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fttm said:
Without going into detail I beg to differ , it can be better with your partner fully involved , they're suffering the side effect of the crap that's going on , only right they get a chance to understand why .Maybe this works for some and not others.
OP - I empathise with you completely. - mood swings etc.
I have a traumatic brain injury (tbi) having had numerous bangs to the head and a very serious bicycle accident - I hit the back of my head too.
I've recently started treatment, after denying for 10 years that I had anything wrong with me.
Please try and contact your local headway charity. These guys are fantastic and will get you the help you need fast.
The NHS has been ok for me, but the local charities in the area, along with a few specialists that we found have been fantastic.
Please feel free to drop me a PM and I'd be happy to have a chat
Chris
I have a traumatic brain injury (tbi) having had numerous bangs to the head and a very serious bicycle accident - I hit the back of my head too.
I've recently started treatment, after denying for 10 years that I had anything wrong with me.
Please try and contact your local headway charity. These guys are fantastic and will get you the help you need fast.
The NHS has been ok for me, but the local charities in the area, along with a few specialists that we found have been fantastic.
Please feel free to drop me a PM and I'd be happy to have a chat
Chris
toohuge said:
OP - I empathise with you completely. - mood swings etc.
I have a traumatic brain injury (tbi) having had numerous bangs to the head and a very serious bicycle accident - I hit the back of my head too.
I've recently started treatment, after denying for 10 years that I had anything wrong with me.
Please try and contact your local headway charity. These guys are fantastic and will get you the help you need fast.
The NHS has been ok for me, but the local charities in the area, along with a few specialists that we found have been fantastic.
Please feel free to drop me a PM and I'd be happy to have a chat
Chris
Thanks very much, PM sent.I have a traumatic brain injury (tbi) having had numerous bangs to the head and a very serious bicycle accident - I hit the back of my head too.
I've recently started treatment, after denying for 10 years that I had anything wrong with me.
Please try and contact your local headway charity. These guys are fantastic and will get you the help you need fast.
The NHS has been ok for me, but the local charities in the area, along with a few specialists that we found have been fantastic.
Please feel free to drop me a PM and I'd be happy to have a chat
Chris
I was due at doctors this evening to get the forms the DVLA sent me filled out, 'AGAIN.' I was going to raise the issue with the doc, but it was cancelled as doctor Isn't well. I am going Friday now, but will spend more time looking at the headway charity website.
While not having the experience of a severe head injury, although I did bash it heavily a few times as a kid, I've suffered from depression on and off for 30 or so years.
I've more or less got a grip on it these days, although I'm not quite sure how I would explain how I do that. Some days I just have to ride it out, then I will be ok for months. I find that there are a few things that trigger an episode, although I get stronger as the years pass.
Actually, I've been reading up on stress recently, it's something you should actively try and avoid in the main, it has massive repercussions in terms of physical health and the body's healing process. It's easy to say, and difficult to do, but focusing on the positive rather than the negative can only help.
Things that work for me are, in no particular order:
Diet: fruit and veg, particularly red fruits, seem to give me a lift, or stop me dropping in the first place.
Exercise: even just walking a few miles a day makes a big difference to my mental wellbeing
Music: I've quite recently re-started playing and learning the piano, I cannot really quantify the difference it's made, but it's huge. I would recommend trying to learn something if you don't already play.
Learning: Any kind of study or reading helps keep your mind fit and active.
I don't know where you're based, but I'm in the South West London area a few times over the next few weeks, I'd be happy to meet for a coffee and a chat if it might help.
Don't know if you recall, my industry is similar to yours (TV though, rather than tours), so more often than not I'm sitting in a Travelodge of an evening when I'm not at home or pounding the motorways.
The offer's there, I won't be offended if you don't take it up, I have plenty of good books
I've more or less got a grip on it these days, although I'm not quite sure how I would explain how I do that. Some days I just have to ride it out, then I will be ok for months. I find that there are a few things that trigger an episode, although I get stronger as the years pass.
Actually, I've been reading up on stress recently, it's something you should actively try and avoid in the main, it has massive repercussions in terms of physical health and the body's healing process. It's easy to say, and difficult to do, but focusing on the positive rather than the negative can only help.
Things that work for me are, in no particular order:
Diet: fruit and veg, particularly red fruits, seem to give me a lift, or stop me dropping in the first place.
Exercise: even just walking a few miles a day makes a big difference to my mental wellbeing
Music: I've quite recently re-started playing and learning the piano, I cannot really quantify the difference it's made, but it's huge. I would recommend trying to learn something if you don't already play.
Learning: Any kind of study or reading helps keep your mind fit and active.
I don't know where you're based, but I'm in the South West London area a few times over the next few weeks, I'd be happy to meet for a coffee and a chat if it might help.
