How do you get through divorce?

[Soon-to-be-ex-shadowy_me]

Soon-to-be-ex-shadowy_me said:

Rewe said:

evoraboy12 said:

Agree, not can we have the pic without the phone?

It's on the profile, wearing the same skirt as the ”custard” pic earlier in the thread.

Divorce is horrible, there are no winners and I'm sending my very wishes to both of you.

Thank you Rewe.

Also, what’s a “custard pic”?

[Soon-to-be-ex-shadowy_me]

anonymous said:

[redacted]

Thank you. It’s good to know what other men think

[Soon-to-be-ex-shadowy_me]

Gromm said:

hyphen said:

Shadowy_me said:

Piersman2 said:

That's a man's hand, or a small phone!

Loving the trolling and the blend of white knights and troll accusers.

You can probably guess which side I sit. I can't believe anyone is taking this thread seriously and replying a such.

Wow. Ok. So now my hands are not feminine enough for you. Great. You know how to make a woman feel special thank you!

To be fair, this could be a Norman Bates type situation, where the OP has gone nuts and is dressing up in his ex-wives clothes and posting.

Lost me at "about my femininity." bit

That’s ok. Don’t feel bad. I don’t understand many things people say on this chat. That’s why I ask. Explanation below.

[SpunkyGlory]

I cant believe people actually still believe this is genuine.

There's a really easy way to check - can both the OP and his wife post a message at 11am exactly this morning please.

[Rewe]

Soon-to-be-ex-shadowy_me said:

Also, what’s a “custard pic”?

It is a picture that proves half-witted troll hunters wrong. It goes back before my time but refers to the time Jason Plato posted a picture of himself posing with a tin of custard to prove that it actually was him posting.

Back on topic, my advice:

This is a tragedy for you both, but enough time and enough sleep will help you both heal. Don't get involved in any sort of blame because that is absolutely toxic. Don't try to win; that isn't possible for either of you. Be grateful for the good times you had together, look back on them fondly, but move forward with your lives.

Above all make decisions that are in the best interests of your children and that normally means decisions that allow you to both be happy even though you are apart. Good luck.

[danzman1991]

danzman1991 said:

I’m in Kent. Here if needed. It’s tough on your own, I know this.

Can I just retract this.

[Munter]

danzman1991 said:

danzman1991 said:

I’m in Kent. Here if needed. It’s tough on your own, I know this.

Can I just retract this.

Let me just channel some feminine qualities:

Phfft. Typical man. Pulling out early. Where's my money?

[Monkeylegend]

SpunkyGlory said:

I cant believe people actually still believe this is genuine.

There's a really easy way to check - can both the OP and his wife post a message at 11am exactly this morning please.

Doesn't prove anything.

Two laptops / phones, with the messages already typed ready to post, come 11.00 on the dot press the submit buttons on both simultaneously and bam....................two messages from different posting names at the same time, all done by the same, ambidextrous person


You either believe or you don't.

Edited by Monkeylegend on Sunday 19th July 10:01

[Rewe]

Monkeylegend said:

SpunkyGlory said:

I cant believe people actually still believe this is genuine.

There's a really easy way to check - can both the OP and his wife post a message at 11am exactly this morning please.

Doesn't prove anything.

Two laptops / phones, with the messages already typed ready to post, come 11.00 on the dot press the submit buttons on both simultaneously and bam....................two messages from different posting names at the same time, all done by the same, ambidextrous person


You either believe or you don't.

Edited by Monkeylegend on Sunday 19th July 10:01

More to the point, why would they choose to do it for Spunky’s edification? I expect they have more important priorities....

[roadsmash]

Rewe said:

It's on the profile, wearing the same skirt as the ”custard” pic earlier in the thread.

Yes, indeed, the troll has gone to great lengths to string you along.

[Rewe]

roadsmash said:

Rewe said:

It's on the profile, wearing the same skirt as the ”custard” pic earlier in the thread.

Yes, indeed, the troll has gone to great lengths to string you along.

Indeed. With a complete gender reassignment that's one determined hoax!

Respect

[roadsmash]

Rewe said:

roadsmash said:

Rewe said:

It's on the profile, wearing the same skirt as the ”custard” pic earlier in the thread.

Yes, indeed, the troll has gone to great lengths to string you along.

Indeed. With a complete gender reassignment that's one determined hoax!

Respect

Sorry... so the picture of a random woman in the profile picture, who may or may not be the OP’s actual wife, must mean that the OP has had gender reassignment surgery in order to be the same person? That’s the only possibility?

It may well be his (someone’s) wife in the picture. That doesn’t necessarily mean it’s the wife behind the account.

Or, possibly, it could be a female troll behind both accounts. I.e the man doesn’t exist.

This has got attention seeking troll written all over it.

“You’re my hero” Jesus Christ.

[Soon-to-be-ex-shadowy_me]

roadsmash said:

Rewe said:

roadsmash said:

Rewe said:

It's on the profile, wearing the same skirt as the ”custard” pic earlier in the thread.

Yes, indeed, the troll has gone to great lengths to string you along.

Indeed. With a complete gender reassignment that's one determined hoax!

Respect

Sorry... so the picture of a random woman in the profile picture, who may or may not be the OP’s actual wife, must mean that the OP has had gender reassignment surgery in order to be the same person? That’s the only possibility?

It may well be his (someone’s) wife in the picture. That doesn’t necessarily mean it’s the wife behind the account.

Or, possibly, it could be a female troll behind both accounts. I.e the man doesn’t exist.

This has got attention seeking troll written all over it.

“You’re my hero” Jesus Christ.

Hahaha you guys are funny. The stories you come up with! If mine wasn’t so tragic I’d find it much more entertaining.

