Swimming - loose flab vs. looking like an idiot
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jonah35 said:
Ill stick my neck out and disagree with othhers on here. Yes, it would be nice, in a way, if people didnt notice or care but just like in many walks of life people will notice.
The kind thing to say is that no one will notice, theyll be cooing over your child and so on but i personally feel that the harsh reality is people will notice, your child may get bullied at school if their parent is fat, you will feel bad about it and so on. Thats not my views, thats the truth of what happens in daily life, rightly or wrongly.
People are often a little too PC, sorry if that causes offence, its not meant to
I don't think you go swimming much. I've always found swimming pools pretty immune from all that, because there's so many undesirables on show. From undernourished stick insects to great fat biffas, and everything in between. Awful tats, Muslim women in head to toe all over swimsuits next to a supermodel in a bikini comprising of 3 postage stamps. The kind thing to say is that no one will notice, theyll be cooing over your child and so on but i personally feel that the harsh reality is people will notice, your child may get bullied at school if their parent is fat, you will feel bad about it and so on. Thats not my views, thats the truth of what happens in daily life, rightly or wrongly.
People are often a little too PC, sorry if that causes offence, its not meant to
In our pool we have a bloke aged 92 who's like a torpedo in the water but a disabled tortoise out of it. And a bloke with about 8 huge scars, who might have been in a shark fight. And a woman with 1 leg.
NO ONE CARES.
jonah35 said:
Thats not my views, thats the truth of what happens in daily life, rightly or wrongly.
People are often a little too PC, sorry if that causes offence, its not meant to
You have managed to hit both the 'I'm a realist' and 'not PC' gong in one post. As if stating how much of an un-PC realist you are guarantees your POV is the right one. People are often a little too PC, sorry if that causes offence, its not meant to
I worked in a pool that would send the PH council scale off the chat . . . IME families and groups of people don't tend to look far beyond their own section of the pool.
As in many social environments the people who stand out are the ones who are obviously self conscious. Would absolutely avoid wearing t-shirts etc as you stand out and they cling.
Just go and enjoy the time with your kid. No one will care.
Nobody cares apart from you, you see all shapes and sizes and hiding away doesnt do you any good, I reached 18 stone and decided to do something about if, just gone under sixteen and it has made a huge difference to how I feel, dont care about anyone else, I am doing it for me.
There are more large people around than ever before, being a bit large isnt enough to get you in the circus these days I am afraid, wont even warrant a second glance, or is that what you want, the ladies checking you out ?
I dont think women are really all that bothered, there are some real hunks in the gym we go to and to be honest, my wife and her mate were discussing one who spends more time admiring himself than working, and he does a lot of that.
Its is hard to change, but once you have it gets easier, small steps, my aim by my holiday next year is not to be self conscious about podge, to be honest though, 99 percent of people dont look that great without clothes, even slim ones so wouldnt worry, just enjoy that precious time with your little one, it is fleeting even though it might not feel like that now, it is very temporary, take many photos and enjoy it.
There are more large people around than ever before, being a bit large isnt enough to get you in the circus these days I am afraid, wont even warrant a second glance, or is that what you want, the ladies checking you out ?
I dont think women are really all that bothered, there are some real hunks in the gym we go to and to be honest, my wife and her mate were discussing one who spends more time admiring himself than working, and he does a lot of that.
Its is hard to change, but once you have it gets easier, small steps, my aim by my holiday next year is not to be self conscious about podge, to be honest though, 99 percent of people dont look that great without clothes, even slim ones so wouldnt worry, just enjoy that precious time with your little one, it is fleeting even though it might not feel like that now, it is very temporary, take many photos and enjoy it.
TwistingMyMelon said:
Thread is useless without pictures...and custard!
You may have unwittingly hit on an answer - find a swimming pool filled with custard and make sure that you stay submerged to the shoulders. Also handy if you fancy a snack while working out. Serious answer - just go and enjoy yourself
If you think your kid is going to get bullied because you are a bit heavier than average, take a look outside the average primary school. You are a lightweight. Get your swim shorts on (please not knee length ones that slurp up half the pool) and get on with it. Within 2 minutes you will have forgotten all about it, your kid will be having a fantastic time and you'll both be getting fitter.
You really won't be out of place, after all many people swim exactly to lose weight, tone up and get fit. It is the perfect exercise for it, low impact and high calorie burn.
You really won't be out of place, after all many people swim exactly to lose weight, tone up and get fit. It is the perfect exercise for it, low impact and high calorie burn.
Seriously, just go for it. No-one will give you a second glance.
I am bigger than I should be but get in the pool regularly. If you think that it is worrying being big and going for a swim, try being 5'9 and 16 stone when you put a wetsuit on and turn up at the start line for a half ironman race! Did I feel awkward - yes - for about 30 seconds and then realised that everyone was worrying about themselves and no-one gave me a second look. In fact, they were more likely to say "good on you" just for getting off your backside and doing some exercise.
And I finished the race, which was more than a lot did.
It is just one of those things. I eat more calories than I burn, so I am overweight. No point denying it or making excuses - but I like exercise and lift weights 3 times a week, run and cycle and do some swimming. I will do another half next year - I will never worry the front runners, but I am not racing them. If I complete the race and beat my previous time, then that is a result. If I am last across the line, I couldn't care less - I am racing myself, not anyone else.