Don't know if you recall, my industry is similar to yours (TV though, rather than tours), so more often than not I'm sitting in a Travelodge of an evening when I'm not at home or pounding the motorways.
The offer's there, I won't be offended if you don't take it up, I have plenty of good books
Super Slo Mo said:
While not having the experience of a severe head injury, although I did bash it heavily a few times as a kid, I've suffered from depression on and off for 30 or so years.
I've more or less got a grip on it these days, although I'm not quite sure how I would explain how I do that. Some days I just have to ride it out, then I will be ok for months. I find that there are a few things that trigger an episode, although I get stronger as the years pass.
Actually, I've been reading up on stress recently, it's something you should actively try and avoid in the main, it has massive repercussions in terms of physical health and the body's healing process. It's easy to say, and difficult to do, but focusing on the positive rather than the negative can only help.
Things that work for me are, in no particular order:
Diet: fruit and veg, particularly red fruits, seem to give me a lift, or stop me dropping in the first place.
Exercise: even just walking a few miles a day makes a big difference to my mental wellbeing
Music: I've quite recently re-started playing and learning the piano, I cannot really quantify the difference it's made, but it's huge. I would recommend trying to learn something if you don't already play.
Learning: Any kind of study or reading helps keep your mind fit and active.
I don't know where you're based, but I'm in the South West London area a few times over the next few weeks, I'd be happy to meet for a coffee and a chat if it might help.
Don't know if you recall, my industry is similar to yours (TV though, rather than tours), so more often than not I'm sitting in a Travelodge of an evening when I'm not at home or pounding the motorways.
The offer's there, I won't be offended if you don't take it up, I have plenty of good books
Hello mate, and thanks very much.I've more or less got a grip on it these days, although I'm not quite sure how I would explain how I do that. Some days I just have to ride it out, then I will be ok for months. I find that there are a few things that trigger an episode, although I get stronger as the years pass.
Actually, I've been reading up on stress recently, it's something you should actively try and avoid in the main, it has massive repercussions in terms of physical health and the body's healing process. It's easy to say, and difficult to do, but focusing on the positive rather than the negative can only help.
Things that work for me are, in no particular order:
Diet: fruit and veg, particularly red fruits, seem to give me a lift, or stop me dropping in the first place.
Exercise: even just walking a few miles a day makes a big difference to my mental wellbeing
Music: I've quite recently re-started playing and learning the piano, I cannot really quantify the difference it's made, but it's huge. I would recommend trying to learn something if you don't already play.
Learning: Any kind of study or reading helps keep your mind fit and active.
I don't know where you're based, but I'm in the South West London area a few times over the next few weeks, I'd be happy to meet for a coffee and a chat if it might help.
Don't know if you recall, my industry is similar to yours (TV though, rather than tours), so more often than not I'm sitting in a Travelodge of an evening when I'm not at home or pounding the motorways.
The offer's there, I won't be offended if you don't take it up, I have plenty of good books
Some things I've done right this year, I managed to shed 2 stone in weight and have a decent diet now ticking the fruit, veg and salad boxes. Cut drinking right back, (it was bloody expensive) but I do probably drink to much coffee. The chauffeur thing in the summer kept me fit and the rather dull job I have at the mo involves a lot of loading/unloading, (only a van though) but it helps and I feel quite good fitness wise.
I think I know what the exact main route of my problems are, (or rather who they are) and I sort of had it under a bit more control this year because i'd given up the fight. Recent events though mean that 'the trigger' is back again and although I feel I am definitely doing the right thing in fighting, it does bring all the stresses back again. Well that's how it seems in my head right now, although I could be wrong?
I guess many people may be thinking, stop going on about it or well give it up and walk away then. Maybe they're right.
I can't, I'm a proud man and try to fight for what I believe is rightfully mine, (or perhaps I'm just stupid, who knows?) and it seems I may finally be within touching distance of finally getting all the wrongs put right.
The whole sorry affair and all the knock on affects of it have rolled on for just over 2 years now and I've certainly had some big ups and downs in this time, financially, mentally and relationship wise. I even avoid phone calls from mates and talking about it anymore as I hate to carry on being a broken record. Having no positives, no matter how hard you've tried during the fight can be a bit soul destroying.
I do definitely feel I've failed and can admit it now, I also know I have some issues that although I struggle of late to control them, I now know they need to be addressed.
People have or may say, "Oh you haven't failed."
That's not how it feels in my head when my mood is down and things are dark, but it can change from high to low in minutes. People say what doesn't kill you makes you stronger, or every cloud etc, etc.
Sorry, f
k off please don't say that to me, you have to have lived it.I hope that makes sense.
Thanks for the offer, I'm based to the East of London, but do get round the West side 1 or 2 days a week on average, but in work hours. Do always stop for an hour for lunch though if you're free and want a quick brew?
Thanks for the offer.
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