Really depressed
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Thank you , been referred to counselling never gone through with it, a sound like a right loser , going to be very clear with the doctor how bad things have got , I haven't slept at to for 2 days, regarding work last year I stepped down for a senior position due to what I was going through , which was the right move, this feels like a. Natural progression as far as at this point of my life I don't need all the stress and responsibilitys , I've got some time to find something else, the though lot of even stepping back into my place of work terrifies me
FWIW, I think that's absolutely the right call. If your life is s
t to the point of wanting to end it, then change everything in it. New job, move house, go out and make new friends, pick up new hobbies. Can't imagine it would take long after all that to get back on track. It seems those who don't change anything continue to suffer.
t to the point of wanting to end it, then change everything in it. New job, move house, go out and make new friends, pick up new hobbies. Can't imagine it would take long after all that to get back on track. It seems those who don't change anything continue to suffer.Robster, honestly, it can be so cathartic to talk to someone who is completely removed from the situation, and can help you to find ways through how you're feeling.
Being as you're at the point you're now, it wouldn't be a bad thing to try.
And I agree with rsbmw, if you've got enough to survive on until you can find something else, then it's the right thing to do, but be sure that mentally you are prepared to deal with the whole interview process etc, as that dragged me down when I was going through it.
Being as you're at the point you're now, it wouldn't be a bad thing to try.
And I agree with rsbmw, if you've got enough to survive on until you can find something else, then it's the right thing to do, but be sure that mentally you are prepared to deal with the whole interview process etc, as that dragged me down when I was going through it.
rsbmw said:
FWIW, I think that's absolutely the right call.
I do too. But not with the rest. Don't change everything else (move house,) because that rarely solves the issue. It's just running from it. Unless there is a problem with where you live.
If the thought of going back to work terrifies you, and makes you sick just thinking about it, walk away. There are issues you need to address and I gather you have tried to struggle along, unaided, whilst working and still found yourself suffering. Leaving your job is your choice and something that is right for you right now. So as important as it is to have a job (as V8mate said, and I agree to some degree) because it gives you a reason to rise in the morning and some routine, if you're in a place so dark at the moment (and it sounds like you are) work is only going to serve to make you more anxious, remove it. But put something else in it's place as soon as you can. A hobby? Going for an 8 or 9am leisurely stroll to the local news agent every morning to get a paper. Go swimming every morning? Something. Otherwise your bed will appear to be and become a safe haven, when in fact it turns out to be a prison. So don't make that mistake. Keep some sort of motivation to get up, whilst you're still in that kind of habit. Think about it - you'll be changing the reason for getting up from work, to something you enjoy.
As for the rest, I echo the need for making an appointment to speak to a counsellor/therapist and seeing your GP.
For all the great and helpful posts on this thread (what a remarkable place PH can be), one stood out for me. Short and sweet but oh so bloody true:
castex said:
Do NOT do it.
Fun is to be had. Maybe not yet, but it is.
I promise.
None of us know really how bad a place you are in at the moment, but you've got this far and you're still here for your kids. Would be an awful waste to give up now wouldn't it. Depression is a tough and debilitating condition, but it's not immune to be shown who's boss when it matters. Fun is to be had. Maybe not yet, but it is.
I promise.
Fun is to be had still. Remember that. It's great advice.
Disclaimer. I'm no qualified clinician. Just a concerned fellow petrol-head. Take what you need from my input.
Robster said:
Hi saw the doctor today , on a different set of tablets , well on both need to swop carefully , also got sleeping tablets and been signed off , emailed sick note today , work keeping phoning and leaving voice mails. But I just can't face talking to them
Try and talk to them. Would you be able to ask for a less stressful job.When I was a teenager, I tried to take my own life twice. The second time I was 10 pills into a box of Epanution when suddenly I changed my mind. I've never looked back since, and life has been good.
That moment when "I changed my mind" will happen for you if you let it.
You will then find it easy, if not compulsory, to phone your boss.
PS. I am in Camberley. If you want to meet for a pint, then I am happy to meet up. If we do meet, then I will not bring up the subject of depression, either your's or mine. You would be free to do either.
I hope that last two sentences demonstrate that I have been in a similar place. Good luck.
Edited by don4l on Friday 16th September 22:52
Robster said:
Get out more what do you mean ?
Get out in the fresh air, go for a walk, run, cycle, what ever your choice is. Try to eat properly, lay off the booze, drink enough water, set yourself some achievable goals, deal with on issue at a time, pt yourself on the back once in a whileRobster said:
Hi saw the doctor today , on a different set of tablets , well on both need to swop carefully , also got sleeping tablets and been signed off , emailed sick note today , work keeping phoning and leaving voice mails. But I just can't face talking to them
Do you have a friend who is aware of your situation, that could come over and be there as moral support while you phone work? With work, I have dealt with an employee who was in a really bad place, off for 11 weeks, she came out the other side and came back stronger, it just needs support and time but anything is possible, she was in the depths of despair, crippling anxiety and could barely bear to speak about work, now she is properly back to full strength.
I think these type of illnesses are like any medical problem, with time they can be sorted out, sometimes for good and sometimes they need managing permanently but it can be done.
I think these type of illnesses are like any medical problem, with time they can be sorted out, sometimes for good and sometimes they need managing permanently but it can be done.
I am absolutely overwhelmed with the kindness on here and offers to meet up , I'm freaking out about the unpredictably of my feelings , spent all day in bed but wasn't too bad now feeling like it's all going wrong and worries I have sleeping tablets in the house , -also don't want to keep bothering people on here 
`Bothering people on here` is never an issue. Most people like to see if there has been any responses to `their` thread so you can forget about that bit.
Have a scan through the other stuff and add your tuppence worth. It'll break the monotony if nothing else and get your old brain working in a different format.
Have a scan through the other stuff and add your tuppence worth. It'll break the monotony if nothing else and get your old brain working in a different format.
Rob, get your act together. You still have a life to build , and build better. PM me if you want a chat any time, there are so many people with these issues so you are not alone at all.
Staying in bed is the worst thing you can do and the other one is alcohol .
We are here to listen and reply , buddy, remember that..
Staying in bed is the worst thing you can do and the other one is alcohol .
We are here to listen and reply , buddy, remember that..
Robster said:
I'm trying but get your act together not helping ,
I meant it in a light manner, bud.Your on a low low. But you must understand that it will pass. Do not do anything silly as its a punishment on your love ones, you must always remember that. The immediate family then live with misery forever.
Thats the reason, Rob, why you will pull through this. It just takes time.
Go for a nice long walk tomorrow, just do it and think of the thing you have posted. Give it a go, its hard to get out and do it, but it should help..
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