Confused about an ex-girlfriend
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Petrolhead95 said:
None. I woke up to two missed calls, three Snapchats and a text but I also woke up on the floor with paramedics around me due to my lovely illness so I couldn't exactly ignore her when she's upset/worried about me, asking how I am.
Why not? She doesn't give a f
k about you.*sigh*
All that jazz said:
Why not? She doesn't give a fk about you.
*sigh*
How did you work that one out? You mean apart from looking after me for the past six months, taking me shopping because I'm too ill, helping me out when I'm too ill to get out of bed, making me food, help me shower etc etc etc. I could go on. She hasn't made me buy her stuff, I've done it because I feel guilty. Why would she say no? She needs space from our relationship; I get that. k about you.*sigh*
Wants to be friends for now? Yep. Wants to stay close with me? Yep. Cares ridiculous amounts? Yep.
Petrolhead95 said:
All that jazz said:
How many unanswered missed calls, texts and FB messages do you have now?
None. I woke up to two missed calls, three Snapchats and a text but I also woke up on the floor with paramedics around me due to my lovely illness so I couldn't exactly ignore her when she's upset/worried about me, asking how I am. So we've suddenly gone from being a super fit 18 yro hottie that's friend-zoned you and just wants to have you as a fk buddy to being your carer 
. She's only doing it because she probably feels sorry for you. If it wasn't for this mystery "illness" you keep mentioning she'd be nowhere to be seen. Stop deluding yourself fella. It'll all end in tears. Sorry to be harsh but you're clinging onto something that isn't there except in your head. If you genuinely need that level of personal care as your post states then you should be seeking professional help, not using some 18 yro chick that doesn't want to be with you except for self-serving reasons. As we say on here, MTFU.
k buddy to being your carer . She's only doing it because she probably feels sorry for you. If it wasn't for this mystery "illness" you keep mentioning she'd be nowhere to be seen. Stop deluding yourself fella. It'll all end in tears. Sorry to be harsh but you're clinging onto something that isn't there except in your head. If you genuinely need that level of personal care as your post states then you should be seeking professional help, not using some 18 yro chick that doesn't want to be with you except for self-serving reasons. As we say on here, MTFU.Petrolhead95 said:
How did you work that one out? You mean apart from looking after me for the past six months, taking me shopping because I'm too ill, helping me out when I'm too ill to get out of bed, making me food, help me shower etc etc etc. I could go on. She hasn't made me buy her stuff, I've done it because I feel guilty. Why would she say no? She needs space from our relationship; I get that.
Wants to be friends for now? Yep. Wants to stay close with me? Yep. Cares ridiculous amounts? Yep.
Stop spending 300 quid a week on her then.Wants to be friends for now? Yep. Wants to stay close with me? Yep. Cares ridiculous amounts? Yep.
She has implied guilt to get you to buy her stuff. Honestly mate dont be a mug. Ignore her.
Petrolhead95 said:
How did you work that one out? You mean apart from looking after me for the past six months, taking me shopping because I'm too ill, helping me out when I'm too ill to get out of bed, making me food, help me shower etc etc etc. I could go on. She hasn't made me buy her stuff, I've done it because I feel guilty. Why would she say no? She needs space from our relationship; I get that.
Wants to be friends for now? Yep. Wants to stay close with me? Yep. Cares ridiculous amounts? Yep.
End the thread then. Wants to be friends for now? Yep. Wants to stay close with me? Yep. Cares ridiculous amounts? Yep.
Petrolhead95 said:
I've already said that I'll move on but I'm not ignoring her. Sorry. I appreciate the replies regardless.
You won't be able to move on while you're still in regular comms with her. Everyone (male and female) that's been through it themselves will tell you this. The fact is that you don't want to move on and you'll keep hanging on her every word until she tells you you're dumped. If you want to put yourself through this which will mess with your head big time then crack on... Don't say you weren't warned! 
Petrolhead95 said:
I've already said that I'll move on but I'm not ignoring her. Sorry. I appreciate the replies regardless.
One word of advice... she will want you whilst sh can still use you... until that is that a new person comes along... Do you think that you will hear from her again??Will you crap, she wont even remember your name whilst some other guys is up to his nuts in her.
Sorry to be crude, but think about it for second before you get a month or so down the line and it happens and you come back stating you wish you had listened.
Du1point8 said:
One word of advice... she will want you whilst sh can still use you... until that is that a new person comes along... Do you think that you will hear from her again??
Will you crap, she wont even remember your name whilst some other guys is up to his nuts in her.
Sorry to be crude, but think about it for second before you get a month or so down the line and it happens and you come back stating you wish you had listened.
To be honest I think you need to go through it yourself before you will heed advice.Will you crap, she wont even remember your name whilst some other guys is up to his nuts in her.
Sorry to be crude, but think about it for second before you get a month or so down the line and it happens and you come back stating you wish you had listened.
Your 21, she is 18. You're kids you don't know what you want. Your too young to be settling down. Get out there enjoy your life. Experience things, find our who you are and you will find a woman who is right for you.
I say this as a 29 year old. Enjoy your youth before it's too late.
