquire how this afternoons meeting went with your utterly charming-sounding superior. Has he mellowed. . . or gone the other way?
No worries if you don't want to answer that one.
Bizarrely, he was quite mellow. But that was probably due to the fact that I wasn't taking any nonsense in the meeting. I have been busy over the last week or so too, so had plenty of work updates for him anyway.
I told him what had been done, what hadn't and what my plans were for this week and the next. He re-iterated the fact that some work he wanted me to do this week simply had to be done by Friday at the latest, as the MD wants to see it. This is even though some people who I need to work with are on holiday.
He asked me again what I want the meeting tomorrow for. I told him straight that it was because I'm stuck, I've escalated issues and nothing has been done. He went quiet then and didn't really say anything else.
Then he asked me if I had anything to say, I said no, it went quiet for a bit and we walked out. Meeting was a waste of time really as he knows what I'm doing work wise. He also asked about my ill fated work log that he showed no interest in the other week.
He won't know what is happening re my resignation yet. I asked HR to leave all the details until after the meeting tomorrow (so it won't be cancelled) and I think she has obliged.
I told him what had been done, what hadn't and what my plans were for this week and the next. He re-iterated the fact that some work he wanted me to do this week simply had to be done by Friday at the latest, as the MD wants to see it. This is even though some people who I need to work with are on holiday.
He asked me again what I want the meeting tomorrow for. I told him straight that it was because I'm stuck, I've escalated issues and nothing has been done. He went quiet then and didn't really say anything else.
Then he asked me if I had anything to say, I said no, it went quiet for a bit and we walked out. Meeting was a waste of time really as he knows what I'm doing work wise. He also asked about my ill fated work log that he showed no interest in the other week.
He won't know what is happening re my resignation yet. I asked HR to leave all the details until after the meeting tomorrow (so it won't be cancelled) and I think she has obliged.
Had some issues years ago, got over it with a combination of;
Meditation and Concentration - practice it.
Dr Claire Weekes teachings & books - Learning not to 'fear the fear', accept and go with it etc. You are over sensitised...read the books over and over, i used tapes also (yes it was a while ago)...
exercise.
deep breathing exercises.
very healthy diet and no booze.
You will get better, best wishes and good luck
Meditation and Concentration - practice it.
Dr Claire Weekes teachings & books - Learning not to 'fear the fear', accept and go with it etc. You are over sensitised...read the books over and over, i used tapes also (yes it was a while ago)...
exercise.
deep breathing exercises.
very healthy diet and no booze.
You will get better, best wishes and good luck
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