What would you do £1200 charity scam.
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Briefly: Wife ran a charity event for a local woman. Lots of businesses donated stuff, bands turned up etc.
Aim was to give 50% to a charity, and 50% to the woman to buy a headstone for her dead child buried in a local graveyard.
£1200 was given to the charity, and £1200 to the woman.
2 years later the woman has not used this money to buy the headstone. She has been contacted by my wife many times and has constantly given b
ks excuses. A few of the businesses have asked my wife what happened with it. Woman has moved away from the area now.
What would you do(if anything)?
Aim was to give 50% to a charity, and 50% to the woman to buy a headstone for her dead child buried in a local graveyard.
£1200 was given to the charity, and £1200 to the woman.
2 years later the woman has not used this money to buy the headstone. She has been contacted by my wife many times and has constantly given b
ks excuses. A few of the businesses have asked my wife what happened with it. Woman has moved away from the area now.What would you do(if anything)?
Sump said:
Probably can't bring herself to buy it. Burying a kid ain't exactly pleasant let alone your own...
Throw in your nut job wife asking many times what's going on with her dead kids tombstone. Honestly, what's the world come to.
Honestly ? Nut job wife !!Throw in your nut job wife asking many times what's going on with her dead kids tombstone. Honestly, what's the world come to.
This is the woman who organised the event which raised money for a charity as well as giving the woman who lost her kid the chance to place a memorial stone on her kids grave.
I would be pissed off if money I helped raise did not go to its intended purpose.
Corpulent Tosser said:
I would be pissed off if money I helped raise did not go to its intended purpose.
It did. It went to a grieving mother, possibly dealing with depression.So who's lost out here? I don't suppose anyone that donated intended to visit the gravestone more than once for some token gesture. Does it's absence detract from the cemetery?
What if the money barely covered the cost of a funeral in the first place.
She may be finding it too difficult, even now, to buy a headstone. After all, that is basically going back over the death of her child.
Frankly if that is the case, being asked repeatedly about it is probably not helping at all.
Did the lady in question ask for this event and payment?
Frankly if that is the case, being asked repeatedly about it is probably not helping at all.
Did the lady in question ask for this event and payment?
Evanivitch said:
Corpulent Tosser said:
I would be pissed off if money I helped raise did not go to its intended purpose.
It did. It went to a grieving mother, possibly dealing with depression.So who's lost out here? I don't suppose anyone that donated intended to visit the gravestone more than once for some token gesture. Does it's absence detract from the cemetery?
What if the money barely covered the cost of a funeral in the first place.
If the bereaved mother was not involved in any way and she was just given the money with no prior knowledge of what the money was being raised for that would be another matter, but it is not how it sounds from the OP.
However after two years letting it go sounds like the best advise.
Efbe said:
Briefly: Wife ran a charity event for a local woman. Lots of businesses donated stuff, bands turned up etc.
Aim was to give 50% to a charity, and 50% to the woman to buy a headstone for her dead child buried in a local graveyard.
£1200 was given to the charity, and £1200 to the woman.
2 years later the woman has not used this money to buy the headstone. She has been contacted by my wife many times and has constantly given bks excuses. A few of the businesses have asked my wife what happened with it. Woman has moved away from the area now.
What would you do(if anything)?
What are you hoping to get from this? A way to pursue the poor woman and force her to purchase a headstone for her dead child so you can get closure on the event? A way to be reimbursed perhaps? What is it you want? Aim was to give 50% to a charity, and 50% to the woman to buy a headstone for her dead child buried in a local graveyard.
£1200 was given to the charity, and £1200 to the woman.
2 years later the woman has not used this money to buy the headstone. She has been contacted by my wife many times and has constantly given b
ks excuses. A few of the businesses have asked my wife what happened with it. Woman has moved away from the area now.What would you do(if anything)?
It's two years on and it's tit all money - I can't really imagine what sort of businesses are checking the graveyard and enquiring why their small donations haven't been used!
This is a new low.
Lots of questions, so will elaborate.
this event was held over a year on from the child's death.
The mother split with the father of this child shortly after her death. They have another child together.
The father really wants the headstone to be put up, but is scared to chase the mother further for this money/headstone as she is a little nuts and will likely cease contact between him and his daughter.
This is obviously not our issue, though pissed off as hell with her.
Our issue is that the businesses that donated gifts/vouchers/free events etc. to be given away at the charity event are asking what has happened with this. Because my wife organised the event, they are asking her. The worry from my wife, who has he own small business, is that she will be held complicit in this.
this event was held over a year on from the child's death.
The mother split with the father of this child shortly after her death. They have another child together.
The father really wants the headstone to be put up, but is scared to chase the mother further for this money/headstone as she is a little nuts and will likely cease contact between him and his daughter.
This is obviously not our issue, though pissed off as hell with her.
Our issue is that the businesses that donated gifts/vouchers/free events etc. to be given away at the charity event are asking what has happened with this. Because my wife organised the event, they are asking her. The worry from my wife, who has he own small business, is that she will be held complicit in this.
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