Difficulty getting pregnant....
Discussion
Wife and I have been trying for about seven months now with no joy.
I know at our age 27/28 a GP will just tell us to keep trying rather than test us for problems.
Looking at buying Pregnacare and Wellman conception tablets to see if they help.
Any other tips?
Every month that goes by, it gets harder and harder (no pun intended) to deal with no postive result.
I know at our age 27/28 a GP will just tell us to keep trying rather than test us for problems.
Looking at buying Pregnacare and Wellman conception tablets to see if they help.
Any other tips?
Every month that goes by, it gets harder and harder (no pun intended) to deal with no postive result.
We tried for years. It can get so depressing but hang in there. The trick is to try and forget about it - yes, do the tablets, etc but remain chilled. I honestly think that getting worked up and stressed caused more of a delay!
We have an 11 year gap from the middle child to the youngest, we tried for quite some time but got there in the end.
good luck.
We have an 11 year gap from the middle child to the youngest, we tried for quite some time but got there in the end.
good luck.
Edited by Leebo77 on Monday 2nd August 17:30
MKnight702 said:
Very brave posting here, but anyway.
If your wife's cycle is pretty regular, try hitting days 13-15 after the start of her period, that should be when she is most fertile IIRC. (Worked for us).
If your wife's cycle is pretty regular, try hitting days 13-15 after the start of her period, that should be when she is most fertile IIRC. (Worked for us).
I find the Health forum seems to be a little more sensitive....The Lounge on the other hand....
Yeah, we have the calendar out each month and using the ovulation sticks and stuff. Just not getting it right!
As this is Pistonheads, expect people to offer their services.
Leebo77 said:
stressed
This is the key thing, I understand. Try to reduce your general levels of stress plus being worried that there's something wrong with you both. There are probably natural supplements you can take (well, there are but I can't for the life of me remember what they're called).Similar situation here, the Mrs is getting properly annoyed now as we have been trying for a year and still nothing. Our doctors has referred me for a semen analysis, which came back reasonable but not brilliant. The situation isn't helped by the fact that her friends are falling pregnant, my Brother in Law has a 7 month old, her best friend is pregnant and due soon.
So what advice can the collective minds give to improve the chances, we are already tracking fertility, having regular sex etc, do well man tablets help?
So what advice can the collective minds give to improve the chances, we are already tracking fertility, having regular sex etc, do well man tablets help?
I had the same thing. I was only 22 and the GP refused to see me until i lied and said we had been trying for 2 years to conceive. We went forward onto all of the tablets/operations to investigate etc. As it turned out i have twisted tubes and did need ivf to conceive. If i had waited as long as they wanted to i would have ended up down the same road but another 2 years later.
In your situation i would give it another 3 months of trying and do as much as possible to conceive. Have sex on day 10 of her cycle, so that the sperm is ready in the womb before the egg is released and then continue every 24/48 hours until day 16. She can raise her legs afterwards, as it helps the sperm travel further into the womb. Cut out caffeine/alcohol and get plenty of sleep to keep your/her body rested. Not hot baths either and loose boxer shorts for you too. Having sex on your side as spoons is a good position too - they recommended it at the ivf clinic and even made me lay that way after the eggs were implanted back in to me.
Hope it all goes well. I know it isnt easy, but being stressed will make it so much more difficult. Give yourselves a limit as to when you will see a GP, then at least you know when the wondering will begin to stop. Usually the first stage there is some hormone tests for your missus to make sure she is making eggs etc and a sperm test for you. After that it varies. I was given hormones drugs to increase egg production. Others go straight to a laporoscopy to check her tubes. Take each stage as it comes. Feel free to pm me if you want more info.
And never believe it cant happen. Im totally infertile apparently, yet im now 12 weeks pregnant somehow
In your situation i would give it another 3 months of trying and do as much as possible to conceive. Have sex on day 10 of her cycle, so that the sperm is ready in the womb before the egg is released and then continue every 24/48 hours until day 16. She can raise her legs afterwards, as it helps the sperm travel further into the womb. Cut out caffeine/alcohol and get plenty of sleep to keep your/her body rested. Not hot baths either and loose boxer shorts for you too. Having sex on your side as spoons is a good position too - they recommended it at the ivf clinic and even made me lay that way after the eggs were implanted back in to me.
Hope it all goes well. I know it isnt easy, but being stressed will make it so much more difficult. Give yourselves a limit as to when you will see a GP, then at least you know when the wondering will begin to stop. Usually the first stage there is some hormone tests for your missus to make sure she is making eggs etc and a sperm test for you. After that it varies. I was given hormones drugs to increase egg production. Others go straight to a laporoscopy to check her tubes. Take each stage as it comes. Feel free to pm me if you want more info.
