Ex wants to stay friends - plea for advice

[SpeckledJim]

You silly billy.

[zeDuffMan]

As above really. Sounds like she has enough male friends to keep her occupied anyway.

[Cudd Wudd]

SpeckledJim said:

You silly billy.

I think the above post sums it up nicely.

[schmunk]

[KrazyIvan]

Munter said:

KrazyIvan said:

Ah Karma is a heartless bh with a cruel sense of humor.

I suggest you treat her with the same contempt you and her treated her husband with. As soon as your allowed cut her out of your life like the unsightly growth she seems to be.

Well the husband could have been a genuinely nice guy who didn't deserve the crazy psycho bh the OP ended up with. As such he did the guy a favour taking her away. A selfless act really.

OP if you are going to bang it, buy a shovel and some lime as well. You'll probably need it.

So your saying this is a "no good deed goes unpunished" kinda thing

OP Seriously, cut your loses, learn lessons....and run...fast

[kowalski655]

Actually it could be good, you could make a go of it again, manage the property, maybe expand the business together, fall in love again,grow old together happily













OF COURSE NOT YOU FOOL, JUST NO!
NO! NO! NO!

[Cotty]

NOPE

[Maxf]

fk that. By that I mean - definitely don't fk that. Run away!

You seem like a nice guy - there will be a nice woman out there somewhere for you, don't waste your future on an alcoholic bike.

[AlexC1981]

[lurky]

Thanks to you all, I knew I could rely on you,

I had a feeling the opinions would be practically unanimous. So I went through them carefully, reading, marking, learning and inwardly digesting, before pulling out a few pearls of wisdom...

You've got FBS - Full Bag Syndrome So very true

'Head down 'til March (as per the court's instruction) then break all contact completely and get her the hell out of your life mate.'

'Listen very carefully. Be civil, but do not be friends. Not at all.It's over. Move on'

Wise words here.

I admit that I found the judge's instruction rather strange. I'd sown the seed of the idea myself - I wanted her to take the flat while I kept the house. I wanted to underline that it was a nice little earner that, with my help, would support her. Nobody could have predicted the holiday letting ban, which came into force only hours after the divorce. Did I feel schadenfreude? What do you think?

Meanwhile, the building of my new life continues. Having gained the necessary planning permission, I'll be letting out the ground floor of the house to holidaymakers. I've bought a double bed and a sofa bed, and a new TV/DVD ready to add Sky Q. I hope to have it all ready by Christmas.

I went over to hers this afternoon as arranged, to pick up some bits for my new business. She knows full well that March will spell the end of my input but I took the opportunity to restate my rule. I don't want to know anything at all about her 'friend with benefits' or the new bloke. So it's one word - and the phone goes down and the help stops.

This brought the news that she's dumped the distant bloke - again.

The plan, therefore is to fulfil my legal obligation with civility. I think she'll twig that permanent letting of the flat will bring in much less than holiday letting, especially when the costs are deducted. I think she'll sell up and probably ps off back to the the States, from whence she came.

And will there be someone for me, the nice feller? Time will tell but I've seen enough of/about dating sites to know that I doubt they're for me.

[mikees]

You're not flashman? Tell us you're not flashman? Only he could end up in this situation.where is the Morgan or Aston Martin .............calling harry

[Tonsko]

lurky said:

The plan, therefore is to fulfil my legal obligation with civility. I think she'll twig that permanent letting of the flat will bring in much less than holiday letting, especially when the costs are deducted. I think she'll sell up and probably ps off back to the the States, from whence she came.

Buy the flat back for a risible price.

[lurky]

Tonsko said:

Buy the flat back for a risible price.

Well, It won't be much use with the holiday let ban.Moreover, it's a studio flat that's a squeeze for two adults. It cost £97,000 in 2006 and was valued (RICS valuer) at £110,000 in 2015. It won't sell for anything like that, especially as the maintenance/insurance cost is £100 a month.

It's a bit of a pup.

[Petrus1983]

I so wish you had managed to put a poll on this thread! Anyways, this is a clear, no nonsense nope from me too.

[s p a c e m a n]

There are 64 million people living in the UK, half of them female. Why the fk would you want to be within eyesight of that one let alone friends with it. If a bloke/mate had treated you that way would you phone them up to go out for a pint?

[FGB]

Killing her and handing yourself in for the murder would give you less hassle.

For the avoidance of doubt this is just another nope not advice on the way forward

[CAPP0]

lurky said:

Thanks to you all

Good man for coming back and responding (and taking it all on the chin!). Good luck, hope it all pans out.

[Ahbefive]

Sounds like a proper cumdumpster. Jizz laden. Get rid.

[TwistingMyMelon]

Blimey its bad enough hearing my missuess moan and describe stuff

If we split it would be intolerable

If we split and she moaned and went into details about another mans sausage I would think i would go certifiably insane

Also I wouldn't tell her your plans, remember less is more, keep quiet and move on

Its tough and an odd situation but don't get dragged back down with her!

Wouldn't surprise me the last month your "legal obligations" end is the same month her legs start opening for you...

[ruggedscotty]

Go get a girl, stunner if you can and go visit her, and while you are there kiss and fondle new girl as much as you can....

just dont entertain this girl - she wants to hook you in and go for a second bite at the cherry....

Absolutely plenty of women out there that would be far more better option. Id say a few in Broadmore that wouldnt be as mad as her.