The waiting is the hardest bit

The waiting is the hardest bit

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drivin_me_nuts

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17,949 posts

210 months

Wednesday 9th June 2010
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Odd isn't it ... the human mind. My missus has a biopsy tomorrow sometime. Poor lass is pretty poorly and at the moment and CT, MRI scans and xrays have drawn a complete blank as to why.

Odd how you sit sometimes, not wanting to do anything at all, but at the same time want to do so much. Odder still how even when you know the outcome is more than likely to be positive, the mind drifts to the darkest of dark places. I was thinking a while earlier, when I was waiting for my BC results, the waiting wasn't that bad, but this is 100 times worse.


goldblum

10,272 posts

166 months

Wednesday 9th June 2010
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You're right.Sometimes sitting and thinking is the worst thing to do.I hope everything works out ok for you.

doctordr

5,484 posts

166 months

Thursday 10th June 2010
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anonymous said:
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Oh my. What on earth did I just read.

drivin_me_nuts

Original Poster:

17,949 posts

210 months

Thursday 10th June 2010
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Oh the joys of the day. So it's going to be surgery of some kind when tissue culture comes back with the cell type + weeks in hospital and a stomach feed. Well that's part of the jigsaw sorted out, not just to know what exactly we are dealing with...

turbolucy

3,473 posts

181 months

Thursday 10th June 2010
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anonymous said:
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OP - Hope everything turns out well.

Fact is you pay a lot of money for veterinary blood tests so it gets done quickly. In all likelihood the blood tests will be run through the machines the same day you give the blood sample (for the most common tests)...it's all the faffing about with computer systems that takes the time.

Broomsticklady

1,095 posts

204 months

Thursday 10th June 2010
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Your mind is the cruelest 'organ' in the body - it does horrible things to you and however much you try to distract it, it persists in coming back to where it was. I've tried lots of things, none are great at keeping it from where it wants to go but one of the best I've found is to visualise a road traffic STOP sign - it can bring you to with a bit of a jerk but for me it's one of the most effective ways of stopping the descent into black holes.

Best of luck and thoughts are with you

drivin_me_nuts

Original Poster:

17,949 posts

210 months

Friday 11th June 2010
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Well it's early in the morning and after a few hours of sleep, here's me banging away on the internet to a world full of strangers because I can;t sleep more than a handful of hours. So much seems daunting and so much seems unanswerable. Wednesday seems to be the day for us, but already we are aware enough to know between the lines that it's not looking great. Every day, step by step, but what ever happens I will be with her every day for the rest of my life.

Funny, life turns on a sixpence. So much potential, so much to do, so much good stuff going on, so many plans and now it comes to a life of waiting for the one thing in my life, the most important thing of all to have the right outcome.

Forgive the early morning ramblings, life at this moment has taken on a preciousness that this time last week spanned decades.

edit: does anyone know if you can get married at short notice?

Edited by drivin_me_nuts on Friday 11th June 07:18

Lois

14,706 posts

251 months

Friday 11th June 2010
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Sorry to hear this, I know far to well the pain of waiting for the unknown.

Re:marriage, speak to your local registry office and they'll be able to tell you when there are slots and also how much notice you need to give. I'm sure it's at least 2 weeks.

Cara van Man

29,977 posts

250 months

Friday 11th June 2010
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fk. I hope all works out for you. Nothing more to add. Good luck.

tonyvid

9,869 posts

242 months

Friday 11th June 2010
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Crikey. Fingers crossed for you both - after helping all those around you deal with traumatic issues it doesn't really help when things are going on right next to you frown My thoughts are with you mate.

Bill

52,479 posts

254 months

Friday 11th June 2010
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frown

Lois said:
Re:marriage, speak to your local registry office and they'll be able to tell you when there are slots and also how much notice you need to give. I'm sure it's at least 2 weeks.
According to this it's 16 days. I thought Scotland didn't require the delay (hence Gretna Green) but again that seems to be due to historic age issues (ie under 18 without parental consent).


Jasandjules

69,825 posts

228 months

Friday 11th June 2010
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I wish there was more I could say or do to help. But I wish you and your wife all the best.

Dan_1981

17,352 posts

198 months

Friday 11th June 2010
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Good Luck.

Thats all I can offer.

sonic_2k_uk

4,007 posts

206 months

Friday 11th June 2010
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Jasandjules said:
I wish there was more I could say or do to help. But I wish you and your wife all the best.
+1 frown

drivin_me_nuts

Original Poster:

17,949 posts

210 months

Friday 11th June 2010
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good news, she comes home today - had me in tears on the phone to her. Nothing more to be said or done until the big meet on Wednesday. So much to sort out, so much to say and do. Life turns on a sixpence. Today I feel on top of the world like nothiing is wrong - please let every day be like today.

Thanks for all your kind words, it means so very much, it really does.

Dan_1981

17,352 posts

198 months

Friday 11th June 2010
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Just read your post in the "amazing people" thread.

Sounds like a top lady!

Good Luck once again!

tonyvid

9,869 posts

242 months

Friday 11th June 2010
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to you both







In a PH non-ghey sort of way!

lawrence567

7,507 posts

189 months

Friday 11th June 2010
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My thoughts are with you.

Cara van Man

29,977 posts

250 months

Friday 11th June 2010
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drivin_me_nuts said:
good news, she comes home today - had me in tears on the phone to her. Nothing more to be said or done until the big meet on Wednesday. So much to sort out, so much to say and do. Life turns on a sixpence. Today I feel on top of the world like nothiing is wrong - please let every day be like today.

Thanks for all your kind words, it means so very much, it really does.
Hang in there....if you need to vent, i'll keep an eye out for messages.

NiceCupOfTea

25,280 posts

250 months

Friday 11th June 2010
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Hope you get some good news soon chap.