I'm mentally broken

[funkyrobot]

Big meeting in 10 minutes. Nervous as hell.

[andy-xr]

Good luck, hopefully you'll find the point where you see that it doesnt matter and however stressed or anxious you are now, it's for greater things.

When I was made redundant from a role I'd done for 6 years it took me about a month to get it into my head I didnt work there anymore. The routine of what I was doing, from simple things such as getting up, having breakfast, checking my work emails and then calling one of the guys I worked with for a roundup, it all changed. It was hard to understand in a redundancy situation because someone else chose to have you not do that anymore, but if you've spent time being used to doing things in a fashion it can be hard to break that

The thing that helps me with these situations is figuring out if this situation happens, will the world still keep turning or would we need Bruce Willis and a spaceship to fix it

[funkyrobot]

Thanks Andy.

Meeting was a waste of time in the end. My manager had sent a list of things to the MD beforehand. No matter what I mentioned or spoke about, nobody was really interested. If anything, stuff was turned around and pointed at me.

Just confirms everything, so I'm glad I'm off.

[andy-xr]

This is the line


This space is stuff that's gone before, manager being a wker, you not speaking up about things with him, there being problems, you handing your notice in

______________________________________________


This space is stuff that's coming, a new job, a different mindset, a change of plans and a new future without the stress and hassle that's worn you down

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You're on the line now, you can either leave it as a straight line by keeping your head down, looking for other jobs and working your notice out, or you can make it all squiggly by having meetings about meetings, possibly speaking with managers and HR.and them making you offers and suggestions that if you just changed your mind then things would get better.

Personally I'd leave it straight and true. No loose ends, no misunderstandings, lay it out for what it is to them and to you. The more involved and conversational you are, the more you're likely to be swayed and influenced by people.

[funkyrobot]

Thanks Andy.

I'm leaving it straight and true. No more chats, meetings, nothing. I have done all I wanted to (as the meeting I just had was planned last week), and it has just confirmed everything.

Time to crack on, work the notice and move on.

Edited to add - just spoke to my fiancee. She is more concerned with my health and wellbeing than any of the bills and finances. She just wants me to be happy. I have her blessing, which is lovely.

[Pferdestarke]

You're taking control by doing this. You'll be happier in the long run and this will be a mere drip on a hot plate that you look back on.

The MD sounds fairly spineless from what you've said.

[Spitfire2]

I'd say you will come out of this for the better - for sure.

I think you've just discovered that art of saying "fk it!" as mentioned some weeks back. Good for you.

[funkyrobot]

Thanks.

I'm currently learning so much about these situations. Interesting how you really do learn when things go bad.

[funkyrobot]

crazy about cars said:

We are in a similar position and I believe almost similar job roles too OP. Although for me there might be threat of impending redundancy hence the anxiety. It's hard to get any support for this at work (I had to take holidays during days when I'm really affected) as it will risk my job even further so it's definitely frustrating.

I find it helpful to share so if you want pop by the depression thread : http://www.pistonheads.com/gassing/topic.asp?h=0&a...

How are you getting on?

[Craikeybaby]

How are you getting on? I was thinking about this the other day.

[funkyrobot]

I'm doing ok thanks.

I never did resign. I was ready to it and approached HR with my resignation in hand. I couldn't speak to them at that point, so went out for some lunch. As I was at lunch, I thought long and hard about what I wanted to do. Throwing the towel in would have been good, but I don't want to have no job whilst attempting to find a job. So, in the end, I didn't hand the letter in and didn't go through with it.

However, what I did do was change my mindset to one that means I'm not taking things to heart in my current role anymore. I'm actively looking for something else whilst seeing this job out. Incidentally, I have an interview for a different job next week. Will see how that goes.

Nothing has really changed in my current role, apart from me not really caring so much anymore.

I may have an exit plan after next week. Let's see how it goes.

[funkyrobot]

Some of you may wonder why I have stayed. Well, I don't want to eat into my rainy day fund unless I really, really have to. I also thought it better to try and move from one job to anther so my earnings aren't affected. Being the sole income generator in my household makes you think like that.

What I did have to do though was make it clear to myself that I'm only seeing things out here. I couldn't let myself get comfortable and just drop back into the habit of putting up with rubbish in my current job. So, I decided I would laugh at the silliness that surrounds me on a daily basis, actually question my manager and not allow him to bully me, and also take the time to find something else decent.

I still don't like my current job, but now I treat it as a job and nothing else. I don't worry so much because I know I can walk tomorrow if I choose to. Also, it wouldn't be right to just leave. I need to let my manager know that he doesn't own me.

[Craikeybaby]

That all sounds positive, I know where you're coming from though, I've stayed in a crap job for the last few years, as we needed stability from one of us, my wife got made redundant twice in 2 years. It can be a frustrating place to work, but I've learned to ignore that and focus on the positives for my family.

Good luck for the interview next week!

[funkyrobot]

Thanks. Hope you can find a way out at some point.

Yes, it's still terrible here. But I'm really beyond caring.

Have next week off too so the interview is well timed.

[funkyrobot]

Had interview. Went well and was very positive. Should find out this week if I have the job or not.

In the meantime, I have now finally had enough of the current job and am leaving. Had a good long think over last week and decided I don't want to be somewhere where I don't care. Also, fed up with the daily grind down the A17 so I've bailed. As discussed previously, I feel that I need a good month or so off. Will be taking some time as I hunt for something else.

Thanks for the advice all.

[Derek Smith]

funkyrobot said:

Had interview. Went well and was very positive. Should find out this week if I have the job or not.

In the meantime, I have now finally had enough of the current job and am leaving. Had a good long think over last week and decided I don't want to be somewhere where I don't care. Also, fed up with the daily grind down the A17 so I've bailed. As discussed previously, I feel that I need a good month or so off. Will be taking some time as I hunt for something else.

Thanks for the advice all.

Fingers crossed for you.

Well not actually as I wouldn't be able to type.

When you didn't resign earlier I got a bit worried.

Best of luck.

[funkyrobot]

Thanks Derek.

I have a few weeks off, then when I head back to work I'm quitting. Will be interesting as I think a certain someone will want to sit me down in a room again and call me a naughty boy.

Hitting the agencies this week. Will look at temp stuff. My fiancée has decided that she wants to go back to work soon. We thought that with two jobs, even if they pay less we should be ok. The key is to be local so we can ditch one of the cars.

[funkyrobot]

Have been informed today that I have another interview at a different place on Thursday. It's less money, but is only a few miles away. It's purely an IT engineer position so could be a very good learning experience.

[chris watton]

funkyrobot said:

Have been informed today that I have another interview at a different place on Thursday. It's less money, but is only a few miles away. It's purely an IT engineer position so could be a very good learning experience.

Good luck, I hope it works out for you - and being closer to home, at least it'll cost less to travel there and back, and you'll be home earlier!

[funkyrobot]

Thanks.

Spoke the a local agency in detail yesterday and simply said tell me everything you have that is local (temporary and permanent). If I don't need to drive, I can take less money. My fiancée is willing to return to work now, so that helps.