Confused about an ex-girlfriend
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Hainey said:
Petrolhead95 said:
She doesn't know as far as I'm aware. Still undecided so they're under my bed.
FWIW, and it's just advice, I'd cool off on giving them to her for a while. Let the relationship reset itself and see what comes out of it. It sounds like you two are talking like adults now and that can only be a good thing.Booty calls are great but they do get in the way of meaningful dialogue after all.
Never know, maybe come Easter she will be getting some great gifts and believe it or not everyone on here is actually rooting for you.
Good luck.
Good on you OP for not giving them to her in a bid to get her back!
All that jazz said:
Seriously?
This thread is missing a lot of information. I think you just like to tease us Mr 95.
Some questions that need answering :
1. Did she really just turn up on your folks' doorstep unannounced as your earlier post suggests or
2. Did you plead and beg her to come over because you were missing her and
3. offered to pay for her petrol? ()
4. Did you not give her anything as Christmas gifts?
5. Not even a card? ()
6. Did she get you anything?
7. ???
8. Profit?
1. Yes she did. We've been down there together before so she knows the address.
2. No I didn't. She said she missed me and I told her that I was missing her too.
3. No offer to pay for fuel or anything else.
4. She has had a couple of smaller gifts.
5. She has had a card, yes.
6. Yes, I got two gifts; two nice dress shirts.
Anything else?
Hainey said:
FWIW, and it's just advice, I'd cool off on giving them to her for a while. Let the relationship reset itself and see what comes out of it. It sounds like you two are talking like adults now and that can only be a good thing.
Booty calls are great but they do get in the way of meaningful dialogue after all.
Never know, maybe come Easter she will be getting some great gifts and believe it or not everyone on here is actually rooting for you.
Good luck.
Now ther anger and emotions have died down a little we can talk about it calmly. Booty calls are great but they do get in the way of meaningful dialogue after all.
Never know, maybe come Easter she will be getting some great gifts and believe it or not everyone on here is actually rooting for you.
Good luck.
Hainey said:
Petrolhead95 said:
She doesn't know as far as I'm aware. Still undecided so they're under my bed.
FWIW, and it's just advice, I'd cool off on giving them to her for a while. Let the relationship reset itself and see what comes out of it. It sounds like you two are talking like adults now and that can only be a good thing.Booty calls are great but they do get in the way of meaningful dialogue after all.
Never know, maybe come Easter she will be getting some great gifts and believe it or not everyone on here is actually rooting for you.
Good luck.
We had a chat last night and came to the conclusion that I'll be moving home to my parents at the end of the month as things up here just aren't working. Despite being two hours away she's quite happy, or at least says she is, to try a long distance thing and come down a couple of times a month to try and keep something going. Not sure why she would offer to do that if she wasn't interested - that's quite a commitment in my eyes.
I guess worst case scenario it will make it clear if we're committed or not.
I guess worst case scenario it will make it clear if we're committed or not.
Petrolhead95 said:
We had a chat last night and came to the conclusion that I'll be moving home to my parents at the end of the month as things up here just aren't working. Despite being two hours away she's quite happy, or at least says she is, to try a long distance thing and come down a couple of times a month to try and keep something going. Not sure why she would offer to do that if she wasn't interested - that's quite a commitment in my eyes.
I guess worst case scenario it will make it clear if we're committed or not.
Long distance will not work for either of you.I guess worst case scenario it will make it clear if we're committed or not.
i really don't know why you are clinging onto it. She has been proven to be a massive head fk.
I suspect whatever she had lined up with another lad either fizzled out of she is hoping you'll give her the expensive presents that she probably knows you have.
xjay1337 said:
Long distance will not work for either of you.
i really don't know why you are clinging onto it. She has been proven to be a massive head fk.
I suspect whatever she had lined up with another lad either fizzled out of she is hoping you'll give her the expensive presents that she probably knows you have.
Thisi really don't know why you are clinging onto it. She has been proven to be a massive head fk.
