How do I navigate life after a breakup?

[the-norseman]

I went through this about 7 years ago now, I sold my current car (Stage 2 Leon Cupra) and had a "mid life crisis" at 28 and bought a 981 Porsche Cayman S, lost a load of weight and put on muscle etc. Parents live/lived 2.5 hours away as did most friends.

I then did the whole app dating thing which didnt go great for me, was about to give up to be honest and then ended up going on a date with a local girl and were getting married in 3 weeks time.

Just spend time doing things you like and maybe try some new things?

[Mobile Chicane]

Men take a break-up differently than wimmins.

On the whole, men don't have so much of an on-tap support network, and it can get lonely. You've not only lost a partner, but a friend. Hence the 'need' to get back in the saddle as soon as.

Do not do this. The route to madness lies there, especially internet dating.

Focus on yourself. They will come.

Move to a village, and let it be known that you are single.

You'll be beating them off with a stick.

[Mr. Jimmy]

I don't know if this will help you.
It helped me.

I got angry.
I stopped being a nice person, stopped giving a fk.
A year later, my daughters have stopped supporting everything Mum does.
My son actually respects me.

I don't give a fk anymore.
I've never been happier.

[croyde]

Mr. Jimmy said:

I don't know if this will help you.
It helped me.

I got angry.
I stopped being a nice person, stopped giving a fk.
A year later, my daughters have stopped supporting everything Mum does.
My son actually respects me.

I don't give a fk anymore.
I've never been happier.

Funny that. After my relationship went south I contacted an old family friend, who I had fancied, to ask her out for a drink and catch up.

Turned out she had just been dumped by her long term boyfriend, we got drunk then had a wild night.

I wasn't interested in a relationship and played it cool but she couldn't get enough of me.

For the first time in my life I didn't chase, I didn't agree to everything just to get browny points and be liked, I was the totally opposite of normal me.

It just made her more determined. It was fascinating as I was no longer texting and waiting for replies, I was doing what I wanted to do and never what she wanted to do.

After a year it did settle down to be friends with benefits, although it was her that used the term F buddies.

A year later she found someone rich and I had a pang of disappointment but that was it.

Those two years gave me an insight into why blokes that appear to be total shoites seem to get the girls and why myself, who has always chased, tried to do the right thing, always be nice and caring......etc have always failed, including ending up with a complete lunatic alcoholic for a wife.

I'm early 60s now and have given up and am starting to do my own stuff, as suggested in this thread.

[BobSaunders]

Triathlon. Join a cycling club, running club, and swimming club. Or a triathlon club.

You don't need to be fit to join - people will appreciate you for trying.

You will make friends in a couple of weeks.

You will be healthier within a couple of weeks.

You won't have time to think about anything else other than training and recovery, buying or researching new kit, or pouring over the data.

You will train 6 days a week so you will have constant happy hormones.

[interstellar]

Any update OP?

[jinkster]

Sailing course was always a great holiday when single.