You won't listen to this advice though, you will give her the Christmas presents. She will dump you in the new year and have a one night stand with a guy with a Capri at a party. She will end up pregnant with twins.
ChunkyloverSV said:
Du1point8 said:
One word of advice... she will want you whilst sh can still use you... until that is that a new person comes along... Do you think that you will hear from her again??
Will you crap, she wont even remember your name whilst some other guys is up to his nuts in her.
Sorry to be crude, but think about it for second before you get a month or so down the line and it happens and you come back stating you wish you had listened.
To be honest I think you need to go through it yourself before you will heed advice.Will you crap, she wont even remember your name whilst some other guys is up to his nuts in her.
Sorry to be crude, but think about it for second before you get a month or so down the line and it happens and you come back stating you wish you had listened.
Your 21, she is 18. You're kids you don't know what you want. Your too young to be settling down. Get out there enjoy your life. Experience things, find our who you are and you will find a woman who is right for you.
I say this as a 29 year old. Enjoy your youth before it's too late.
You won't listen to this advice though, you will give her the Christmas presents. She will dump you in the new year and have a one night stand with a guy with a Capri at a party. She will end up pregnant with twins.
You're spot on though. She'll be getting rode like a Blackpool donkey next new years party while OP is in the hospital or whatever. That's just about the time the 'screw him for ignoring me' emotion will kick in.
ChunkyloverSV said:
To be honest I think you need to go through it yourself before you will heed advice.
Your 21, she is 18. You're kids you don't know what you want. Your too young to be settling down. Get out there enjoy your life. Experience things, find our who you are and you will find a woman who is right for you.
I say this as a 29 year old. Enjoy your youth before it's too late.
You won't listen to this advice though, you will give her the Christmas presents. She will dump you in the new year and have a one night stand with a guy with a Capri at a party. She will end up pregnant with twins.
You're / your - come on man.Your 21, she is 18. You're kids you don't know what you want. Your too young to be settling down. Get out there enjoy your life. Experience things, find our who you are and you will find a woman who is right for you.
I say this as a 29 year old. Enjoy your youth before it's too late.
You won't listen to this advice though, you will give her the Christmas presents. She will dump you in the new year and have a one night stand with a guy with a Capri at a party. She will end up pregnant with twins.
Hainey said:
Aye right Granddad, are you 29 or 59?
You're spot on though. She'll be getting rode like a Blackpool donkey next new years party while OP is in the hospital or whatever. That's just about the time the 'screw him for ignoring me' emotion will kick in.
29. A few 'cool dudes' had old battered Ford Capri's when I was early 20's. It might have been a northern thing?You're spot on though. She'll be getting rode like a Blackpool donkey next new years party while OP is in the hospital or whatever. That's just about the time the 'screw him for ignoring me' emotion will kick in.
Been there, done that got the tee-shirt unfortunately
She went off to Uni and it played out in much the same fashion as the OP has detailed. He needs to go through this and learn some valuable life lessons.
davek_964 said:
Hainey said:
For some women, what she is doing is a way to keep a guy in the friend zone for comfort until they move on. Monkeys preferring to keep a grip of a branch until they hold the next one, to use the oft quoted phrase.
+1.Most people can't simply switch off their feelings even when a relationship ends, so this kind of thing isn't all that unusual. Many years ago, I split with somebody who was in a mutual group of friends - we all went out pretty much every weekend and for several weeks - if not months - we'd usually end up back at her place at the end of the evening.
My guess is that this will simply prolong the inevitable - but that's not necessarily true, so if you want more then good luck to you (and learn from your mistakes).
Well we met up and spoke about things. She said that she needs to get over all this so in the future we can have a clean start. Doesn't sound good to me. We agreed no more talking about relationships etc. Still very much in love so this won't be easy.
I guess I'll try Tinder although I hate it.
I guess I'll try Tinder although I hate it.
Petrolhead95 said:
Well we met up and spoke about things. She said that she needs to get over all this so in the future we can have a clean start. Doesn't sound good to me. We agreed no more talking about relationships etc. Still very much in love so this won't be easy.
I guess I'll try Tinder although I hate it.
There will be no clean start.I guess I'll try Tinder although I hate it.
Its over. Done. Delete her number. Remove from FB. Ignore her....
xjay1337 said:
Petrolhead95 said:
Well we met up and spoke about things. She said that she needs to get over all this so in the future we can have a clean start. Doesn't sound good to me. We agreed no more talking about relationships etc. Still very much in love so this won't be easy.
I guess I'll try Tinder although I hate it.
There will be no clean start.I guess I'll try Tinder although I hate it.
Its over. Done. Delete her number. Remove from FB. Ignore her....
te.Flibble said:
xjay1337 said:
Petrolhead95 said:
Well we met up and spoke about things. She said that she needs to get over all this so in the future we can have a clean start. Doesn't sound good to me. We agreed no more talking about relationships etc. Still very much in love so this won't be easy.
I guess I'll try Tinder although I hate it.
There will be no clean start.I guess I'll try Tinder although I hate it.
Its over. Done. Delete her number. Remove from FB. Ignore her....
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