And never believe it cant happen. Im totally infertile apparently, yet im now 12 weeks pregnant somehow
Edited by bluto on Monday 2nd August 19:11
we tried for 8 months and had no luck. We had a schedule of doctors and hospital visits all arranged to carry out the tests including a dye test for her. Then the period was missed and she was pregnant. I don't know if it is coincidence but it was the first month of trying that I hadn't smoked.
Last week we were told that she had a blighted ovum and would more than likely miscarry or have it aborted. Yesterday we found out that our fetus/embryo/blob is bloody good at hiding and I heard the heart beat for the first time!!!!!
So, don't give up no matter what is thrown at you.
Last week we were told that she had a blighted ovum and would more than likely miscarry or have it aborted. Yesterday we found out that our fetus/embryo/blob is bloody good at hiding and I heard the heart beat for the first time!!!!!
So, don't give up no matter what is thrown at you.
use murphys law to your advantage!
stop trying and take out a massive credit agreement on a ferrari or perhaps a huge mortgage so you couldnt possibly afford kids.
She'll be pregnant after you've made the first payment.
On a serious note I've got friends that tried for years, both went to private fertility clinic for tests and were both as healthy as can be, the clinic even refused to provide any fertility treatment to them as there was nothing wrong with them.
They eased off on trying so hard (keep ovulation calendars, tests, taking temperatures etc) and 8 weeks later she was up the duff!!
The worst outcome here is you two get stressed and argue over something neither of you can control.
My advice would be to take a conception holiday for a month or two then start trying again, they do say being stressed does not help conception, and it sounds like you're both (understandably of course) getting quite upset about it.
Good luck.
stop trying and take out a massive credit agreement on a ferrari or perhaps a huge mortgage so you couldnt possibly afford kids.
She'll be pregnant after you've made the first payment.
On a serious note I've got friends that tried for years, both went to private fertility clinic for tests and were both as healthy as can be, the clinic even refused to provide any fertility treatment to them as there was nothing wrong with them.
They eased off on trying so hard (keep ovulation calendars, tests, taking temperatures etc) and 8 weeks later she was up the duff!!
The worst outcome here is you two get stressed and argue over something neither of you can control.
My advice would be to take a conception holiday for a month or two then start trying again, they do say being stressed does not help conception, and it sounds like you're both (understandably of course) getting quite upset about it.
Good luck.
henrycrun said:
The doggy position is more favourable for conception (seriously)
Also any where the sperm won't flow out, hence why ladies put a pillow under their hips after coitus?OP, eat healthy and as someone said cut out booze/fags if you haven't already.
http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Semen_quality#Chemica...
Cola reduces it by 30%, never knew that
I have read that you need to get rid of the dead sperm (if you have not done much for the last few days), looking at the next bit, that seems to back it up.
http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Semen_quality#Last_ej...
Seems sex once a day is best maximising sperm it seems.
This is just the beginning of a long, stressful and expensive journey i'm afraid.
People always quote friends of friends that tried for years, went to the ivf clinic and then fell pregnant on way in. For every lucky one like that i bet there's 10 that aren't.
Go see your gp. Lie and say you have been trying for 18months, get the ball rolling as it's not a quick process by any means.
I speak from experience. 1st ivf cycle failed, 2nd one worked (gorgeous 18m old girl) and just started the process of having frozen jobbies put back.
Good luck.
People always quote friends of friends that tried for years, went to the ivf clinic and then fell pregnant on way in. For every lucky one like that i bet there's 10 that aren't.
Go see your gp. Lie and say you have been trying for 18months, get the ball rolling as it's not a quick process by any means.
I speak from experience. 1st ivf cycle failed, 2nd one worked (gorgeous 18m old girl) and just started the process of having frozen jobbies put back.
Good luck.
anonymous said:
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Not yet. Part of me is scared to, mainly because if I turn out fine my wife will jump to the conclusion that something terminal is wrong with her....
We don't drink much, neither of us smoke. We eat ok and we are not fat.
Realised it could be worse though, as a friend of ours (who it transpired had been trying for a year - we of course assumed it took them one day) who told us last week she was pregnant, had a scan which revealed no heartbeat
We have agreed to keep plugging away (!) until we get to the year point, then we are going to get checked out if no joy.
Thank you all for the useful responses to what is a pretty candid (but the most natural) subject!
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