Feeling down, not depressed, just empty.

[Barmyfluid]

King Herald said:

Yes, I'm relieved to have got the school sorted out, it has been a bit of a weight around my neck for a long time.

Looking at eBay regularly, trying to work out what I want to get into now. Not sure I want another hot rod style thing, something classic or vintage maybe. And a motorcycle too.

Feeling good now, whole again, can't imagine why I was so down and out, now I look back.

Good for you,possibly a bit of reverse culture shock ?

http://www.ebay.co.uk/itm/Kawasaki-H1-H-1-E-Triple...

[King Herald]

I think I'd rather start on something that was actually rideable, rather than a five year project.

[RDMcG]

King Herald said:

I think I'd rather start on something that was actually rideable, rather than a five year project.

Good you are feeling better..let us know what you decide to buy!

[King Herald]

Looking at a 1200 bandit on eBay, but can't decide whether to make the decision yet, middle of winter, no riding gear etc.

I'd have to get the guy to deliver it I think as well.....

[Saleen836]

King Herald said:

Looking at a 1200 bandit on eBay, but can't decide whether to make the decision yet, middle of winter, no riding gear etc.

I'd have to get the guy to deliver it I think as well.....

I might know of a Bandit for sale if that is what you are after?
It belonged to my late friend and has been stored since his son had an 'off' no major damage as far as I can remember.

[King Herald]

Saleen836 said:

I might know of a Bandit for sale if that is what you are after?
It belonged to my late friend and has been stored since his son had an 'off' no major damage as far as I can remember.

I've just put a bid on eBay, if it fails I could be interested. First bid in 6 years or so.

Whereabouts is the bike you know of? I'm in the Midlands, no way to travel to collect something miles away.

ETA. I'm now the proud owner of a 1200 Suzuki Bandit, won on EBay yesterday, delivered today.

Edited by King Herald on Monday 30th January 18:21

[FocusRS3]

An interesting thread King Herald.

You've been quite active on some of my posts recently discussing retirement etc so I'm keen to know how people spend their time.

I'm not at retirement yet, in fact if my job lasts I'm 6yrs away but having recently had a bunch of time out I'm almost wishing my life away just wanting the working week to end.

My outgoings with kids are big so changing jobs etc isn't an option so I feel I'm back on the hamster wheel again and frankly the thought of doing it for potentially another 6yrs is getting me down.

I can think of nothing better than never working again ( well city anyway) and pottering around finding things to do.
The time I had out I was never struggling for things to do.
As others have said walking was a good source of clearing my mind at times of all the crap I had to deal with.

Presently I find my sleep is rubbish and my outlook on life isn't positive . My wife is awesome and a naturally positive person but I can feel myself getting lower and lower as I know job/money wise I'm just not making headway towards that goal of retiring soon enough.

The not wanting to do anything bit I'd also thought was a form of depression and I can't seem to snap out of it .

Without wanting to sound a depressing dullard does anyone else get like this too?

[Craikeybaby]

Sort of, although I’ve got a lot longer to go until retirement than you. I just feel like I’m stuck in a rut, I’ve been in the same job for 10 years, it was good, but now realise I’ve been standing still in a fast moving industry. This year I’ve been focusing on updating my skills and maybe doing a bit of freelance work on the side. Along with sport and yoga my head seems to be in a much better place this year.

As this thread has been bumped, how are you getting on King Hearald?

[FocusRS3]

[quote=Craikeybaby]Sort of, although I’ve got a lot longer to go until retirement than you. I just feel like I’m stuck in a rut, I’ve been in the same job for 10 years, it was good, but now realise I’ve been standing still in a fast moving industry. This year I’ve been focusing on updating my skills and maybe doing a bit of freelance work on the side. Along with sport and yoga my head seems to be in a much better place this year.

i totally know what you mean wrk wise .
What is it you do work wise ?

[King Herald]

FocusRS3 said:

An interesting thread King Herald.

You've been quite active on some of my posts recently discussing retirement etc so I'm keen to know how people spend their time.

I'm not at retirement yet, in fact if my job lasts I'm 6yrs away but having recently had a bunch of time out I'm almost wishing my life away just wanting the working week to end.

My outgoings with kids are big so changing jobs etc isn't an option so I feel I'm back on the hamster wheel again and frankly the thought of doing it for potentially another 6yrs is getting me down.

I can think of nothing better than never working again ( well city anyway) and pottering around finding things to do.
The time I had out I was never struggling for things to do.
As others have said walking was a good source of clearing my mind at times of all the crap I had to deal with.