I suspect whatever she had lined up with another lad either fizzled out of she is hoping you'll give her the expensive presents that she probably knows you have.
I am guessing petrolhead has a fear he won't meet someone else so easily
When, infact, there's a good chance he'd meet someone better! That is close to him too
Petrolhead95 said:
We had a chat last night and came to the conclusion that I'll be moving home to my parents at the end of the month as things up here just aren't working. Despite being two hours away she's quite happy, or at least says she is, to try a long distance thing and come down a couple of times a month to try and keep something going. Not sure why she would offer to do that if she wasn't interested - that's quite a commitment in my eyes.
I guess worst case scenario it will make it clear if we're committed or not.
What, saying it? Hardly.I guess worst case scenario it will make it clear if we're committed or not.
Judge her by her actions, not her pillow-talk.
Petrolhead95 said:
We had a chat last night and came to the conclusion that I'll be moving home to my parents at the end of the month as things up here just aren't working. Despite being two hours away she's quite happy, or at least says she is, to try a long distance thing and come down a couple of times a month to try and keep something going. Not sure why she would offer to do that if she wasn't interested - that's quite a commitment in my eyes.
I guess worst case scenario it will make it clear if we're committed or not.
Cynically, it could just be her limiting her time with you, but still having the emotional/financial support of a part time relationship. I guess worst case scenario it will make it clear if we're committed or not.
xjay1337 said:
Petrolhead95 said:
We had a chat last night and came to the conclusion that I'll be moving home to my parents at the end of the month as things up here just aren't working. Despite being two hours away she's quite happy, or at least says she is, to try a long distance thing and come down a couple of times a month to try and keep something going. Not sure why she would offer to do that if she wasn't interested - that's quite a commitment in my eyes.
I guess worst case scenario it will make it clear if we're committed or not.
Long distance will not work for either of you.I guess worst case scenario it will make it clear if we're committed or not.
i really don't know why you are clinging onto it. She has been proven to be a massive head fk.
I suspect whatever she had lined up with another lad either fizzled out of she is hoping you'll give her the expensive presents that she probably knows you have.
The twice-monthly visits will only happen when she's horny/wants a shag and I predict will abruptly end when your replacement arrives on the scene.
Your whole comment is based on your personal experience I guess? You can't tar everyone with the same brush. Everything you've just said goes against what she says and does but only I can say that. To you she's just a waste of time but you can't get an accurate grasp on it without being me.
I appreciate the advice but I'm still going ahead as I have nothing to lose from it. Thank you anyway!
I appreciate the advice but I'm still going ahead as I have nothing to lose from it. Thank you anyway!
Petrolhead95 said:
Your whole comment is based on your personal experience I guess? You can't tar everyone with the same brush. Everything you've just said goes against what she says and does but only I can say that. To you she's just a waste of time but you can't get an accurate grasp on it without being me.
I appreciate the advice but I'm still going ahead as I have nothing to lose from it. Thank you anyway!
As much as we pretend to be unique we are all pretty much the same in our basic actions, behaviours and feelings.I appreciate the advice but I'm still going ahead as I have nothing to lose from it. Thank you anyway!
My whole comment is being based on being with a young woman in a similar situation to you.
Thought she was amazing. Hot. etc.
But I was being emotionally abused without realising it at the time.
And it's only with retrospect and learning that lesson that you come to see the situation for what it really was.
We have experienced over the last 25 or so pages the wayward and questionable way she BEHAVES and our collective experience on PH is that she is messing you around and before she had pretty obviously found herself a new man, which has since perhaps not gone to plan so she is keeping you around as an "option to fk" in the event she gets horny and wants a shag or fancies a few meals out over a weekend.
A relationship is not built on seeing each other a couple of times a month, seeing what happens etc. She has given you no commitment that she will be faithful to you, and your naivety cannot see that.
While you have nothing physical to lose (certainly not an arm), aside from some money, you are opening yourself up to a whole world of emotional hurt. A relationship is not supposed to be how yours is. It simply isn't. And one day you will realise that but I fear you are determined to be a lemming in the short term.
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