[Soon-to-be-ex-shadowy_me]

Rewe said:

Soon-to-be-ex-shadowy_me said:

Also, what’s a “custard pic”?

It is a picture that proves half-witted troll hunters wrong. It goes back before my time but refers to the time Jason Plato posted a picture of himself posing with a tin of custard to prove that it actually was him posting.

Back on topic, my advice:

This is a tragedy for you both, but enough time and enough sleep will help you both heal. Don't get involved in any sort of blame because that is absolutely toxic. Don't try to win; that isn't possible for either of you. Be grateful for the good times you had together, look back on them fondly, but move forward with your lives.

Above all make decisions that are in the best interests of your children and that normally means decisions that allow you to both be happy even though you are apart. Good luck.

Thank you Rewe. I came here to stop the hate talk that was coming my way and what a surprise to get truly heartfelt and helpful advice.
There is a strange comfort in getting wise words from people totally anonymously. Brings faith back in humanity.

PS/ So just so I understand (I’m Polish remember) custard pic proves it’s me or a troll? Surly a can of custard didn’t proof it was J Plato? Or am I missing something here?

[Soon-to-be-ex-shadowy_me]

SpunkyGlory said:

I cant believe people actually still believe this is genuine.

There's a really easy way to check - can both the OP and his wife post a message at 11am exactly this morning please.

Absolutely but can we make it a weekday evening as I’m with my daughters most of the time on the weekend. On a walk with dogs now

Edited by Soon-to-be-ex-shadowy_me on Sunday 19th July 19:56

[Soon-to-be-ex-shadowy_me]

Monkeylegend said:

SpunkyGlory said:

I cant believe people actually still believe this is genuine.

There's a really easy way to check - can both the OP and his wife post a message at 11am exactly this morning please.

Doesn't prove anything.

Two laptops / phones, with the messages already typed ready to post, come 11.00 on the dot press the submit buttons on both simultaneously and bam....................two messages from different posting names at the same time, all done by the same, ambidextrous person


You either believe or you don't.

Wow, true. I didn’t even think about this. I’m learning a lot of “life” here. You guys must have some weirdos here a lot

Edited by Monkeylegend on Sunday 19th July 10:01

[Soon-to-be-ex-shadowy_me]

Rewe said:

Monkeylegend said:

SpunkyGlory said:

I cant believe people actually still believe this is genuine.

There's a really easy way to check - can both the OP and his wife post a message at 11am exactly this morning please.

Doesn't prove anything.

Two laptops / phones, with the messages already typed ready to post, come 11.00 on the dot press the submit buttons on both simultaneously and bam....................two messages from different posting names at the same time, all done by the same, ambidextrous person


You either believe or you don't.

Edited by Monkeylegend on Sunday 19th July 10:01

More to the point, why would they choose to do it for Spunky’s edification? I expect they have more important priorities....

And more wise words. I feel like I’m very naive getting pulled into the proof yourself comments. Time to grow a thicker skin. But it’s difficult as I never talked to a group of men at the same time. It’s a lot of testosterone to handle at the same time. Women don’t do this on chats so I guess I didn’t know what to expect. Sometimes I think a lot if you are just winding me up.

[Soon-to-be-ex-shadowy_me]

Munter said:

danzman1991 said:

danzman1991 said:

I’m in Kent. Here if needed. It’s tough on your own, I know this.

Can I just retract this.

Let me just channel some feminine qualities:

Phfft. Typical man. Pulling out early. Where's my money?

Well you could. But is there a better way to see he isn’t wearing my clothes?

[Monkeylegend]

Soon-to-be-ex-shadowy_me said:

Rewe said:

Monkeylegend said:

SpunkyGlory said:

I cant believe people actually still believe this is genuine.

There's a really easy way to check - can both the OP and his wife post a message at 11am exactly this morning please.

Doesn't prove anything.

Two laptops / phones, with the messages already typed ready to post, come 11.00 on the dot press the submit buttons on both simultaneously and bam....................two messages from different posting names at the same time, all done by the same, ambidextrous person


You either believe or you don't.

Edited by Monkeylegend on Sunday 19th July 10:01

More to the point, why would they choose to do it for Spunky’s edification? I expect they have more important priorities....

And more wise words. I feel like I’m very naive getting pulled into the proof yourself comments. Time to grow a thicker skin. But it’s difficult as I never talked to a group of men at the same time. It’s a lot of testosterone to handle at the same time. Women don’t do this on chats so I guess I didn’t know what to expect. Sometimes I think a lot if you are just winding me up.

Not all of us

[Soon-to-be-ex-shadowy_me]

Monkeylegend said:

Soon-to-be-ex-shadowy_me said:

Rewe said:

Monkeylegend said:

SpunkyGlory said:

I cant believe people actually still believe this is genuine.

There's a really easy way to check - can both the OP and his wife post a message at 11am exactly this morning please.

Doesn't prove anything.

Two laptops / phones, with the messages already typed ready to post, come 11.00 on the dot press the submit buttons on both simultaneously and bam....................two messages from different posting names at the same time, all done by the same, ambidextrous person


You either believe or you don't.

Edited by Monkeylegend on Sunday 19th July 10:01

More to the point, why would they choose to do it for Spunky’s edification? I expect they have more important priorities....

And more wise words. I feel like I’m very naive getting pulled into the proof yourself comments. Time to grow a thicker skin. But it’s difficult as I never talked to a group of men at the same time. It’s a lot of testosterone to handle at the same time. Women don’t do this on chats so I guess I didn’t know what to expect. Sometimes I think a lot if you are just winding me up.

Not all of us

No thank you. There are some of you that are very kind