Chain Smoking Around Baby 9 Hours A Day

Chain Smoking Around Baby 9 Hours A Day

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smokebuster

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2 posts

96 months

Monday 28th March 2016
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Not posting under my usual username to protect those involved. I will however be showing any responses everyone involved.

My mother and sister babysit our 17 month old baby during the working week typically 9am until 6pm. During the day they spend 90% of the time in a open plan kitchen/sitting area with the baby playing in a playpen on the floor.

They are fantastic at looking after her but consistently smoke with nothing more than a small wall mounted fan to dispense the smoke. I would say on an average day my mother will get through 60 and my sister 20 so anything in the room stinks of nicotine.

When brought up with them it causes a riot with them both being in denial about it doing any harm to anyone. My mother claims its her only vice and what keeps her alive (she has a bad back and sits at a dining room table for 12+ hours a day & has suffered from cancer, has diabetes and high blood pressure) and my sister thinks its fine (She has had 5+ strokes and suffers from vasculitis)

They also seen no harm in chain smoking around my pregnant GF again claiming "the fans on"

More recently the baby has mimicked the opening and lighting of a cigarette which really pushed it over the edge. When I explained that this is not only crazy but would also be socially looked down upon they went nuts.

When I push the issue I get told to find someone else to look after her but thats not helping anyone and changes need to be made. What would you say to your family if they were acting like this ?


AndrewEH1

4,917 posts

152 months

Monday 28th March 2016
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Find someone else you look after your child, sounds like you're not about to change their habits.

Might be expensive but no doubt worth it.

Du1point8

21,604 posts

191 months

Monday 28th March 2016
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Heres a tip... either accept it or stop relying on your family to help you out.

I can see why you are saying it, they are saying that they always smoke (its an addiction and they can't beat it)... you either accept that they smoke and YOU are contributing to your kids bad health, or that you find someone else and pay?

Find someone else to help you, if not take the hit, you will not persuade someone to help you all/part-of day when they are used to chain smoking and then complain they are doing it.

essayer

9,008 posts

193 months

Monday 28th March 2016
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IMO - Make alternative arrangements for your child urgently. Their (your) actions are putting your child at risk. 80+ a day is a massive amount of secondary smoke to be around indoors.

Amazed it was ever considered a suitable place for them.

Dare you to post this on Mumsnet.

mrsshpub

901 posts

183 months

Monday 28th March 2016
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Read what the NHS has to say about smoking around children: http://www.nhs.uk/chq/Pages/2289.aspx

anonymous-user

53 months

Monday 28th March 2016
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smokebuster said:
They are fantastic at looking after her
No they are not. They are putting the long term health of your child at significant risk and this should cease immediately.

tex200

438 posts

170 months

Monday 28th March 2016
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smokebuster said:
(she has a bad back and sits at a dining room table for 12+ hours a day & has suffered from cancer, has diabetes and high blood pressure)
Oh yes absolutely the best person to be babysitting.

OP if this situation is for real then your family are being extremely ignorant. I'd look to change your childminding arrangements pronto. You are really not being very good parents to allow this.

Pints

18,444 posts

193 months

Monday 28th March 2016
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Your mother and sister are right. You need to find someone else to look after your child.

northandy

3,495 posts

220 months

Monday 28th March 2016
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Pints said:
Your mother and sister are right. You need to find someone else to look after your child.
+1 that's the answer

Steve Campbell

2,109 posts

167 months

Monday 28th March 2016
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This is your child. They are putting your child at serious risk of future health problems. Find someone else to babysit. They don't want to change. Put the health of your baby first.

CorbynForTheBin

12,230 posts

193 months

Monday 28th March 2016
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Would you park your car in a carpark who then lend it to Ken Block while you're at work?

anonymous-user

53 months

Monday 28th March 2016
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CorbynForTheBin said:
Would you park your car in a carpark who then lend it to Ken Block while you're at work?
Ken doesn't smoke does he?

robemcdonald

8,715 posts

195 months

Monday 28th March 2016
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OP must be a troll. There is no way it can be true.

Saleen836

11,061 posts

208 months

Monday 28th March 2016
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Why do you allow them to smoke inside your house?

Kermit power

28,634 posts

212 months

Monday 28th March 2016
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Step 1 - Remove your child from your mother and sister's presence instantly.

Step 2 - Make sure she doesn't go back.

Step 3 - Tell them you won't let them be in the same room as her if they're smoking.

Anything else is secondary.

lost in espace

6,135 posts

206 months

Monday 28th March 2016
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Kermit power said:
Step 1 - Remove your child from your mother and sister's presence instantly.

Step 2 - Make sure she doesn't go back.

Step 3 - Tell them you won't let them be in the same room as her if they're smoking.

Anything else is secondary.
Wise words Kermit.

Silent1

19,761 posts

234 months

Monday 28th March 2016
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Kermit power said:
Step 1 - Remove your child from your mother and sister's presence instantly.

Step 2 - Make sure she doesn't go back.

Step 3 - Tell them you won't let them be in the same room as her if they're smoking.

Anything else is secondary.
This, it's fking crazy to let a baby be around any amount of smoke let alone that much second hand smoke, if it was an eciggarette it might not be as bad.

hornetrider

63,161 posts

204 months

Monday 28th March 2016
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bmw535i said:
No they are not. They are putting the long term health of your child at significant risk and this should cease immediately.
This. It's not only disgusting but frankly it's harmful to the poor child. Can't believe they think smoking around a toddler is fine! The mind boggles.

GT03ROB

13,205 posts

220 months

Monday 28th March 2016
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If they want to kill themselves .....their choice
If you let them damage your child's health........you're guilty of neglect

simoid

19,772 posts

157 months

Monday 28th March 2016
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Would you take your child to a nursery that was smoke filled? Probably not...