It should be the same when you go to the pool - just go for a swim and enjoy yourself with your little one. Once you have done it a couple of times, you won't think twice about it.
I am bigger than I should be but get in the pool regularly. If you think that it is worrying being big and going for a swim, try being 5'9 and 16 stone when you put a wetsuit on and turn up at the start line for a half ironman race! Did I feel awkward - yes - for about 30 seconds and then realised that everyone was worrying about themselves and no-one gave me a second look. In fact, they were more likely to say "good on you" just for getting off your backside and doing some exercise.
And I finished the race, which was more than a lot did.
It is just one of those things. I eat more calories than I burn, so I am overweight. No point denying it or making excuses - but I like exercise and lift weights 3 times a week, run and cycle and do some swimming. I will do another half next year - I will never worry the front runners, but I am not racing them. If I complete the race and beat my previous time, then that is a result. If I am last across the line, I couldn't care less - I am racing myself, not anyone else.
It should be the same when you go to the pool - just go for a swim and enjoy yourself with your little one. Once you have done it a couple of times, you won't think twice about it.
jonah35 said:
Ill stick my neck out and disagree with othhers on here. Yes, it would be nice, in a way, if people didnt notice or care but just like in many walks of life people will notice.
The kind thing to say is that no one will notice, theyll be cooing over your child and so on but i personally feel that the harsh reality is people will notice, your child may get bullied at school if their parent is fat, you will feel bad about it and so on. Thats not my views, thats the truth of what happens in daily life, rightly or wrongly.
People are often a little too PC, sorry if that causes offence, its not meant to
I think this says more about you than anything else.....The kind thing to say is that no one will notice, theyll be cooing over your child and so on but i personally feel that the harsh reality is people will notice, your child may get bullied at school if their parent is fat, you will feel bad about it and so on. Thats not my views, thats the truth of what happens in daily life, rightly or wrongly.
People are often a little too PC, sorry if that causes offence, its not meant to
Who are you trying to look not fat for? If it's the sort of swimming class I think it is ( under 2s, parents holding kids) no-one else in the pool will be able to take their eyes off their own kids to make sure they're not drowning.
If you're looking around to see whether other people are looking at you, you're missing the point - you should be watching your kid doesnt gulp in half the pool or pull their swimming nappy off. Besides, you'd hope you're there to enjoy the experience with them.
If you're looking around to see whether other people are looking at you, you're missing the point - you should be watching your kid doesnt gulp in half the pool or pull their swimming nappy off. Besides, you'd hope you're there to enjoy the experience with them.
FredAstaire said:
As everyone else has pointed out - no one is interested in you or your body.
BUT, as soon as you're the only one wearing a T-shirt in the pool people will notice.
Absolutely. It's like baldness. No one cares until you get a sweepover or a wig. That's when people point and laugh.BUT, as soon as you're the only one wearing a T-shirt in the pool people will notice.
WestyCarl said:
jonah35 said:
Ill stick my neck out and disagree with othhers on here. Yes, it would be nice, in a way, if people didnt notice or care but just like in many walks of life people will notice.
The kind thing to say is that no one will notice, theyll be cooing over your child and so on but i personally feel that the harsh reality is people will notice, your child may get bullied at school if their parent is fat, you will feel bad about it and so on. Thats not my views, thats the truth of what happens in daily life, rightly or wrongly.
People are often a little too PC, sorry if that causes offence, its not meant to
I think this says more about you than anything else.....The kind thing to say is that no one will notice, theyll be cooing over your child and so on but i personally feel that the harsh reality is people will notice, your child may get bullied at school if their parent is fat, you will feel bad about it and so on. Thats not my views, thats the truth of what happens in daily life, rightly or wrongly.
People are often a little too PC, sorry if that causes offence, its not meant to
The consensus seems to be, dont worry about it, be fat and own it, no one will notice. The general gist in real life, to me, seems to be about getting healthy, being in shape, losing weight and so on.
Either way, enjoy the swimming
Noticing and making an evaluation of that are quite different things. I might notice that it's raining, and I can choose whether that's a concern or not. For some people it's the worst thing in the world and f
k that fking rain. It's really easy to slip into a negative evaluation of something that's really not that big of a deal
k that fking rain. It's really easy to slip into a negative evaluation of something that's really not that big of a dealBelieve me nobody will care. If it's anything like the classes I attended with our lad there will be 10 others all women all still with pregnancy weight to loose your belly is the last thing they will be bothered about. Plus you will have the changing room to yourself so no other men to bother about either not that they will care either they will be focused on getting their little one changed before they freeze or start screaming.
I pity those who comment negatively on someone big doing something fitness related, I just see someone making an effort, saw a big lady on a bike going up a hill, I was behind her and stayed there so as not to demoralise or distract her by going past, she did it, it was sterling effort and seeing it has stuck with me.
Myself and my mate were on a bike ride and got some abuse off some twunt in a stty old Toyota, we caught up at the lights and the toothless of phlegger gave my mate some abuse and said "Youre too fat for that bike", the abuse he got back made that pale into insignificance.....
Myself and my mate were on a bike ride and got some abuse off some twunt in a s
tty old Toyota, we caught up at the lights and the toothless of phlegger gave my mate some abuse and said "Youre too fat for that bike", the abuse he got back made that pale into insignificance.....Gassing Station | Health Matters | Top of Page | What's New | My Stuff