Presently I find my sleep is rubbish and my outlook on life isn't positive . My wife is awesome and a naturally positive person but I can feel myself getting lower and lower as I know job/money wise I'm just not making headway towards that goal of retiring soon enough.

The not wanting to do anything bit I'd also thought was a form of depression and I can't seem to snap out of it .

Without wanting to sound a depressing dullard does anyone else get like this too?

I was convinced I’d be busy from dawn to dusk with numerous projects. I have/had a mental list of vehicles I want to build, things I wanted to do around the house etc.

However, I still seem to be missing that old spark of enthuse I once had.

Things have gone from bad to worse with the wife and I, and she is still in the Philippines trying to sell the house over there. We have also pretty much agreed to go our separate ways when she does come over here, as we both know it is the best way. She came to visit for a month in summer, and we got on okay, but we realise it is not to be.

My mental state goes up and down like the weather. Some days I feel really positive, but most morning, 6:45, I get up and wonder “what the hell happened to the dream”? Same words every morning.

Anyway, I hope that once things are straightened out between the wife and I, and I know where I stand financially and domestically, the garage will appeal once again and I’ll start cutting and grinding and welding as usual.

I rode the Bandit mentioned above for a while, then bought a BMW 1100 and rode the wheels off that, and it is in the garage now, having been to the Buxton Pass a few days ago. I used to go out almost every day, riding around local roads. Been to the seaside several times, put 7000+ miles on the BMW in the last six months.

Back to the big question, most days I get up, get the daughter off to school, do the housework, feed the dogs, watch tv for a few hours, maybe go shopping..... normal housewife stuff. I just ordered a top box for the bike. And plan to make a rack for it, using a hydraulic bender I bought weeks ago in a fit of enthuse. So some garage time is coming.

I take it all day one at a time,

Oh yes, we took the advice about dogs. Blue and Sky, five year old rescue dogs.



And the BMW...



And if anybody wants to go live in the Philippines I know of a really nice six bed house for sale...

[King Herald]

Craikeybaby said:

Sort of, although I’ve got a lot longer to go until retirement than you. I just feel like I’m stuck in a rut, I’ve been in the same job for 10 years, it was good, but now realise I’ve been standing still in a fast moving industry. This year I’ve been focusing on updating my skills and maybe doing a bit of freelance work on the side. Along with sport and yoga my head seems to be in a much better place this year.

As this thread has been bumped, how are you getting on King Hearald?

As above, up and down, like the weather.

I spent 14 years in a factory, in an earlier life, hating every cold smelly day, feeling like a boring part of the furniture, looking at other guys twice or thrice my age, who had known nothing else but factory life........ that was a rut, with little or no way to up my game or move up the ladder.
Until one day I finally decided to quit the rat race, and went overseas travelling, when I was 29, after selling my house. That was how much I hated the tedium back then. Luckily I was single, no real ties.

That was the best thing I ever did, though it scared the shyte out of me abandoning all semblance of security and normality, at the time.

[Craikeybaby]

FocusRS3 said:

Craikeybaby said:

Sort of, although I’ve got a lot longer to go until retirement than you. I just feel like I’m stuck in a rut, I’ve been in the same job for 10 years, it was good, but now realise I’ve been standing still in a fast moving industry. This year I’ve been focusing on updating my skills and maybe doing a bit of freelance work on the side. Along with sport and yoga my head seems to be in a much better place this year.

i totally know what you mean wrk wise .
What is it you do work wise ?

I’m a software engineer in the automotive industry, but whilst I did my last project everything moved on and I got left behind. Getting to the point where I can jump for the right opportunity now though.

[FocusRS3]

Craikeybaby said:

I’m a software engineer in the automotive industry, but whilst I did my last project everything moved on and I got left behind. Getting to the point where I can jump for the right opportunity now though.

You see your job sounds interesting whereas mine is just repetitive and dull

[Craikeybaby]

FocusRS3 said:

Craikeybaby said:

I’m a software engineer in the automotive industry, but whilst I did my last project everything moved on and I got left behind. Getting to the point where I can jump for the right opportunity now though.

You see your job sounds interesting whereas mine is just repetitive and dull

It’s interesting when we have a project on.

[FocusRS3]

Craikeybaby said:

It’s interesting when we have a project on.

Varied at least maybe and something new to focus on.

I guess every job gets monotonous eventually or sometimes at least seems so.

I'm now hooked on these coastal programmes such as the Robson green series and I find it gives me something to look forward to when I one day retire .
So much of this island I've never seen

[King Herald]

I forced myself to get out in the garage a couple of days ago, knocked myself up a rack for the bike, to take a top box.

It feels good, getting back to the tools, creating stuff, something I have always done.

[mickk]

Your dog's not impressed.